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How to gain trust
So I met this girl about a month ago online and I went to visit her at her work. We have been talking everyday for about a month now and have grown really close. We really want to hang out but there is just one problem. She is 17 and I just turned 23. She lives with her grandparents and they make sure they know everywhere she is but I just really wanna prove that I am looking for a relationship and not sex. Anyone have any idea how to start this to prove to them that I will take care of her?
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I won't hold the age thing against you at all - after all what's age but a number (obviously if she was something like 13 that would be a totally different matter). That said the age of consent here in the UK is 16 so technically, from the UK laws point of view, you're not doing anything wrong anyway. :]
Well, obviously her grandparents just want to look out for her so I think it's understandable they are the way they are but the best thing you can do to prove to them that this is more than just you after sex is to let them get to know you. Visit them. If they go to church then by all means go along. Talk to them and as I said, let them get to know you and vice-versa as well. Hopefully after this they will not just judge you before getting to know you and may see that you're not just like every other guy out there.
Just don't try to rush it with them because the thing with trust is that it takes time. :]
Good luck dude.
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Well never look anywhere that would sugest sex and don't be all over her and touching her all the time. If you do this and maybe go to church with them they might change thier out look of you
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Ok I am not going to talk down on you because of the age difference I met my hubby when I was 16 and he was 26 we waited till I was 18 though for sex. Please wait till she is 18 and ready there are laws against it otherwise and I am sure you do not want to be in trouble for statutory rape. The best thing to do is to talk to her grandparents they only want what is best for her and see you as an older guy looking for sex.Think how you would feel if she was your daughter, niece, grandaughter etc.. Speak to her about this first thentalk to them if you do not talk to them it seems you have something to hide and you will come off looking like you want only sex. Just explain you really care about her, have a job, or whatever put your good qualities out on the table like I dont drink or do drugs and I am not after just one thing. Your talking to them will show you are serious and being an adult about things. Remember they are grandparents so they may be a bit more old fashioned than we are this is how it was done in their day a man would ask permission to see a young lady Good Luck hope this helps:-)
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