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depends on how you feel for that person.. you can either say "going out" "just friends" "friends with benefits" and so on.. ask him/her where they want to stand at

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so ive liked this guy at school forever. weve both always had bf/gf this year though. well were both single now and weve been getting close. we hangout all the time at school and every1 thinks we go out. he said he doesnt want a relationship right now though. at school he puts his arm around me and hugs me forever and on the wekeends hell hold my hand and kiss me and stuff. but he wont kiss me at school. not even a little peck. he kissed his ex all the time though! and he tells me he loves me and calls me babe and calls me every single nite. hes reallly sweet. well i didnt see him last weekend so he said hell "save a kiss for me on monday" monday came, he didnt kiss me. today i was kind of bummed so i wasnt talking alot and he could tell i was mad and kept asking me. my friend eventaully told him what i was upset at. so before we left he hugged me for like 5 minutes and said srry but were at school..i was like yea w/e and walked away. well he called me today after school and he was like your mad because i wont kiss you at school and i was just like no im not whatever. he was like just wait for the weekend babe. im getting soo frustrated. its not even a big deal but ive been through soo much shit with guys and hes the one guy who is so sweet. why wont he just ask me out!? ughhh what can i say/do about this?..

i think you should be happy this guy likes you.. your getting mad over nothing.. so he wont kiss you in school so what? do you need to have people watch you kiss? this guy is being so sweet to you.. let him figure out what he wants and maybe hell eventually ask you out.. if not, thats his decision

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14/m
There is one girl I like a lot. Everyone talks about me liking her around her and amongst themselves. However, she shows no interest in me and talks a lot with another guy that I don't like. Is there any possible way that I can get her to like me?

well if she doesnt like you, thats her decision. but you can try to get her to like you.. be yourself and be confident but not cocky. make her laugh and just try talking to her alot.. good luck

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i need some backup for this:
this "Gangsta rap" dude at school slapped one and punched another girl in the middle of the hallway two days ago. needless to say he got suspended. I work with one of the girls and the guy. he is a lazy grocery bagger, she's also a bagger.
Question: need opinions from both sexes on the issue of "guys can't hit girls". personally, i want to thrash him within an inch of his life, as do most of the other guys i have talked to. is that a bad thing?
other info: he's done it before, and has had his ass kicked multiple times for it.
did i mention that he also dresses like a drug dealing lowlife? oh yeah i did, stupid kids trying to live like gangsters in suburbia.
-hilter

guys cant hit girls.. hes a woman beater if he does.. guys are usually stronger than girls and i dont mean to say that girls are weak, but all the defense we have is hitting them in the balls.. on the other hand i think girls can hit guys.. guys are just stronger and they are supposed to care about girls and defend them.. another guy should beat up a guy who hit a girl, its definately not a bad thing. he needs to learn a lesson

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hi there people really bother me in school, i dont have much friends and they all tease me. boys call me a mutt and a dog and disguting pig, im not fat though and im not reallly ugly. girls bark and moo at me and push me and im sick of it, i have 2 bestfriends but they dont stick up for me. if these people knew what i been through like, my dad died when i was 6 and my bothers friggen a crack head, ligit and my sisters a big whore who doesnt talk to the whole fam.. i dont have anyone and im sick of it, what should i do?

people are really big assholes so fuck them!! you dont need them.. try to look at the better things in life.. work hard in school and some day your going to have a great life.. you have to accept your past, you cant change that.. all you can change is the present.. dont let anyone put you down, stick up for yourself.. hope it helps

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how can i convince a girl to like me?what can i say to make her like me as a boyfriend

be nice and sweet.. joke around with her but dont be mean..guys are ignorent to girls alot and it makes them mad.. the guys i like are easy to talk to, the ones you know wont make fun of you and will understand you.. notice the little things that make her pretty.. girls love to get compliments, be flirtations but DO NOT chase her.. thats a total turn off.. play a little hard to get from time to time.. hope it helps

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My boyfriend told this girl that i hate that one of her friends is hott and hes denying it but i know he said it cause he always says stuff like that what shold i say or do help!!
from Jess

dont worry about it.. you dont think other guys are hot? havnt you told your friends if a guy was hot? hes just saying shes goodlooking it doesnt mean he loves her and wants to go out with her.. just let it go

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ok, well i'm an 8th grade girl and i really like this 7th grade guy, and he asked me out and i said yes, but i'm wondering if that's weird or not.. idk, i'm just confused, please help me!
~mandy

haha im in 8th grade and i went out with a 7th grade guy.. it was fun.. he was shorter than me too and it was ok.. its not weird at all if you like him go out with him!

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help i get so depressed some times im starting to drink and i dont want to go any depper into alchohol. can you help me please i hate my new school im so unhappy

look at all the bright sides of life.. your not realizing the good all you see is the bad. make an effort to like your new school, try making new friends, be thankful for what you have. try talking to someone you trust.. whenever im depressed talking to someone always makes me feel better. if you dont want to talk to anyone you know, you can always leave something in my inbox. stay away from the alcohol, your just going to make things worse. hope you get better..

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A girl in my group of friends who i HATE is moving ..all my friends are like crying but i cant wait till she moves -is this wrong of me? Im kind of confused and its hard to keep it from my friend but i know if i told them i was happy theyd think i was a bitch ..what do i do??

its ok to be happy that shes moving.. just dont show it.. try to comfort your friends and have a good time with them, but yea, your friends might think you were a bitch if you said you were happy, so i just wouldnt say anything

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