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I am really outgoing. Lots of friends and alot of people that support me in everything I do. Im creative, funny, athletic, and artistic.. And i'm always here if you need advice.

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Hey! My boyfriend and I have been going out for ten months in March, and I really think that him and I are in love. Not just in a physical sense, but him and I connect mentally. We both really enjoy intellectual discussions about anything and everything. We can talk about any problems that we're having and the other can almost always relate. We can stay on the phone for hours at a time and not get bored, and both of us are extremely loyal to the other. We're just like best friends excluding the romance part. We're really close. The only thing is, sometimes it gets so discouraging when people say we're too young to be in love. I know we're both in love with each other, but other than getting married when we're able to (He and I are both fourteen), how can we deal with annoying old people who think love can only be understood at a certain age? Thanks in advance.

Wow, this EXACT same thing happened to me last year. He broke my heart though, and now we're finally together. People told me the exact same thing, what do they know? They don't know our situation or what we're going through or how we feel for that person. Just ignore them, and go on with your life, don't let other peoples' opinions hurt or discourage you. And certainly, don't let it pull you and your boyfriend apart. Good luck babe, seriously. This is awesome.

Em

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well me and my bf have been goin out for like a little more than 2 months and we really like each other... but he seems shy when it comes to kissing or something...wat does this mean?

Some guys are different. I think it's good that he's shy about that, you don't want to move too fast on him, the relationship might not work if you move too fast. So just take it slow, and if he wants to kiss you, let him, but don't put any moves on him, maybe he isn't comfortable with it right now.

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13/f
i used to like this guy kyle and i dont anymore. im goin out with this guy named andrew and whenever i say anything about kyle even if its mean it seems to pissed andrew off... wat do i do?

Why would you talk about another guy in front of your boyfriend that you used to like? that's really rude...

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Ok i have a huge problem. See tomorrow i start school and my parents told me that i have to take this other person to school w/ me. Well He is just so happens to be my moms boss's little brother. Unfortunatly he is my age. i really dont want to take because i know my mom and his brother will try to hook us up. what should i do?

Alright this all depends on if you like youre mom's boss' son.. If you do, let them hook you guys up, if your ready for it. But if they try to and your not ready for a steady relationship, tell them how you feel. It's not your fault if you don't like him or if you do. So just do what you feel is right.

Hope I helped

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Where to begin? I was seeing this girl off and on for 9 months. She was "using" this 55 yr old arab guy for rides and stuff. I didnt condone of the usery but I didnt feel like it was my place to tell her how to live. After about 5 month into the relationship I moved to miami( we are in VA). She came to visit for a week and it was like a honeymoon without the marrige. Everything was great. When she came back she told me she was pregnant. I sent money up there to her and had my friend drive her to the clinic. I sent her flowers everyday for a week afterwards. So I came back home and while we were spending time toghether through much over hearing the wrong conversations I suspected there was more to her and his relationship. I was right. In short the kid wasnt mine and I was being played the whole time. the break up was awful and I am emot. wrecked. I took her back only to find out she didnt give him up. Now my head is spinning and my heart in shattered. Any advice?

You probably should have thought about her getting rides from the 55 year old man.. I mean that's not really approperate.. Don't take her back after she already cheated on you! She might do it again, I understand your heart is broken, and that girl is special..But it will get broken all over again if you keep taking her back. The kid isn't yours, it's not your problem. Take some time away, Let your mind ease, spend some time with some of your close friends the one that you can bend on and you know they'll be there for you. Let go of that girl, "you're only allowed 3 great girls in your life" Maybe you'll still find that special one, who will treat you right! Let her go, a little bit, day by day..The first weeks are the hardest, but as time goes.. She'll go...

Hope I helped.

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ok, what is the best way to reject a guy without giving the "lets not ruin our friendship" speech and not making them hate you? THANKS :)
annie
xoxoxo
(15, f)

I personally have always liked the "i'm not ready for a relationship and i've got too much going on" say you're busy, you have other things going on...You wouldn't have time for a steady boyfriend, and when you're with someone you want to be with them alot.. And hey, isn't that the truth? It's believable and it's true if your athletic or you have something that goes on in your life that keeps you occupied. I hope I helped!

Best wishes

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i have recently been going out wit this guy i am totally in love with. he has cheated on me b4 but that was after i broke up with him. The first time we started going out everything was perfect and he told me he loved me and you could really tell he meant it. But we got in a huge arguement and he called me a bitch so i dumped him. He begged and begged me 2 take him bak but i wouldnt. Latley weve been goin out on and off and he cheats on me sumtimes. Is he doing this just to get bak at me or is he just not into me?

I think this guy is scared of comintment.. But if you keep taking him back he might think that he can still be with you and cheat on you because he knows he can use you as a re-bound, and he can always come back and he knows you will take him back. He deserves to be broken up with, even if he does love you. Why would he cheat on you if he loves you? And why would he call you that when you haven't hurt him, and you've been faithful? Hun, move on and find that special guy, there's one out there for everbody, you'll find the right one that treats you with the respect you deserve! I hope I helped!

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Hi i have a gf and her 16th birthday is coming up soon and i have no clue what to get her.. I was thinking like a necklace with a heart on it... Do u have any suggestions?

I like the necklace idea that's really sweet of you, or a braclet, or if your not thinking about going all out, maybe a boquet of roses or something that's really sweet, get her a sweet card and tell her how you feel about her and how much she means to you. Or maybe a teddy bear or stuffed animal but that's kind of for the "puppy love" so do whatever you feel, good luck babe!

