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If you discovered that your drunken boyfriend had gotten a blowjob at a party from a stranger whose name he didn't even know, would you be bothered by this? I might add this was a couple of years ago, before we knew each other. He just admitted it to me and I've been weird about it ever since. I haven't even been able to talk to him. I can't get it off my mind. I've just totally lost respect for him for it. I realize people make mistakes but it's really bothering me. =/ He does regret it at least but still.
So..uh.. what's wrong with me? How can I stop holding this against him? Do I have a right to look down on him for this?
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Well I would respect him for being honest with you. If this happened before you met I do not see anything really that could bother you unless it is the feeling that how could someone do something like that with someone that they do not know. Some people are into this and in his case it might be because he was drunk. Perhaps h has learned his lesson. Now if this happened after you were together well that would be a problem. I would talk to him and let him know that what he did makes you feel uncomfortable. Perhaps what you need is reassurance that he will not do this again and that he would definitly not do it while you are together. Good Luck and be thanksful fo his honesty.
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my boyfriend, i cheated on him. we have been in a relationship for little over a year, im going to make this short as possible. basically, we got into a fight [usually we resolve and what not] but these two boys were with me when they knew we were fighting. basically i hooked up with them bc i was mad at my bf. i cried the whole night regretting it. i then had to tell him; thats when everything was horrible. i told him, he wouldn't even talk to me, he just walked away while i cried because i truley regret it. he then cried after school because it finally hurt him so much. he even said i dont care if she cheated, i still love her. i dont know what to do, we've talked but things just aren't the same. i know i fucked up okay i just want everything to be okay between my boyfriend and i, we were best friends before together so yeah. how can we resolve this? ugh >:[ (link)
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Cheating always hurts those involved and sometimes the pain and mistrust caused by cheating can last a while. Just imagine how you would feel if after the argument he would have hooked up with someone you would be devastated right? The best thing to do is put yourself in his place.You can try to talk to him but if he won't talk to you just wait until he cools down trying to talk to him while he is upset will only make matters worse. Perhaps you can catch him alone in a few days and try to talk to him. Make sure you let him know that you are sorry and have learned from your mistake and will not do it again. Don't try to push the blame on him with things like "well you started the argument" or "it's your fault I cheated" trust me this will not work.I am sorry to say it will take a little while for him to start trusting you again.You will have to earn his trust all over again. If you have been in a relationship for over a year it must be something worth trying to get back together so just give it a little time ok. Next time please think before you react the argument you have will be over tommorrow but the pain from what you say or do will last much longer Good Luck :-)
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ok its like this IM A 15 YEAR OLD FEMALE....theres this ...and we have been talkin about havin sex...but i dont kno if i should shave my vagina or not...see i kinda shaped my pubic hairs up a little but there are still hairs where i shaved and dey are all pokey...and it feels weird...should i jus shave the rest off or what??? please help me with ths ASAP!!!! THANKS (link)
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1st off please practice safe sex.
Shaving pubic hair is a personal preference for some if it is prickly and you need it to not be prickly you will need to shave again or wait for the hair to grow out its kinda like shaving your legs and after awhile the new growth comes in prickly.Some women even run over pubic hair with a man clippers (the ones for cutting hair) this leaves the pubic hair slick and neat but no prickles good luck hope this helps:-)
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i have trouble talking to girls and i'm having friends over friday, and i know this may be a bit odd but i have about 4 crushes right now, at least 1 of which will be at a gathering i'm having friday sooo...yea my questions are...:
1) any advice on talking to girls? i always get nervous and end up saying something stupid...
