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Hello,
I have been in a relationship for 4 years and things aren't going so good and they haven't for quite sometime now. After repeating myself for the past 2 years that things need to change or I'm leaving I started giving him a bit of a cold shoulder. One night I went out with a couple of my girl friends that he knew and he knew where I was and he got really upset and after telling me that he hopes all of them "backstab" me he texted "do you bro" I took that as things are over. Couple weeks after I saw someone has been always in my life and 5 years ago we almost dated but we were still young and made a couple mistakes. well the feelings were still very present for the both of us and we kinda started talking everyday and we would see eachother after work and we would go out. And it was like we were still the best friends we always were but the chemistry was also there. I never allowed myself to really see him like that before because I had "the boyfriend" and thought it was wrong of me but now things were different. I love having this guy around. I can be myself and he wont judge me, I feel really protected around him, we can discuss anything, We are very honest with eachother I feel like a legit princess. We had the same class in highschool and the other day I was telling him how I love the way he looks at me and he told me that the way he looks at me hasn't changed since highschool. So things with him couldn't be more perfect.
Now! My boyfriend after not talking to me for almost a month and again to me that means we are pretty done, Realized what he has lost and has changed completely who he was. Hes very lovey dovey and makes sure to say all the right things, but he doesn't realize that now its too late. I do feel really bad that ive lost feelings for him over the years because of past petty arguments (everyday) and double standards and I would love to have things go back to how they once were but I cant.
My question now is. Do I put my time and effort into someone kinda new (relationship wise) or do I invest my time trying to fix something of almost 4 years.
I am 23 years old btw!
Thank you in advance. (link)
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on past, may want give it go, let back in life even as friends know i'd do anything get a dude back in my life. but anyway on current, may want end it, for it should been okay for you go with his friends. talk him about these feelings and make a decision.
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I am a 25 yr-old female and have been with my partner for over 8 years now. My family knows that we are together and are very accepting of us, which I am very grateful for. However, she has still not told her parents that we are together, despite how long it has been. We both pretty much know that her parents know, but it has never really been confirmed with them. I just want my girlfriend to outwardly tell them we are in a relationship. I know this sounds really selfish because coming out is such a difficult thing to do, especially to your parents, but I just want to know if her parents would truly accept me and treat me the same knowing I was in a relationship with their daughter. I don't know if that really makes sense. But do you think it is wrong for me to ask my girlfriend to basically come out to her parents? I feel terrible, but at the same time I am tired of hearing her say she will tell her parents, and she never does. This has been going on for years, and I have tried to be very patient since I know coming out is hard, but it's also hard for me to stay in the closet in front of her family. I'm not really sure what to do. (link)
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well, i suggest keep talking about this issue. learned hardway that being a secret is a bad thing, can cause future hurt and so on. i wouldnt breakup with her unless he refuses to ever come out. it may be hard for her cause she may have strict parents, reassure her itll be okay that you got her back and offer to tell her parents with her. 8 years is long time
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I'm stuck in a terrible situation and I guess I'd just like some perspective...
I am in love with a coworker. We work great together and we have an amazing time when he's actually present. And he's an amazing, funny, kind, person. The problem is that he's in love with this other girl....
And she doesnt like him like that, but hes convinced he can get her.
By the way he knows I like him, he says that he likes me too but that since we work together we shouldnt mix business with pleasure etc which to me is a complete excuse. I know its because he might think im awesome but he doesnt like me like that. I understand that. He is in love with this other girl. Its a viicous cycle.
Anyway, my problem here and my question is, whenever this girl writes him, which she does quite often, he dissapears into his phone. And i know when she does bcause he starts texting all oblivious of anything going on in the office and smiling like an idiot. And ignoring me. Were partners we work on projects together so were together most of the day.
My problem is not that he texts her its that whenever he does he ignores anything and everything i say, and i hate seeing it it bothers me.
how can istop feeling this? (link)
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well i know it is hard, but may want move on slowly. take steps to, like put away reminders know he is missing out and you can distance yourself from him and tell him why. don't want depress emfi does care about you, but give yourself time to heal from heartache. and on him liking another girl is a big red flag. he is not gonna change any time soon, so best for you try find someone else to give your heart to which is hard i know.
