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Q: Well this sunday me and my boyfriedn will be going out for a year . But last night we broke up with me , He said i was to jelous and he couldnt take it anymore . And he told me he wanted to break up and it broke my heart , really did . Then this morning he called and ask if i was going to school and i asked him why he broke up with me and he said he doesnt know what he wants right now . At schoolwe still walked together and then 2nd period he put his arm around me and kiss my head and said we'll talk about this later. Then going to 4th he pulled me to the side and grabbed my hand and said baby i dont want to break up i just didnt like the way things were going and i want to change things. So he said were still together kissed me and walked off , but we still needed to talk and stuuff because between classes wasnt long. So at lunch we talked and he said he felt bad breaking up but being without me made it worst . i said i was sorry for being overly jelous & he apologized about breaking up . Im just scared its going to happen again . It broke my heart so bad i couldnt and still cant eat. ShouLd i give it another go or am i just getting played ? i really love him i want it to work but im keeping my gaurd up . thanks .

Been there!!!!! It sounds like he is sincere though. Yall just need to work on communication because he just decided to end the relationship without even talking to you about the problem and thats not cool at all. So work on that and if yall get back together yall should be fine.

Q: Im 15 and havnt had a relationship...out of my own choice..i decided when i go out with a boy i want to make sure i know it will lead somewhere and that i have to truly like him..not just a 2 week stupid relationship. But now im getting to a point where im past waiting for boys...genuine boys. You can never find them where i live. They're all into this gansta r and b rubbish. I need a boy who accepts me as their equal and loves everything about me and dosnt want anything sexual. How long till i find someone like that?I want love...whether im young or not and im tired of waiting. My best friend has been hurt so many times and its just proved to us both noone is genuine and cares about the girls heart. Please can someone give me some help..why arent there boys like that ?

To find what you really want you have to have experience with guys first you have to have heartbreak in order to know what is really good for you. you can agree or disagree with me it doesnt matter but thats my point of view. ive been out with alot of guys and each time was a lesson learned. just because these people listen to r and b doesnt make them bad people. You should get to know someone first before you judge them. isnt that what you are asking for anyways? is for someone to just love you and not judge you and to take you for you? and there are boys that are genuine but boys are not perfect. there is not such thing as the perfect guy, so dont wait for something that will never come. im just lucky i found the right guy for me, and i did that by going through relationships that taught me what i needed and what i didnt. And right now i plan on being with this guy for forever. and one reason me and this guy work is because we actually talk to each other, i could never expect him to be perfect because hes human. love is seeing past the inperfections.

Q: my boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over a month and its kinda a long distance thing and he wants to see "pictures" of me and wants me to send them through texting... im not really comfortable with that but he gets upset what should i do :/

you should be extra careful. If they are just pictures of you then go ahead but if it involves taking clothing off then think twice. have you even met this guy? if not then if i were you i wouldnt send dirty pictures. but it is okay to send regular picturs. ive been asked to do the same thing. and id send him regular ones but i dont think i ever sent him a dirty one. i wish i could answer this better but i dont know what kind of picture sending you are talking about

Q: ok im 15 now and i don't know if theres something
wrong with or what because ive only dated people on the internet its like nomatter what i do i can't seem to get a boyfriend . its not like i want to date someone o just be with someone i only want tto date people who care about me and are interested in what i have to say. so my question is why isnt any guy interested in me ?
because im like outgoing and stuff im in the 9th grade now and im gettin worried that i'll never find a guy so if anyone can give me any tips or anything that would be great thankies.

In order to see your personality they have to see past ur looks. Weather you are ugly or pretty. but being pretty you will be apealing to guys so they will take interest in you. boys your age dont really think about personality. So if i were u i would make sure i look good when i go to school and then when a guy takes interest in you then you can show him your personality. when you get older it wont be as hard because guys wont be as immature but for now thats what you gotta do.

Q: Got your attention with the title I know haha!
Well I have a few questions.
ONE:
My boyfriend is 16, I'm 14. Not a big age difference and like my mom says it's a matter of maturity and responsibility. Well am I too young to go on a "date"? I've asked before and everyone said no but if so then how can I convince my mom I AM responsible and mature? HELP!
TWO:
T.J. and I have been together three weeks and two days. Every thursday makes a week thats why I know haha! Well I was wondering when should you usually have a first kiss with your boyfriend? I've kissed a guy before but I mean is three weeks too soon? I've known him almost a year in total so we were friends before we started dating.
And if not, who should make the first move? In other words, what's the best way to have a good first kiss? Suggestions appeciated!

ill start with number two. girl you should of done kissed him already! im surprised he hasnt tried to kiss you yet. If it were me the first kiss would of been done and over with. and about number one. just do little things around the house or do things for her to butter her up. Then bring home like a good report card or something and while shes looking at it ask her if you can. Of course there are other ways to do it that is just one example.

