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Guy Friends Keep Crushing on Me
19/F
When I was younger I mostly got along with an even mixture of boys and girls as friends but for some reason whenever I have a guy friend that is really close to me they always develop feelings for me eventually which makes me extremely uncomfortable. I've had four really close guy friends my whole life. I'm talking about guys I had known for years at a time and each of them eventually told me that they had feelings for me (not all at once or anything like that, they didn't know each other) and I always feel bad and uncomfortable because I have to turn them all down. Now they all still wanted to be my friend but it just became really awkward for me because after the fact I started to notice more things that they would do that I interpreted as friendly before that I was only just realizing were romantic gestures or they always mentioned it when someone asked if they liked anyone so I was always reminded of it. Honestly it's gotten to the point where I don't feel totally comfortable making friends with guys anymore because the only guy friends I had that didn't say they liked me were already in devoted relationships. I don't mean for that to sound arrogant either because I honestly don't understand why that keeps happening in the first place. I know that platonic relationships are possible with anyone, I specifically seek them out because I'm not looking for a romantic relationship right now but no matter what just when I'm getting comfortable with a guy friend he drops a bomb on me. In fact the other day I was hanging out with a guy I had met on campus. It wasn't a date or anything, we were walking with a larger group of friends and we just happened to walk slower than they did. My cousin noticed us and asked me where I was going and I told him we were coming back from a walk and I realized that he was asking because he thought we had gone out. My cousin left a little bit after and then out of nowhere the guy says he'll walk me back to my room and makes a joke about marrying me. I felt really uncomfortable and didn't know what to do, so I just kind of left really awkwardly and I've been avoiding him since then. I really don't know what to do anymore because I feel really uncomfortable like my skin is crawling and I can't take this again.
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If it makes you uncomfortable that they want to hang and be friends after a marriage proposal or vow of love, you need to say something.
If your hetero but dont feel that phermone connection that tells you theres romantic chemistry between you two, you have to make this cleard cus the guys may be thinking that after time has passed that like them, you might feel something.
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Thats true but it would be only the kind of love for a family member or friend, not the kind for a romantic situation. This happens to folks of all ages and needs to happen, that a person is told.
So you decide at what point you make this clear because if you don't feel it, it wont happen cus we can not change our pheremones to match.
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