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how can i proper relationships with everyone
I am a 17 year old girl. Ok to begin with i prefer to talk to persons online... because i think it is fun and well the friendship is easy to maintain. For instance i will videochat when i am free or even have whatsapp calls which is easier as i dont have to go out much . I like to go out but my mum always complain . Also i like languages so i tend to like speaking to other persons with the languages i am learning. In person sometimes i am really happy one min. Then the next i think about life and i get angry and sad . After i talk to my online friends who i known for 2 to 3 years i feel better . My family can't really stand me before they say i get angry quickly and i dont communicate much with them. I think i no one want to talk to after they have known me for a very long time because well for instance i am not white but i like spanish guys but where i love there isnt any my age .they are either younger or older by a lot. I had an online bf who was 8 years old .. we dated for 2 years but then he we had an incident and we stopped talking and we were friends for a year. Then ine day he messaged me and said that he wants me to delete him off of fb and also block his number and everything else. I asked why and he said because i deserve better. I told him i wont and after talking he said we will still talk then . But now he doesnt talk to me . And crazy enough i actually think i really really like him ...like teally xlose to lovong him and i hate it.
My family life is also in a mess and well i graduated from high school this year and my furthe4 atudies is killing me ....i want to taln to him and i want to know if liking online friends is really bad because i know of the dangers but i am careful.
I also dont know what to do about my anger problemas. My online friend who normally visits my area is coming for his 4th visit and i want to meet him but i dont know how to tell my family because they said that i should end all those relationships but i cant just stop talking to him..i mean he is 15 and have a lot of problems like me but we always talk about it and help each other just like face to face friends. Please help me ...
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Hi. I used to be in the same position as you once, almost all my friends were online only and I had pretty much created my whole life online including a relationship that lasted 3 years. It was great but a time came when I couldn't simply maintain it any further because you can't hide away from reality or the outside world forever.
Talking to people online is far simpler - it takes away a lot of complications and judgements and in a way I really do miss that a lot. But with my hobby that I do (magic) I have to face people and be able to communicate with them whilst maintaining a level of professionalism and when I first had to do this I simply couldn't, it took a lot of time for me to be able to get to where I am now.
I think your family want you to stop simply because they may see that your online life is taking over as well as the obvious risk of online relationships although saying that, as long as you are careful it is never an issue. A person can just as easily meet a psychopath going into a bar or club.
There are a lot of things here to address so I will try my best to cover them all but you said sometimes you'll be happy and suddenly thinking about life will make you angry and sad. What is it about life that makes you suddenly feel anger and sadness?
This friend you mentioned who had asked you to delete his number and block his facebook. From my perspective it seems he was looking for sympathy. I say this only because you should ask yourself, if you thought you didn't deserve someone and you wanted to just let them go, would you message them to tell them to block you or would you simply just block them yourself? I can block anyone I want to on facebook and block phone numbers from calling me so I never need to message someone to tell them to block and/or delete me so (and I could be wrong) it just seems strange he would message just for this reason unless he was hoping you would react the way that you did. When seem very unsure about your feelings towards him so allow me to ask you this, when you are told you cannot have something isn't your first reaction to want it even more? Then when you DO have it eventually you realise you hadn't wanted it at all. So maybe you only think you want him and probably actually don't?
As for your anger problems, this is something that you may need to talk to someone who can provide you with a deeper understanding of the problem, like getting to the source of why you feel angry and then finding ways to manage these emotions. I don't know where you are from but you may be able to see if there are people (counsellors) who might be able to help you with this. There are also anger management classes that you can try (again, Google may be able to help show you where you can find some near to where you are). If you need to chat further please feel free to message and I will try help more as this seems quite complicated as so much is going on. Sorry if I had missed anything.
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