Q: 15/f

i'm mad right now.
ha. ok,so this kid, i really like him alottttt, & i know he would tottaly like me if he got to know me. i know he already kinda likes me. but i just dont know how to take it to the next level..we talk in classes, and flirt, but thats as far as it gets. how do i get his like number or screename?

pretend like you need help on an assignment in class, and then get him to help and then say " hey you really helped me out alot can i get your screen name or number so i can call you if i have any more questions and then smile at him. Ive done that before, it works!!

Q: Why is it that life always takes a dump on the nice guys and gives all the great shit to the assholes who dont deserve it? Im fed up with it, Im nothing but nice to people and i love being the nice, sweet guy, but why is it so hard to be happy? All these jerks get everything, why? Do i have to be an asshole to get what i want? Nice guys never get the girl...

usually in high school girls go for the "bad boy" but when it really comes down to it nice guys are always better. So stay a nice guy because when you get older that is much more attractive to girls. just always be there when the assholes arent. if you get what im saying. Every girl needs that one guy they can run to when there isnt anyone else that will listen. i hope you get what im saying.

Q: 16/f and I'm really like one of my best guy friends. The only problem is that he's in love with another girl. I can't just let my feelings go. I'm happy for him that he found somebody that he loves but I get all confused around him. What do I do?

If he REALLY loves this girl and you know for a fact he is head over heels for her...Then move on because its not worth breaking up him and what could be the love of his life.

Or if you know he just likes her but doesnt really love her...then try to put yourself out there and be like hey you can have me, im better. lol

but ive fallen for a guy friend once and it turned out that we went out and broke up and never spoke again so think about this wisely

Q: so my best guy friend and i are really close
and we even hooked up for fun
then i started to like him
but i didnt tell him
so he started liking this other girl
i ended up telling him that i like him
but now him and the girl are going out
i still like him
and they've been together for a month
i've tried getting over him but its so hard
and i cant forget about him because he is my best friend
and we talk alot
i was thinking that i could wait for the relationship to end
but it hurts when he talks about her
i usually help him with his problems
so he tells me whats going on
what do i do? :/
*confused&&inlove*
[15/f]

I use to have a best guy friend.
I know how you feel. Because i started to like my best guy friend too and eventually me and him started going out but then we just broke up because well....thats a long story lol. But anyway i ended up losing the friendship i had with this guy just bc we went out and me and him dont talk anymore. So that would be the negative effect of all this. But if i were you and you really wanted to get with him i would wait till him and the girl broke up because if you dont and u try to break them up karma will come back and bite you in the ass. So just stay his friend and hang in there.

Q: 2 years ago i went out with this guy for 5months and after 5months i lost the "beginning relationship spark" but i thought i didn't like him anymore but i knew i still loved him. anyway i didn't know what i was feeling and i broke up with him. he was my first love and i was his. not too long after we broke up he got a new girlfriend and has been with her ever since but now two years later i miss him ALOT. last night i was crying hysterically. like screaming crying because i missed him so much and i want him back. i havent cried over a guy...ever! just when we broke up. we started going out on the day before valentines day (today) so im not sure if valentines day is bringing these emotions but last valentines day i was fine without him. we've been texting for about 2 months now but not talking about me liking him. just boring conversations but now his phone broke so we havent talked in a week and i can't call his house, that would be wayyyy too akward. i did request him on myspace though last night so im hoping to talk to him on there. BUT, these feelings for him aren't going away and i havent felt like this or missed him in 2 years but now all of the sudden i can't remember why we broke up. i really really really want to tell him that i'm still in love with him but he's been going out with this other girl for almost 2years. i need to get this off my chest but even though i would rather him be with me than her, i don't think im quite mean enough to tell my ex i like him right before he celebrates valentines day with his girlfriend.

what the heck do i do about this???

I think you should just wait it out and the feelings might go away after valentines day. i remember a year ago one of my ex's broke up with me 5 days after valentines day. Though he was cheating anyway so yea.. but i still remember that and you are just having all these feelings rushing back because its around valentines day again. I dont think it will do any good telling him if you do because if he has been with this girl for 2 years then it seems kind of serious. But if you do i would wait like a week and so you can see if its just valentines day bringing back all these emotions.

Q: Okkay, my boyfriend always says he's going to kiss his girlfriend, & not referring to me, (referring to my other friend) & he goes in to kiss her & I pull him back, I know he is just playing but I would really like him to stop, what should I tell him?

hes just seeing if you will get jealous. Its a guy thing. They just want to see if you will care. And obviously you will so just tell him to stop. thats the only thing you can do

Q: this question is probably very common
but for the last 2 1/2 years ,ive liked this boy.
He liked me on and off,but we never went out.
I've had sex with him but he claims he wasnt using me.
No matter how badly he treats me,i let him do it just because im scared to not talk to him anymore because i like him so much.
He used to treat me nice and all that but now its different ,it seems like hes only nice to me when he wants to have sex and i fall for it everytime.
Basically im gonna confront him and stop having sex with him ,but what else should i do to either not like him and forget him ..or for him to just respect me?

Girls like you make me so mad. You let guys use you and you know they are and when they are all nice to you and shit then you think they are going to stop and its like so stupid when you let a guy use you like that. And im not speaking out of term either because i let a guy use me once and i vowed never to let that happen again and you should to. dont let him use you like that. Its fucked up.