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I broke up with my boyfriend of two years this past beginning of summer though we were together my sophomore, junior, and senior year with a small breakup in between. When we broke up I handled it very maturely and nicely - more than I should have been but I wanted to leave it on good terms because I genuinely care about him as a person and I told him that and explained everything for why I felt as I did. The main reason I did this was because I didn't want to leave something out in this way or handle it with anger that would make me want to reach out and get "closure." I've already realized that's pointless and stupid. So we talked it through and he was hysterical and so upset but I still went through with it because I know he's not right for me and he didn't treat me right and I deserve better. We havent seen each other since amazingly even though we live in the same town very close and go to school together. I reached out to him once for his bday which was four and half months later just to say happy birthday and hope youre doing well. Since then I hadn't talked to him and I could tell from his response that he missed me and still cared. That was the first and only time I've ever reached out to him because I went cold turkey which I don't regret. I heard from him two months later for Christmas which I was very surprised about and then the following month for my birthday which I woke up to a text from him. He repeatedly said hope your doing well, i'll always be here if you need me, hopefully i'll speak to you again, i'll see you when I see you, and if you ever need to talk and I know him too well that this is his way of saying I miss you and I want you back but is too scared to say it because I dumped him. Not that any of this matters because I do NOT want to get back with him at all i've moved and am happy. But I wonder is it so weird to ask to meet up for coffee and just chat? I mean he was a big part of my life for so long and my best friend. Not about the past or anything I dont need any answers about anything Ive come to terms with it all but I still genuinely care about him as a person. I dont want to be friends cause I know that would give him the wrong impression. Is it unrealistic to catch up with an ex? I've been having this thought of catching up just for the hell of it for like ever. Should I just forget about it? I know he would say yes but im not sure if it would do more harm than good... I dont love him anymore but I still care and I know he does too maybe more than me. Is it dumb to ask to meet up for coffee after so long or no? (link)
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you should give him a chance, to be friends and meet up for coffee or something. and make it clear in a very nice way that you dont have those feelings, but do care about him as a person to him and not through a relative i say that cause a guy did this to me, but we end up being friends again and i move on to a better relationship and need that closure myself.
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I have been with my husband for 19 years. I'm 35. We have two kids (5&9). He is a great guy, wonderful father and tries his best to treat me well. The truth is, I have lost all the fire with him for the past 5 years. I don't think we would be together if it wasn't for our kids. We have grown apart. I do not want to be intimate with him at all. He doesn't feel the same way. We are two different people. Here us a twist: a guy who I have always called "the one who got away" has randomly appeared in my life! I'm ignoring the fact that his makes me FEEL SOMETHING again to try to address what to do with my marriage. Um losing sleep, I'm completely ridden with anxiety all the time about what divorce would mean for my kids. (link)
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honestly dont ruin a good thing cause a guy who care about is back.he and you did not get together for reason but friendship with the guy may be a option. try counseling with significant other and self. know you married your husband for a reason, just try remember why. if was cause got pregnant, then i'd say leave after talking and divorcing your hubby. but if it was love i say try salvage it the best can and remind yourself the quirks you dont like about this guy. i have to do with my bf, and it works.
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so i was in a long distance relation but we broke up after 3 months and i tried to fix the problem but she just wouldn't even try and think about it and i tried texting her and she was reading those texts but not replying to any of them and she'd just say "idk what to say"
and after a while she said that i "spam" her with texts but all i sent was 3 texts telling how i feel about her and she called it "spam" and it hurt me a lot and so i blocked her on social media and also in the multiplayer game that we met ! . it's really hard for me to give up on her and i just love her a lot and at this point i'm just hurt a lot and thinking about her MOST of the time and idk what to do....
i'm thinking of reconnecting with her (i know i'm dumb but i just love her a lot) and i don't know whether this is the right thing to do....
i'm thinking of texting her in the game we met
so yea as i said before i'm just confused and don't know what to do that's why i'm asking for your help
Thank you for taking your time in reading this
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been there with a guy named josiah cox. i loved him and havent been able loved anyone else in the same way. best tell her one last time, that also want that relationship with her and if she shoots you down, try try move on and love again or like someone again, which is what i am doing though would go back to him if my bf n i broke up. hope this helps and comforts you. but sounds like you deserve better.
