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It's getting to the point where I'm starting to get depressed. As the years went by I started having less and less friends and more acquaintances, in my senior year of high school I knew the friends I had there weren't going to be my friends after high school only because when we were together we only talked about school, at prom we took prom pics together but I didn't see them at all after that. When we texted it was always about school and once we graduated summer came along and guess who was right? Me nobody texted me anymore cause there was nothing to text about, we have each other on snapchat so instead of texting you could just watch someone's snapchat story to see what they're up to. Then I have another group of friends whom I was friends with from elementary school, it's partly my fault why they don't bother with me right now because in high school we didn't have any classes or the same lunch so the only time I saw them was in the hallways so we would have quick convos there. There's nothing to talk about with them but usually whenever I'd go out they're the ones I'd go places with, but now that high school is done and I don't see them anymore since we all go to different schools they don't even bother to text me a "hi how's it going?" I'm always the one initiating the conversation. One friend I tried making plans with the whole summer but she would be "busy" but then when I told her to come over because i still had a shirt she gave me to borrow (I used that as an excuse) and guess what? She showed up the next day. I have another friend all throughout high school I would hangout with too but she usually ignores me whenever she's in a relationship but when she has relationship problems that when she remembers I exist. Lastly my two other friends one moved to Texas for university (We live in Toronto) and the other one stayed back because she failed. The friend that went to Texas she's always busy cause she's an athlete so she's has an athlete schedule and the friend that stayed back said and I quote "finally someone texted me" she was talking about me then she said that then when I texted her back she said "I don't reply to people" then to this day I'm still waiting for her to respond to my message. I know what you're thinking you're probably like "why don't you try to make friends in your new university?" I've tried so much and it's failed. I went to orientation week if you've read one of my previous questions you'd understand why orientation week didn't work out for me but long story short my mom only allowed me to go to 3 days of the 10 orientation days and didn't let me go to any of the parties. The friends I've made there forgot who I was and all have their own little cliques now. I don't have time to join a club because my workload is crazy, I might join one 2nd or 3rd year. In my classes most of the people already formed their group of friends and I'm trying so hard to but now it's like if I don't talk to them they won't talk to me. I've made like 2 friends and again if I don't text them first then I can forget having a convo with them. I'm tired of feeling lonely and pathetic I just want a couple of friends it sucks being in a school with so many people but feeling so alone, it sucks how my so called friends don't even bother to text me or call me without me being the one to start the convo. The last time I hung out with anyone from my high school was in freaking July. I even met some friends from my schools first year page, so that I wouldn't feel so alone. In the summer time me and those girls texted literally everyday and then once I met them in person they don't even bother to message me unless I message them and even when I message them sometimes they read it and don't even reply. I honestly feel like there's something wrong with me. I can rant for as long as I want but there's no point ranting won't change anything. Anyways thank you if you have read this far please help with any tips. By the way I'm a first year university student, I'm a 17 year old female (will be 18 next month) (link)
I've experienced that a few years ago. But it's fine. The reasons are usually quite plain, like they just aren't into texting or no time. But you can just do your part in showing your respect and care by texting them.


im a 24 yr old female and i am very close to my gran who is 89 (very few health issues, asthma and vertigo)
recently i keep having the same nightmare its very vivid and i either wake up crying or screaming or both. here is a little about what happens in the dream:
im at her house and i take her food shopping as usual on saturday as normal everything is fine and i leave her and she is fine. tuesday morning coming around and im at work and i receive a phone call from her life line to say the button has been pressed but they have no response and an ambulance is on the way. i arrive at the house and the paramedics have pronounced her dead at the seen, at that point i drop to the floor in shock and im devastated. i finally find the strength to call my mother to let her know whats happened. thats when i wake up.

the dream is so life like, i have had dreams like this in the past 3 or 4 months months before i was in a car accident several years ago which the exact this happened.
im so scared...scared that its going to happen scared that im going to loose the only person i can turn to when i need help with anything.
I dont know what i will do with out my gran.

does this mean anything or not? please advise me im so scared (link)
I'm pretty sure your just feeling paranoid and scared, your gran must mean a lot to you. Don't take it too seriously though.




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