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my girlfriend is amazing. i am truely honestly blessed to be with her, she is so perfect. the problem is sometimes we get in arguements over really stupid stupid shit, and when we do i feel so extremely guilty and torn up because she is so nice and sweet, she never deserves to be hurt. i know all relationships have things that need to be overcome, but i just cant take it when i hurt this girl. she is so sweet and great to be with, and she would never hurt anyone. how do i make myself feel less guilty about it?

Well every couple argues once in awhile, even about the stupid stuff! So don't worry! But just appoligize if it was your fault. Maybe if you do something wrong show up at her house with a rose or something sweet, girls LOVE the romantic stuff. Or maybe just leave a rose on her porch if it's late and put her name on it. It will make you feel alot better to know that you did something for her, or maybe if you aren't fighting, do the romantic stuff anyways. We absolutely LOVE it! Just tell her how sweet she is and how much she means to you.. She'll appriciate it. And it also shows that you pay attention to her, but don't go over board with the sweet stuff you dont want to seem liek youre stalking her, just do it once in awhile, so you don't scare her off! I hope I helped you out, let me know what happens! Best wishes for you and your girlfriend!

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I am 15/f and I always end up liking younger guys. Usually guys that are 14. Is there anything wrong with that.. cause some of my friends think it's a lil weird.

No there's nothing really wrong with that I mean if they were 10 i'd ask you what you were doing. No but that's fine, alot of girls in my grade go out with younger guys, it's not a big deal. They usually like the older girls anyways! haha!
Hope I Helped

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Last yr my bf cheated on me 3 times so i broke up wit him. Yesterday he asked me bak out and i said yes because i have liked him all summer.But i am afraid of him cheating on me again or breaking up wit me way too soon like he used to. Please help me what should i do?

Don't give him anymore more chances, I know you care about him.. But obviously he doesn't care about you as much as you care for him if he's was cheating on you that many times. I'd say you should break up with him immediately, because he thinks he can keep getting you back so then when he has you, he'll just do this all over again repeadily. dump him, he's not worth it! You already gave him more than 3 chances, three strikes, he's out!

Hope I helped

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Hey, umm I just broke up with this guy...and after spending a day with his brother...I realize...he's the perfect guy. I don't know if I should tell him I like him or not...another problem is that one of my best friends likes him a lot...Do I tell him i like him, just so he knows? Or do I keep it to myself?

Please help!


**Confused!

I think you should tell him that you like him, don't keep your feelings all up inside you, and worse case senerio he'll just say "i dont feel the same" and you will still be friends.. But hey, I told one of my good friends I had feelings for him, and it made the realtionship stronger and closer.

Alright about your friend, you both like the same guy, it wouldn't be good to split best friends up, and it might not happen.. Just tell the guy how you feel and if he feels the same, that's awesome. If he doesn't like your best friend, that's not your fault. But if he feels the same about you go for him, you can't help who you have feelings for. But he could have feelings for your best friend, and not you, but no matter what im sure you and him will always be friends. I would tell him for sure.
Hope I helped

Best wishes!

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what r the symptons of being pregnant?

You may experiance morning sickness, and you won't get your period, feeling "blah" alot..maybe noticing some buldge in your stomache area. You might lose your temper quickly also. Hope I helped

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I've been really depressed since i graduated middle school back in june, but its not really obvious to my friends and family. Well, maybe it is, but they don't really ask me about stuff, and let me know that they can tell i'm depressed. I dunno if i'm ever going to feel better, and I just wanted to know if anyone had tips of moving on from a broken heart.
Thank you.

I went through the same thing. It's hard to move on, especially if he's a really good friend and you have feelings for them. I had alot of help and I went through ALOT of depression, I started to go belemic.. But then I quit. Things will get better, and life will go on. There will always be that missing link in your heart. But maybe you will find someone to fill it. Just always remember, no guy or girl is worth that much pain and when you find the one that is, they won't put you through that.

Hope I helped, best wishes

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Im having this party for my birthday but im not sure if i should invite one of my friends because im kinda worried that she might end up trying to hook up with my bf. Shes had a crush on him before i went out with and it seems like she still does. Ive talked to my bf about it and i know that he wont try anything with her but like i said... its her hooking up with him that im worried about. She knows that i MIGHT be having a party but that im not sure. We are friends but i barely talk to her since she goes to another school. Should i invite her?

Well why are you even friends with this girl if you can't even trust her? No I wouldn't invite her you don't want to risk anything, but maybe you do need to test your boyfriend and your friend

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- - ok, me and my best guy friend Mike keep getting in fights over shtuff. Like EVERY SINGLE time i talk to him, he has to bring up his girlfriend, who is like one of my friends and he KNOWS I HAVE THIS MAJOR CRUSH ON HIM!! and we always get in a fight over it, cuz how would you feel if you asked your best guy friend out *not the brightest thing to do i guess* and he said no he isn't "ReadY" and then went and asked out your friend..? My god!! and now i dunno what to do, cuz i'm sick of fighting with him......

what do i do?
Signed..
- Stupid Best girl friend

Wow you sound Just like me. I had the same problem. I think your just frusturated becaues he keeps talking about her, and you have feelings for him. All you really want to do is talk to your best guy friend without her getting in it. Why would he bring her up right? Exactly, I think he's doing it to make you jealous, which you maybe are, but hey, who has to know? Don't yell or cuss at him! I made that mistake and lost my best guy friend.. Just ask him why do you keep bringing her up ya know? Or maybe talk to him in person or something, that might be easier. Tell him how you feel.. That could clear up alot, it made me and my old best guy friend..ALOT closer.. Hope I helped..

Best wishes!

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