hey. my name is christina benavente. and i am 13 years old. i am so good at giving people advice. if you have any questions about anything just ask me! hope you ask all the questions in the world! bye!
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well im 13/f. i used to hang out with this group of 5 girls. but then 4 out of the five started ignoring me slowly but surely. the other girl stayed with me and got ignored too. the girl and i decided that we would not talk to them as much. then we gave them antoher chance and became "friends" again with the other 4. that happened again 2 more times. so then it was happening again so we decided to make new friends and not talk to the 4 girls forever. it was going as planned. we made new friends and had fun. but then the 4 girls called and said sorry and asked for another chance last night. so seeing that we all knwon each other since we were 3 we missed the 4 girls, so we gave in. our parents knew about this whole thing. so today instead of sitting with our new friends we sat with the 4 girls for lunch. the friend that stuck with mes mom found out. now the girl is forbidden to sit with them and hang out with them. because he mom doesnt want her daughter to hang out with people who ignore her. also one of the 4 girls from the group is labelled as a slut. so the girl who stuck with mes mom doesnt want her daughter to be that. now the new friends we made are mad at us, because we basically didnt talk to thjem at all today. so my mom doesnt really care and is letting me make me own decisions. so now i want to talk to the 4 girls, my friend who stuck with me, and the new friends. i cant talk to all of them. also about sitting with them at lunch. i cant just ditch my friend who stuck with me. but i really want to sit with the 4 girls. my friend either sits by herself or with the new friends(if they forgive her). what should i do? i need help ASAP! (link)
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well the girl who stuck with you is such a good friend! she's what i call a true blue friend. and those girls who ditched you guys, they're not worth it! you should never ditch somebody who has been such a true friend. and i advice that you shouldn't ditch any of them. just make time to spend with both groups (if your new friends forgive you). and about the party, it's not our decision for you to go or not but it's yours. but if i were in your situation i wouldn't go and leave my friend for some party the person that ditched me is having. good luck..hope everything works out! bye!
.christina*
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PLEASE READ. need adive now. =DD
background info:13.f -- alright so i have a really good best friend who ive known since kindergarten. (amanda) she considers all the people who sit at our lunch table to be her 'best friends'. but they're all quite annoyed by her. We had a chat about her, and she never gets invited anywhere, and while i admit that i was part of those things -- i hated it. so my other best friend was having a 'party' this weekend, and amanda figured, "oh ill be invited," and when she wasnt she asked me if my other best friend still liked her.
& what was i supposed to do? If someone didnt like me id want to know. so, i told her. and she got really upset and started to cry. and she decided to corner my other best friend and ask about everything. I asked her to say i hadn't told her -- but she did.
So my other best friend did what she always does, and denied everything, the chat, parties, behind back talking -- everything. And amanda being who she is, forgave her without even an explanation.
I got back from school that day and signed online and my other best friend was reall p/oed. she kept yelling, 'ew' at me. and saying things like, 'you screwed yourself over more than you did me' and then stated she didnt want to be my friend anymore. So tell, me -- how am i screwing her over by telling someone SHE DOESNT LIKE, thats she doesnt like her?
Being in seventh grade, theres drama. its funny how many people hate my other best friend. You love her or you hate her.and up till this point, id pretty much been her follower. and then she jujst makes everything more confusing by putting amanda on her away message. why would she do that if she hates her? trust me, she hates her.
and during the im conversation, i said i was sorry a million times. because i hate getting into fights especially with this one friend. she freaked out even more. and was being quite a bitch. so of course, things work out really crappy. shes not mad at amanda, but now she says im not even her friend. i didnt go to lunch yesterday becuase i had no place to sit, so i stood out by my locker the whole time. Its almost my birthday and it'd be a sucky present to lose who ive considered one of my best friends.