Q: hi, i was just wondering if anyone has any advice on how i can be less shy around guys. Because around some guys i am completely comfortable but when it's like a hot guy or something i get intimidated or whatever and get really shy! most ptobably because the guy is hot and you don't want to look like an idiot or whatever but does anyone have some tips to make me less shy aroudn them?
thanks!!!!

Guys are human to. And so are you. They get shy also. Its totally normal. But a girl with confidence, guys say, is the sexiest thing or so i have been told. but if you just keep your head on and play it cool and just mingle and make conversation, you should be okay.

Q: Can you help me out with flirting. Like i can flirt while texting and im'ing but not in person. Like i just go blank. I dont know what to say. I can smile back but how do i flirt? thanks :)

You seem a bit shy then. Just get the guts to say what you do through text. Its basically the same thing except the words are coming out of your mouth. going blank isnt always a bad thing, sometimes guy find it cute that you dont know what to say, its kind of like a compliment to them say "hey i must be hot if she doesnt know what to say to me". Flirting is most of the time initiated by the guy though. but if you want to take the first step them go ahead. The first step to everything is starting conversation. and dont forget to make eye contact. A girls most powerful weapon is her eyes. you can say a thousand things with just one look. Hope i helped.

Q: My boyfriend and I have been going out for 8 months and ever since a few months ago i have been feeling so bad after he leaves when we hang out. I dont know why and I am very confused. Hanging out with him makes me feel like crap. I think it's because we do too much making out and stuff and not enough fun stuff. I wish i can change that but I am usually the one to start doing that. I can't help myself i guess but it's not worth it later because i am in the worst mood ever. Help?

Basically if you dont want to do that then dont do it. Go to six flags or some fun place like that where you KNOW you are going to have fun and you wont have time to make out.

Q: hey, i just want to know if there's anyone who's asked their good guy friend out,or if you've had feelings for them and just straight out told them. i dunno anyone who's done that and what the best/worst is that can happen,as in how often the friendship still remains after that is said. so if you can tell me what happened after you told your best guy friend please let me know! thank you!

it depends on how strong the friend relationship you have with him right now is. Ive been out with a guy friend before and when we broke up we never talked again. and we hate each other. But he was an asshole to start with so yea. But in your case if yall really know each other then that is good because if yall get together then you can just skip the getting to know each other part but the worst thing that could happen is that yall break up and not be friends anymore but im sure that wont happen. Plus if you dont tell him and there is a chance yall could of worked out then you will be kicking your self in the ass later for not telling him.

Q: i told one of my bestfriends i liked him because i did, and he told me he kindof liked me too. and so today he asked me to go to the movies with him and a friend we'll call him harrison. and so i was talking to harrison and i told him that i didn't really like the other guy anymore because he is such a good friend and harrison was like well then you shouldn't go to the movies because he wants to kiss you.
i can't kiss a guy, not right now. i like another guy that i want to date and i can't ruin it.
what should i do?

Well if you dont want to ruin it then dont go!! Its simple as that, if you like another guy then dont go to the movies with him.

Q: Alright....2 months ago i broke up with my ex of 2 years and well he kinda scares me....my first question is what do i do when he threatens everyone i talk to....second question is....what do i do when i fall for his best friend...let me catch you up...this guy has bin there for me threw thick and thin....and well his dad just passed away and he came over to watch a movie with me and we ended like making out for 3 hours and i stoped him and told him i didnt want to do this because he was upset and ya...anyways he ended up telling me that he has liked me for a long time and that he wants to be with me....i really dont know what to do....we have so much in common and he makes me feel like a school girl any ideas?

Then dont go out with the guy then. Its your choice.

Q: I'm 17, my friend that I like is 19. So all of the signs point to this guy liking me (I'm not talking silly things like "OMGHELOOKEDATME" either) except for one: while texting, he never initiates the conversation. During the week our only form of communication is texting, because he's ridiculously busy working till the wee hours of the morning.(Like, from 11 in the morning till midnight) However, he never texts me first, he'll only start once I initiate the conversation. I went a day without texting him to see if he would, but he didn't. Otherwise, it seems certain that he likes me, but this really bothers me. Am I overreacting, or should I worry?

ask him why he doesnt text you first. Ive kinda had a situation like this but it was calling not texting. and i was worried and all. so its normal if you are but if yall arent together as a couple then he really doesnt HAVE to text you. if you get what im saying. or maybe he doesnt know what to say to you. i could be one of a million reasons, guys are so retarded these days

Q: does your heart beat faster , when you talk to me , do you get this weird vibe down your spin telling you its love i dooo your to great

Yea my heart does beat faster. especially when you call me and i see your name on the screen. and i dont know what a spin is but i know what a spine is but no i dont really get it in that spot. i do get the feeling that your talking about though

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Hey im Charlene! Im 15. In highschool. I mainly just answer relationship questions/friendship questions. but i dable in other topics too. Im a pretty easy person to talk to, ive made tons of mistakes, but ive learned from them. So if u got a question ill probably be able to answer it.