2) any advice on making a move? it is rather possible i might be able to do so...
thanks a lot dudes and dudettes
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est way to do this is to be yourself and as hard as this sounds try not to be nervous practice what you will say in front of a mirror. A lot of people do this. Maybe catch her by herself strike up conversation like so how do you like the party? after her answer you could say, Maybe we could hang out sometime. The best solution is to go for it once you start talking your nerves will stop.if the conversation keeps going ask her do you have a boyfriend hang out for awhile that night if the conversation keeps going thats when you make your move. Good Luck :-)
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ok this girl just asked my boyfriend to go to a water park with her and some other people. she knows that we've been going out all year, and i know her a little bit, but she didnt invite me. at first i thought she was just inviting him cuz shes friends with him, but my mom said that her inviting him like that, without me, means she likes him. do you think thats true? i would never invite someone else's boyfriend to do something like that, so its kind of weird to me. should i be worried? (link)
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yes she might like him or perhaps she asked him and not you because since you are dating she figured he would bring you along who knows but there is one way to find out. Since your boyfriend got the invite and I am assuming he is the one that told you you can ask him if he is going if he is ask him if its cool if you go this way he can ask her. Once you're there if she is after him you will be there watching. Do not start n argument or tell him he can't go without you this will make you seem overprotective and make him want to go even more Good Luck:-)
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So I met this girl about a month ago online and I went to visit her at her work. We have been talking everyday for about a month now and have grown really close. We really want to hang out but there is just one problem. She is 17 and I just turned 23. She lives with her grandparents and they make sure they know everywhere she is but I just really wanna prove that I am looking for a relationship and not sex. Anyone have any idea how to start this to prove to them that I will take care of her? (link)
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Ok I am not going to talk down on you because of the age difference I met my hubby when I was 16 and he was 26 we waited till I was 18 though for sex. Please wait till she is 18 and ready there are laws against it otherwise and I am sure you do not want to be in trouble for statutory rape. The best thing to do is to talk to her grandparents they only want what is best for her and see you as an older guy looking for sex.Think how you would feel if she was your daughter, niece, grandaughter etc.. Speak to her about this first thentalk to them if you do not talk to them it seems you have something to hide and you will come off looking like you want only sex. Just explain you really care about her, have a job, or whatever put your good qualities out on the table like I dont drink or do drugs and I am not after just one thing. Your talking to them will show you are serious and being an adult about things. Remember they are grandparents so they may be a bit more old fashioned than we are this is how it was done in their day a man would ask permission to see a young lady Good Luck hope this helps:-)
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alrighty so here's the deal
my girlfriend and i will have been together for three months next saturday, which is kind of a big deal for us, and i really want to do something that she'll remember for a long time. also, she's leaving the next day to go to duke for three weeks, so i want to do something fun but nothing too expensive. .
thing is, i have no idea what that thing should be.
i'm not sure if i should get her something either. i'd already planned on writing her somewhat of a love letter type thing, but i don't know if i should get her anything else. i'm kinda low on cash, too. . .
thanks for any and all help
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Since she will be leaving for 3 weeks a little alone time would be great how bout a nice picnic.its cheap and inexpensive. Get a blanket to sit on go to a quiet park or lake heck you can picnic in your backyard bring some soda, sandwhiches, dessert etc... This way you can sit around and talk this is when you can give her your letter too or write a romantic poem and read it to her. If you go to a public place it will be just that, a public place and really no alone time. This way you can talk awhile before she leaves. Good Luck hope this helps.