Help? adive -- opinions? please. ill rate 5s for any help if you bothered reading this thing. xx (link)
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well..i can actually relate to this problem because i'm in 7th grade and it's happened to me..so many times. it's ok that you told amanda that your best friend doesn't like her. it's not your fault that your best friend isn't your friend anymore. it wasn't right for your best friend to lie to her. and it wasn't right for amanda to tell your best friend that you told her when you asked her to tell her. just give them some space and things will just go back to normal. or just try talking to amanda or your other best friend about it. hope i helped! bye!
.christina*
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The girl with loads of confidence seem to have it all. All the gilrs want to be "her" and all the guys want to date her. The girl that gets good grades and a varsity ahlete. My question is how does she reach the level of complete control over her own life-the confidence-likeable personality.Where does it all come from? my goal is to become her but a better version "me" without being completely fake. it woul dmean the worl to me if I had advicenators to help me out. THANKS YOU! (link)
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well..i think the why she's like that is because she has self-confidence. thats how a person has everyone wanting to be her and all the guys wanting to date her. i'm not saying to act like her all i'm saying is to have confidence in yourself. just act like you're with someone who is very close to you. in other words be yourself. hope i helped! bye! have a great summer!
.christina*
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ok so, my school is having a dinner dance. my best friend and i were going to ask the ppl we like to it today after school. BUT these to guys, who we are kinda friends with and like us, asked us to the dance. but when she went on the bus today, she asked the 2 guys that we like, what they would say if we asked them. they said they would have said yes!!!!! what the hell should we do? we are in need of some serious advice!!!! thanks
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well you should go out with the people who asked you to the dance. i mean who knows? maybe you and them could become closer. and then after that you can go somewhere with the guys you like. or it could be the other way around. good luck! and have fun at the dance! bye
.christina*
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ok so their is this one boy and i really like him. i finally got the courage to tell him and when i did he told me he like me lots too. i was so incredable happy! then a few weeks after that their was a party that we bolth went to and we hung out and ended up making out on the floor.
but little did i know his ex girlfriend walked in the room and spoiled it. he didnt care but i did it felt so wierd! so i told him and he had been calling me prude. every friday my friends and i go hang out at this place and he was their and we ended up making out their too. but then some how my mother found out and she said that she didnt want me to have any relationship with him. so i tried getting over him. i went to another party and he wasnt their and this one guy i had a crush on for 2 years was their and we ended making out! it was so much fun. but then it got around school. then i found out that the guy i had like for 2 years was going to ask out my friend. and he didnt really like me. i was devistated. then the boy i had made out with twice told me he still liked me and of coarce i still liked him. but then he started flirting with other girls ALL THE TIME! i have been dealing with this FOREVER and the other night i told him i couldnt take it anymore and i couldnt like him i also told him i just wanted to be friends. he sat down and looked like he was going to cry and i dont know if he did because he was wearing glasses. but then he still had enough happyness to be all over another girl. so i felt bad so i went to talk to him and he said that i was the player and the flirt and i told him all the girls he was flriting with that night. then he told me that they where all over him. i had upset him so much he didnt want anything to do with me. what do i do? do i say im sorry? do i stay mad at him for LIFE? what in the world do i do? i NEED advice badly!
if it makes a difference im only 14 and he is too.
