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my boy :/
I've been talking to a fellow guy for a year and a half, and even though we're not dating yet, we've decided to wait until i'm in the high school, so that not seeing each other wouldn't be a problem, (I just got out of 8th, and i'm 14. I'm the oldest in my class, and He's 15). Well, we've been talking a lot about waiting, and we've decided that we see each other all the time now that it's summer, why should we wait. Now for the real question.. I've been thinking a lot about sex, and I know that i'm only 14, but i really do love this boy.. and I want to loose it to the boy i love(and i've already thought about the different kinds of condoms and birth control). i've never been fingered, but i have given hand jobs. i wanted to wait until the right guy to take bigger steps, and my boy is definately the right boy. We are very open about our sexual relationship, seeing as he asked me to shave, and I asked him the same thing. 1. I'm wondering if this is a good thing? and 2. does it hurt?
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Well, I honestly think you're too young to be thinking about sex... but if you're sure then no one can stop you, so I might as well give the best advice I can. That being said...
Your first question -- is this a good thing? I'm not sure if you're asking if it's a good idea to do more things with this guy, but that's what I'm assuming you mean. Anyway, if you're 100% sure that you are ready and you are not being pressured to do something you're not sure about, then yes, it can be a good thing. I just want you to make sure that you are completely ready to do this, and that you aren't going to regret it afterwards. Only you can decide if YOU think it's a good idea.
As far as your second question... the answer is sometimes. It all just depends on the girl (and the guy). I'm willing to bet that unless you're very sporty and active, your hymen is still intact, which means that there will probably be a little bit of blood (which is nothing bad or nothing to worry about. As far as pain goes, like I said, it depends. If it does hurt, it will probably be a very sharp pain but only for a second, until your body gets acclamated. A woman's body is made to stretch to accomodate a man's body, so it won't hurt for very long.
All that being said, please make sure that you use a condom when and if you choose to have sex with this boy. I'm sure you'll regret it if you don't at least take that step to protect yourself.
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