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Well I am kinda seeing someone long distance ( havent really made it offical) but it has been iffy since he hasnt come to my town yet.( we live 2 hrs apartWell Last week I was mentioned online to everyone what I wanted to go out on the lake for memorial Day and whoever wanted to come was invited. I was shocked hearing from him saying that he might come up for it since he was going to only be an hour away that day. I was not going to get my hopes up till that day just in case there was any cancellations on his part. Well He showed up at the right time and went creek hopping ( hiking along the creek) all day. I found it quite funny because he had never been there but was up to going on up ahead to make the trail and rocks were safe enough for the rest of us to get across. We sorta made him our guide that in reality never been there. later After I took everyone else home we went out to eat and then walked down my main st. Showed him my high school and stuff like that. we talked forever and he even took my hand which I thought was funny. Then I took him back to his car and we ended up talking for 3 hours (well mostly talking).about everything To government(which I never really talk about) to childhood memories. one point we were talking about goals in life. he asked me what I wanted to do with my life. I am still not completely sure. which is what I said. and he said kinda jokingly I could always come and keep him company in Sacramento. I just laughed out loud and said “funny" and then later on he made the comment again little bit more serious adding" Like I said before you can always come stay with me.. there are lots of job opportunities up there and my rent is only this much etc. To let him be at ease I told him I would keep him in mind. I don’t know if I were to do something like that. I never lived with anyone besides my own family. Plus I don’t know if he would be able to handle the kind of relationship I want. I am the kind of person waiting for marriage if you know what I mean.( my own personal standards not religious standards) And I think it would drive him nuts that I wouldn’t be wanting to go that far because it is only a one bedroom apt. He doesn’t know about my standards which I know I need to discuss with him before he make suggestions like that before he can handle it. The next time I am going to see him is next week at the club we met him at for my friend's birthday. found it quite funny before because my friend told me before when I was a little hurt by him to not tell him about her birthday thing at the club. So I didn’t. But one of the first things she tells him to come to her party at the club. I was sitting right there too. it made me scratch my head like "what??" I asked that to her tonight, and she said " Oh I got over that after he made the effort to come up here and plus I invited him for you" and my friend is not young either. she is 36 but great fun to be around. Just makes me wonder some time. So if he does bring it up again( like at the party) How do you think is the best way to put it? it is a tricky topic to discuss don’t you think? please help me (link)
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yes this one is a bit tricky but I will give it a shot.
Seems to me you wouldn't mind living with him and getting a chance to stay somewhere else but the 1 bedroom thing is a problem if it is a problem for you do not change that. Perhaps you could get a 1 bedroom apt. near him and see each other if that is what you want and you could have a friend nearby. The best way to tell him is to wait till he mentions it again or say were you serious about moving in together. If he says yes tell him that you would love to (thats if you would) but with him only having 1 bedroom that is a problem. If he asks why you have opened the door to explain to him that you need your own bedroom because you are waiting till marriage or whatever it is nothing against him just a personal standard that you have set for yourself.If you do not want to change your standards DON"T move in once you are there in his apartment he will try to change your standards for you. If he cannot accept this move on to someone that does respect your wishes. I applaud you for waiting, keep it up do not let anyone change your mind about waiting and do not lead him on that things will change if they won't they just won't. Good Luck :-)
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Can you get pregnant from swallowing sperm??? (link)
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No you cannot sperm can only cause pregnancy through vaginal intercourse because it has to unite with an egg which is released from your ovaries this is above your private area. But you can catch disease from haing oral sex or performing oral sex. Please be careful.
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Ryt well..i have liked this lad (andy) for about a year..i use to be with him but only for a bit and the we finished..but ever since we finished i still liked him..even thought i loved him. I had other bfs after him, one called arron. I was whith him for a while and then we broke up and about 2 weeks after we finished he text me saying he misses me and he me loves ect. But at the time i didnt want to get back with him, so nothing happened. Then about a week ago i got back with andy, which at firt i was really chuffed about but know i just dont seem to want to be with him :S which is confusing considering i liked him for so long! All i can think about now though is arron! i really miss him! i dont know what made me start feeling like this i just did :S What do i do ? tell arron how i feel ? do i finish with andy and risk missing him aswell :S? Please help :(! x x (link)
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why don't you try taking a few days maybe a week off from both of them and decided who you want to be with. Perhaps its a case of having your cake and eating it too. You get one and you think about the other. This is normal. Make a list of pros and cons on both get two sheets of paper write andy on 1 write Arron on the other write everything you like and dislike about each on their sheet of paper maybe that will help good luck :-)
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have you ever been cheated on or anything to do with cheating?
I just have a small situation. My friend Sam cheated on her bf Allan with my bf's best friend and his brother. She made out with both of the guys and gave on of them head. Her bf allan is good friends with me and my bf and we decided we should tell him-- so we did the next day.