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I'll try to make this short. Ive been dating this guy for 4 months now and things have been great. We get along well, shares similar interests, and don't have too many disagreements. He's met my parents and I've met his (i feel as if we could have waited on this but he was so persistent about it) and I often spend time around him and his friends vice versa. The problem is that although we do everything any normal 20 something couple would do, he still will not consider us to be boyfriend and girlfriend. He said that he wants a relationship with me but wanted to wait it out. At first I was okay with this, but I increasingly grew to be more annoyed because it didn't really make sense to me. Especially given all of the things I have done for him that most girls wouldn't do unless the relationship had some seriousness to it. Either way I continued to put my own feelings to the back burner and just accepted that he'll come around. However I recently I found out that he had been on the dating app Tinder just casually checking out girls. I established that he hadn't actually met up with anyone nor took a number, but I was hurt because we both agreed to only seeing each other. With this I told him I was done and that I couldn't handle this situationship anymore and that these actions showed the real reason as to why he didn't want to be exclusive. After some time he came to me saying he didn't want to lose me and that if I gave him until May ( 1.5 months from now) that he'd be ready for us to take it to the next level. I agreed with this because I love him (he tells me he loves me daily) and don't want to lose him, but I struggle with whether or not I should continue to wait. Very confused. (link)
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well, when i was 16, i had a four year sitautionship. once we had kissed had sex he left me. his name was Josiah cox, and was a good guy. still heartbroken cause i waited for him and even asked him out. he did not want a relationship yet, and yet had all the signs of loving me back. best to do what your heart says and know its risky, to wait on a guy and suppose be the other way around. i let someone new end who treats me better, but am insecure cause of Josiah. in my opinion best to move on before you get seriously hurt like i did.
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what can I do to please my girlfriend
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you can get her a thoughtful gift =)
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Im 17 yr old girl, in Sep met a boy in a group of mates I know at a festival. First day he kept looking/smiling at me, laughing&joking with me. Spent the day with him&2 others, we got on so well. That night my mates went to bed but I wasnt tired so went to his group&they said they loved me being there, mostly him. Walked me back to my tent&got close to me until another guy came with us. Rest of weekend paid most attention to me, would hug me&noone else, talk to me first&shout for me not my mates&felt like he liked me but chance never arose to get with him. The last day I went to say bye he chanted my name then hugged me so big&said ‘feel like ive known you forever’. At this point I like him more than a usual crush. Week after we were at separate parties but met in town&acted the same as at the fest. 2 weeks after we were at the same party&greeted me with a massive hug, danced/joked/talked all night&got on even better THEN saw him kiss a girl im friendly with&his mate says hes fancied her for a bit. We walk to town after&us 2 are behind the group and hes all jokey, tries to climb a fence but gets stuck so I help him down then he grabs my hand tight&makes me run then hugs me big by my house. Next party a group of us walk there he asks me to detour with him&buy beer, another girl hes very good mates with comes too but not the one he may like. Me&him talk on the way about future plans&he doesnt talk to the girl hes good friends with(not rude we just had lots to say to eachother and were excited).We share our beer by taking one sip each&feeding eachother instead of splitting the pack. Sleep at the same house&in the morn reminds me of our plans together&wants them to happen. Everytime I see him we speak less though&hes getting more with the other girl&it upsets me. Sat night his mate tells me how we were best friends&inseperable and got me thinking about if he couldve liked me or still does? Has anyone been in a situation like this&it worked out with you and the person? (link)
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my guess is he is leading one of you on. how long has the other been in the pic? might be best to move on or let it be known with words that you want go on a date with him or something. hope this helps if not i am sorry. had a guy i liked for long time,was similar to your sitaution, and turned out had a girl with baby on way from another guy but still stayed with her over me. it still stings, but know it will get better and will find better as i have a bf now and he treats me good. you will find you a better guy.
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How can I forget the girl I love the most? (link)
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telling you from a girls prospective, you wont forget her, but can cope. put away reminders and keep busy, think of other things when she comes mind. take it as a lesson learned if you know there is no way to getting back with or at all with her. know i been trying forget a guy, been two years still havent. learned to accept that there will always be a part of me that loves josiah, the guy, but have a bf now and he treats me better. anyway you will find better, just let yourself heal and know God knows what he is doing for your best interest.
