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Does it mean anything?
im a 24 yr old female and i am very close to my gran who is 89 (very few health issues, asthma and vertigo)
recently i keep having the same nightmare its very vivid and i either wake up crying or screaming or both. here is a little about what happens in the dream:
im at her house and i take her food shopping as usual on saturday as normal everything is fine and i leave her and she is fine. tuesday morning coming around and im at work and i receive a phone call from her life line to say the button has been pressed but they have no response and an ambulance is on the way. i arrive at the house and the paramedics have pronounced her dead at the seen, at that point i drop to the floor in shock and im devastated. i finally find the strength to call my mother to let her know whats happened. thats when i wake up.
the dream is so life like, i have had dreams like this in the past 3 or 4 months months before i was in a car accident several years ago which the exact this happened.
im so scared...scared that its going to happen scared that im going to loose the only person i can turn to when i need help with anything.
I dont know what i will do with out my gran.
does this mean anything or not? please advise me im so scared
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While some people have claimed to have dreams that were future events, a good amount of dreams have no such meaning and are simply a way of your deepest worries surfacing and the dream is the outlet of your fear or worry.
Age is the first thing you mentioned so I know that must weigh heavily with you. Yes she is 89. Plenty of folks have passed on at that age and younger. But it doesnt mean she will. She could live another 10 years. She sounds reasonably healthy so its entirely likely.
Everyone has to die at some point in time and due to how close you are, that will be a big concern for you.
You say you had the same emotions after surviving a car accident. I think it was at that point that you came to realize how fragile life is and how easy it would be for one little thing to play out differently and instead of surviving, a person dies. So you have developed an anxiety over death.
If you're too busy worrying about losing her, it will rob you of quality time with her now. Since shes the one you turn to for help, I would focus on something that will give you plenty good memories and help for years after she's gone.
If someone hasn't recorded her life experiences yet, you might want to start interviewing her and taping what ever she shares with you and you will have these recordings to listen to in the future when you need a reminder of what to do.
Or get a jar, some pretty paper and when you're with her and she shares something really helpful, have her write it down. Soon your jar will be filled with helpful comments from Gran and you can pull one out to cherish her words, see her own handwriting....its a way to make a person who' is no longer alive, feel a bit more like they are still around, or at least to help keep them in your memory. I am sure you can think of some thing to do with Gran that will leave you with something to not only remember her by but continue to profit from it.
Think constructive things you can do
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I'm pretty sure your just feeling paranoid and scared, your gran must mean a lot to you. Don't take it too seriously though.
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If we're constantly thinking and worrying about something; then it may show up in our dreams. Probably in a different way. I've had this happen. I've had many dreams where I die. As for me, its just the brain doing its thing while we sleep. It doesn't judge, it just sorts.
We can't know when someone will die, that includes ourselves. Even if we dream of it. I've died many many times in dreams. Clearly, I didn't actually die.
If you love her, tell her how much you love and appreciate her, her companionship, her love and her advice. I'm sure that will mean the world to her. I know it would mean the world to me hearing it from someone I love. And it would be extra special hearing it from my nieces and nephews. ( don't have grandchildren.) Especially if I think I influenced them into being a better person. That's the greatest gift you can give her and make her feel appreciated and special.
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