Sam and I weren't completely good friends but we were close somewhat. But if he did this to her, I would probably tell her too. So she's pissed and she has all my friends against me. Even my bffl. But i know i did the rite thing. All this time, past 2 weeks I've been there for Allan; even pickig him up at midnite because he was so depressed and taking him 2 parties to help him get his mind off her. And she does everything she can like for example- she cuts hereself- for attention. Allan and her are supposed to talk 2morrow and i want to kick her ass so bad but I'm not going to be there.
there's only one lil thing that i messed up on. at the party i told her to go for--to cheat. and when i told my bffl the story i admitted i told her to go for it.....and allan doesnt kno that. i told him i never said that and he believes me. but now sam and kayla my best friend have this against but my bf was there but will tell alan that it never happened, but im still afraid he'll beloieve her. he want to be with her but knows he shouldn't.
what do u think i should do now? kayla keeps telling me to back off when sam from the beggining said she was gonna break up with him.kayla and sam never even liked each other? everyone feels sorry for her because all she does it cry and they give me stuff like "you have no idea how much she has been thru" blah blah when this is all for attention and i'm not stupid.
now i really don't know what do or even say?
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You were a great friend to tell now you are suffering the consequences for telling.If Allan appreciates it you did a good thing. Now about that little white lie you told you could either come clean and possibly have Allan mad at you or you could sit back and hope he doesn't find out but if he does he might be more upset because you lied. Think before you react. And please no kicking her a** I am sure you want to but what will this really solve besides a nasty fight and possibly more hurt feelings and lost friends. As far as Sam goes I hope she gets help cutting herself is not healthy mentally or physically. Sit back, count to ten, and think before you make any sudden decisions the consequences could be worst than the ones you already are facing. Good Luck :-)
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Well, I really like this girl. I'm 16 and shes 15. We've been hanging out after school for like 5 months, and I've been trying to ask her out for at least half that time. But everytime I'm about to, I freeze up. I'm pretty sure she likes me back. This is especially annoying for me because I've never had a problem like this before, I've always been perfectly smooth with the ladies. I really like this girl, and I dont want her to get bored and move on. She's been amazing to wait this long for me. What's wrong with me!? (link)
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You have a bad case of nerves as silly as it sounds practice in front of a mirror don't expect the worst go for it. Are you worried she may say no? Theres only 2 answers yes or no you'll get one of them and if you have been hanging out this long it will probably be yes so good luck to you.The reason your nervous too could be because you like her so much :-)
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I want to get my boyfriend (age 14) something special for his birthday, but I don't know what! In the past I've given him specific things that he'd mentioned he wanted (games, hunting stuff, etc). I know he liked them, because he wanted them, but they just weren't anything "special." I want to give him something that he can treasure and remember me by, the same way I treasure the necklace and charm bracelet he's given me. But would a guy even want something sentimental, or would he rather just have a video game or a box of ammo? (link)
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The gift depends on how much you are trying to spend a nice sentimental gift for guy is a watch, some sunglasses (with summer here), if he likes hunting or fishing how bout a nice camo hat to go hunting in these are all things he can remember you by when he uses them another cool idea a wallet that you have your names monogramed in a bracelet with a short poem or your names engraved My husband is 36 years old and yes video games and sports equipment is great to him too! Good luck on your shopping hope he loves it
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ok so my boyfriend made a wish a couple of days ago on myspace ofcourse...It was a bulliten he posted...It said "11 signs you love someone (if that will ever happen)"...I confronted him about it because he always tells me how much he loves me and stuff..And he said " i wished that katie and brandon would break up" and we got into a huge fight...Because he sleeps over at Katie's house all the time and he asked her out in september and she said no...He asked me out in november and him and Kaie are like brother and sister...But he likes her...He says he doesn't love me like he used to but he wants to be with me because he does love me...But he can't stop thinking about how things would be if him and Katie were going out...He says he'll do whatever he can to keep us together because he wants to be with me..
My first question is: How can I make him relize that she will never go out with him ever because it would ruin their friendship?(she told me that herself)
And my second question is: How can I help him fix what's wrong in our relationship?because it is just as much his fault as it is mine I had the same problem when we first started going out 6 months ago... (link)
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ok he is fantasizing about another girl he is lusting after her find yourself a new guy that is with you and not with you physically but cheating mentally good luck with your relationship
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