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Something really weird happend and i wouldnt say im overthinking it, cause i think anyone else in my position would think so much about this. Me and my ex broke up 6 months ago. We had a really nasty break up, he lied to me, so i broke up with him-- and when things calmed down after a while he told me to forget about him completely and i guess i hurt his ego. Anyway- its been months, hes blocked me off of everything and hasnt tried to ONCE unblock me to see what im up to. I see him every now and then because i am a custumor at his store and he acts like i dont even exist. Looks at me every now and then but nothing i try to pay attention to so that i dont think so much about it. So to me, im completely convinced that he hates me and im off his mind because of the way he acts and the things he does. Now, yestereday i was asleep and wake up and find a missed call at 1 in the morning. So when i got up, i looked it up on truecaller and found that it has no number-- so i saved the number to see who it could be on whatsapp and found that its his mothers picture. Which means its his mothers number. We used to contacct eachother from his moms phone when his phone would be off at home or something if we wanted to talk, but when we broke up i deleted the number because it had 1 whatsapp conversation we both had at night and i didnt wanna look at it anymore. I can't remember the number because i didnt really pay attention to it at the time i just saved it and deleted it when we broke up. His mom doesnt know me and i dont know her, so i highly doubt its her calling me. I did think to myself that maybe hes calling to hear my voice then hang up-- but why would he make it so obvious and try from his moms phone? Maybe he thought i forgot the number and deleted it or what? We barely kept contact on it so im assuming he thinks i forgot.. but isnt that weird? And now im trying to call the number back and its giving me a busy tone... which means he realized i tried calling back and put me on the block list. WHY is he doing this? or maybe hes not? Please if your going to write something like "who cares, hes your ex, refrain from writing on this post because thats not what i wanna hear because i ALREADY know that. Im just confused that after 6 months i would get a call from his moms phone and be blocked off of it. Especially that he doesnt have the decency to view my stuff from his account on social media, hence why he still has me blocked everywhere. What do you guys think? IF your an immature guy (because thats really who is ) how would you view this type of situation? (link)
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had something similar happen to me and could be male depression or he is just an jerk and hurting you back, possibly. best move on as hard as it is and let go let yourself heal. you will find a better guy i promise. best delete that message and put away any reminders of him. nothing you did it is just him. remind yourself the flaws when comes mind and think of other things and keep busy have an girls night out too.
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My whole life I have suffered with this absurd issue where I sabotage every relationship I'm sharing with a guy because of my inability to feel good enough and also that happiness is crazy weird to me (I battle a terrifying case of cherophobia).
I'm dating the most perfect guy ever. He's wonderful and does absolutely everything right, which I cannot say about the past guys in my life. But every little thing he does, I act upset about it (even though I'm truthfully not), and I just hold a grudge on him. And I just realized that deep down, I'm hoping he'll break up with me, but he never does. So I continuously find reasons to be pissed off at him (even when I'm genuinely not angry at him at all, not even in the least bit).
I don't know what to do. Any advice? (link)
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give him a chance or tell him the truth that want end it in a nice way
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I met a man online recently and had a lovely first date with him. I couldn't believe how intelligent and kind and respectful he was. Even though he isn't really my usual type, I found myself very drawn to him. He even waited with me while I got into a taxi, and I found myself thinking that I had somehow met a true gentleman.
Our second date, a few days later, was even better. We spent upwards of seven hours (!) together, eating, drinking and talking, and both commented on how unlike a second date it felt. He said we had waded into conversation that was "six month relationship" territory -- "in a good way!" -- and that he couldn't believe how comfortable he felt. I confessed that I hadn't been so charmed and attracted to someone in a long time, and that it made me nervous.
He held my hand as we walked around, talking about what we would do on our next date. As we headed to the subway he said he couldn't resist anymore and smothered me with warm kisses and groping hands. It wasn't something I would normally allow on a second date, but I have to admit it was really exciting -- and what the hell, we were happy and connected and it seemed all but certain that this was really going somewhere.
The next day, I expected a quick note from him just to say hi or "thanks for a great afternoon," as this is pretty typical guy dating etiquette. When I hadn't gotten one by dinnertime, I went out on a limb and wrote him myself -- a short, cute text saying that I couldn't stop thinking about making out in the rain. When I still hadn't heard back by midnight, I began to worry.
It's now two full days later and I still haven't heard a peep from him. NOTHING. We had made plans to see each other next weekend, but I'm becoming pretty convinced that he has simply disappeared and wants nothing to do with me. After all, when you don't hear from a guy, it's because he's "just not that into you," right?
I'm so hurt and confused. What did I do wrong? What changed, and how did it happen so fast? It has been a long time since I let myself feel hopeful about a man, and this really stings. Can you please help me shed some light on this situation? (link)
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i do not know what going on but that is confusing best confront him and ask if the next date is still on that should not of scared him off.
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