|
Super Confused - Start New or Renew Old
Hello,
I have been in a relationship for 4 years and things aren't going so good and they haven't for quite sometime now. After repeating myself for the past 2 years that things need to change or I'm leaving I started giving him a bit of a cold shoulder. One night I went out with a couple of my girl friends that he knew and he knew where I was and he got really upset and after telling me that he hopes all of them "backstab" me he texted "do you bro" I took that as things are over. Couple weeks after I saw someone has been always in my life and 5 years ago we almost dated but we were still young and made a couple mistakes. well the feelings were still very present for the both of us and we kinda started talking everyday and we would see eachother after work and we would go out. And it was like we were still the best friends we always were but the chemistry was also there. I never allowed myself to really see him like that before because I had "the boyfriend" and thought it was wrong of me but now things were different. I love having this guy around. I can be myself and he wont judge me, I feel really protected around him, we can discuss anything, We are very honest with eachother I feel like a legit princess. We had the same class in highschool and the other day I was telling him how I love the way he looks at me and he told me that the way he looks at me hasn't changed since highschool. So things with him couldn't be more perfect.
Now! My boyfriend after not talking to me for almost a month and again to me that means we are pretty done, Realized what he has lost and has changed completely who he was. Hes very lovey dovey and makes sure to say all the right things, but he doesn't realize that now its too late. I do feel really bad that ive lost feelings for him over the years because of past petty arguments (everyday) and double standards and I would love to have things go back to how they once were but I cant.
My question now is. Do I put my time and effort into someone kinda new (relationship wise) or do I invest my time trying to fix something of almost 4 years.
I am 23 years old btw!
Thank you in advance.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
on past, may want give it go, let back in life even as friends know i'd do anything get a dude back in my life. but anyway on current, may want end it, for it should been okay for you go with his friends. talk him about these feelings and make a decision.
]
The answer is simple. If you're losing feelings for your bf of 4 years and you know this old friend of yours is loving and caring and you like him too, then choose him. It's not like you're giving up on the relationship or something. Sometimes you just know it when it's time to let go and move on to something that feels more right. What does make you feel more right? Answer that question and you have your solution to this dilemma.
]
More Questions: |