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im girl 17, im in 3rd year in high school... i told my classmate(boy) who is also my crush that i like him, in the concrete i gave him a note, saying i like him bc , i felt really relieved after i told him...two days later, i asked him to talk about it bc he didnt give any respond and i wanted to how he feels , during school (we didnt study , we just played games etc), i asked him if we could go and talk somewhere private , he said it is nice that i told him about my feelings for him, he repeated it 5 more times :D :D, he also told me that he know how hard it must´ve been for me to hide my feelings from him... then he said he doesnt have time for relationship bc he has activites besides school (he plays guitar, he dances)...and also he told me he firstly wants to develop more spiritually..(if that makes sense) bc we go to catholic church , ..and then he hugged me saying that we should continue to be friends and he told not to act nervous before him,
i deleted him from my friends on fb during summer holidays bc i was always checking if he is online...now is new school year and he found out i removed him from my friends on fb, and he texted me why i did that, and if he did something wrong he is sorry , i didnt answear, i told him in person i did it bc it hurts me and that i dont want to be friends, and he said it´s ok, i thought it would hurt less, but it hurts me more , i just dont know what to do ? i see him every day at school, we dont talk to each other, and it hurts me so much , what should i do ? he also sent me friend request on fb but i havent accept it yet, i would want to but i dont know if i should...should i ?...i dont know why but he keeps looking at me but i try to avoid eye contact with him
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Hey,
he may not be interested in persuing more than just a friendship with you but it doesn't sound like he wants to stop being friends. I'm sure you're hurt because it's not always easy accepting that someone you like may not like you back, but we can't force it. If you feel you need some time away from this guy in order to sort out your feelings, it's okay to let him know that.
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 8 months. when we first started dating he was this sweet guy that would never hurt me. he was probably the best thing i thought could have thought ever happened to me. I did see his jealousy and the way he would get mad. He was very agressive, but i just didnt think about it and i led it slide because nothing crazy had happened. Overtime things started to change, till the point he would scream at me, start punching things, he would verbally abuse me, throw things in my face abut my past (bad things that happened to me). He once grabbed me really hard from my neck, threw me on the bed on another occasion. Its getting out of control, aside from everything hes so immature, and rude. I am so stuck and inlove. I have never seen myself like this over any man. I need help. I dont know how to walk out of this situation, my family loves him especially my mom and shes always blaming me for everything. Shes always accusing me of treating him bad and being the bad one in the relationship. I need help on the right way to leave him. he is manipulating me and mind fucking me in every situaton and i dont know what to do. PLease dont tell me im being stupid, cause i already know that. i need some support. im scared that one day things will get worst and he will slap me or punch me or do something worst to me. i wish he could change. he acts like he doesnt even care about the relationship. (link)
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Hey love,
I'll go straight to the point on this one.
Cut this man out of your life, for GOOD!
If and when you do which I strongly encourage to because I KNOW that's the best solution for anyone in these types of situations (which I can honeslty say I was in something somewhat similiar to this.)
It's going to be Hard at first, you're going to think about him constantly, you're going to have an ache in your heart, you may even miss him in a sick way, you're mind is going to tell you to go back, but don't ever go back.
Don't worry about what your friends or family think, you are your only concern. Noone is going to understand or know and feel the real details of your relationship except for you.
But after you give it time, the pain will go away and you'll realize you did the right decision by letting this man go. Time Heals Wounds.
If he's treating you this bad, it does not ever get better. Even if one day it seems he's changed, or nicer, it doesn't last.
You deserve someone who treats you right. Noone deserves to go through this type of all. It isn't meant to be.
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Female, 15
I am part of a pretty close knit group of about 7 people. We spend every recess and lunch together and we catch up frequently. We always are talking on our group chat and sharing things in our Facebook group. They're all my best friends. However, because we're all growing, our group isn't what it used to be. People are finding new interests and changing/growing.
I am quite weird and random, and sometimes I guess I come across as annoying to those who don't understand my humour. I love philosophy and am very curious about the world. I love nature and music. My friends don't really have that in common with me.
Recently every time I talk none of them listen to me, or they tell me I'm annoying or something. They say it in a sort of joking way, but because they do it so much I'm thinking they actually mean it. It's not everyone but it's a few people in the group. They go "you're so annoyinggg haha". I've mentioned how much they say I'm annoying several times before, hoping they realise that it actually affects me, but they just ignore it.
Whenever I talk to them about the world and issues that I feel actually matter, they turn around and start talking about how bummed they are that they got a 70% on their math test.
They're generally nice, but they can be pretty two faced at times, and fake towards each other and me, but only occasionally.
Overall I am confused and am not sure what I should do. Advice would be appreciated!! (link)
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Hey love,
there's nothing wrong with your mindset and interests. You may feel boring and unwanted but that's just because the group of friends you're hanging with don't share the same interests as you! Out there in the world, in your school or wherever are people who share some of the same interest as you. Maybe some day down the road you'll meet people who you can feel more connected with and develop a great bond. As for your current group of friends... well, they're obviously not as open minded and intelligent as you are. So don't feel bad about those judging you. Continue to be and embrace your true self! No need to completely cut of the friends you have now if they're nice people but just know that people do change, drift apart or realize they're better off without someone. You'll have the opportunity to meet people and maybe even develop a good friendship with people who get you!
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