thanks! :)
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well for one you should apologize to him. you shouldn't stay mad at him forever since he doesn't really like you anymore. you should just accept it. even though it's hard to swallow you'll get over it. there are other fish in the sea. and there'll be other guys who will like you and won't be all over girls at a party after you dump them. hope you have a wonderfel summer! good luck! bye
-.christina*
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I have a crush on this kid in my grade and the thing is i don't even like know him...I never talk to him and when he comes online i go onto my friends sn to talk to him because they talk more...i don't know why i like him and i think it is ridiculous but i really want a way to be closer to him and start talking any suggestions? (link)
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well..the first thing you should do is like have your friend introduce you to him (to make it a little bit more easier) or introduce yourself to him (if you have enough confidence). i mean after the introduction he will know you. then you should take it one step at a time like when you guys pass in the hall just like say hi to him. then you guys can like hang out during lunch or afterschool. thats what i would do if i were in your situation. hope everything turns out good! have a great summer! bye
-.christina*
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hey, well my boyfreind sorta gets into alot of trouble in school and such. so his parents just kicked him out of his own home. so now hes living with his grandma. but before he left to go to his grandmas his parents took his cell phone. his grandma also doesnt have a computer .. so that means no AIM. so basically now the only time i see him is in school. he metioned to me that his grandma doesnt like him using her phone so theres really no way of communicating. this makes me quite upset and i dont know what to do. please help. cait♥ (link)
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you just have to deal with it. i mean it's better to see your boyfriend in school then not see him at all. i mean, it's not your fault he gets in so much trouble! so basically, just deal with it. or just find a time where you and him can go shopping, go to the movies, or just have some alone time. good luck and have a great summer! bye
-.christina*
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hi i have a boyfriend named and we were talkin for a while then he asked me out on monday.. we like each other alot and things were going really good. but he has this girl who liked him since 9th grade they are friends though i dont care that there friends but she doesnt like me ever since we started goin out. but she doesnt know me or anything about me. i dont like drama i dont involve myself with it. so shes hating on me and him. i really like him and i want to contiue being wit him but this girl is jus gonna keep starting trouble with me. my sister told me to tell him that if he cant tell the girl to not disrespect me then to break up wit him.
wat should i do
signed: boyfriend troubles
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well i agree with your sister. i mean this girl doesn't have any business with you and your boyfriend! this is what you should understand: that she is only ragging on you because she's jealous that you're going out with her old crush. and really. follow your sisters advice. good luck! and have a great summer!bye
-.christina*
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Should i be worried if the boy i like called another girl that likes him .. But my friend says that they only talked on the phone for 2 minutes. should i worry about it? or wonder whats goin on with them?
xox - brandy marie (link)
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ok..you should only be worrying if he's your boyfriend. and since you didn't mention thatyou guys are going out then i don't think you should be buttin into somebodys business when it has nothing to do with you.
-.christina*
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I know this may seem stupid. but i cannot stand freaking "popular" people. i have an advice collumn, and everyday i have a different message in my inbox from them like "stop being jelous of the popular people" or "why dont you wear preppy clothes and dress like everyone else? you'll never be popular if you do." and i sware im not jealous, and i wear all the same clothes they do. why do they think there the best? there really not that great. and i know im not a loser, so why do they call me one? they are all extremely mean, and full of themsleves. i dont want to be friends with them, but is there any way i can make them stop this? i really cant take it anymore and its really lowering my self esteem. pleaes i need help as soon as i can get it! thank you so so much!
love always.
oh bye the way if you are one of the popular people at your school, i'm really sorry im not being steriotypical and saying all popular poeple are like that. so please dont take thi the wrong way! (link)
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well, those people who keep on telling you to act the same as the "popular" crowd just tell them that it's not your thing to look and act like everyone else. and when the popular people are like being really mean to you it just means that they're jealous of something you have that they don't. good luck! and have a great summer! bye
-.christina*
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hey im 15/f and today this girl brooke shes a grade ahead of me. And today she was just talking and she said she had to write a story for english class. And before she talked about this kid named cody and i "hooking up" but i only like him as a friend. But she is trying to hook us up and she keeps on embarrasing us and saying that we want each other bad and crap like that. Which is really making me mad! SERIOUSLY! and i told them i didn't like him. But her english story was about this girl named ashley because thats who i am. And she said that i was madly in love with cody and stuff like that. And at the end i guess he ditched me and me and his new girlfriend got in a fight. Which is really stupid. I mean cody is the class clown i like him as a friend hes funny and yea. But im getting sick and tired everyday she says that we want each other and we know it blah blah bla is there anything i can say or anything to make her stop.. ANYTHING! and im not a nark i dont go and tell teachers or anything i'll rate 5s! Thanks alot (link)
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well. if this girl brooke keeps on making fun of you and cody then why don't you ask her to stop? i mean be like "hey why are you picking on me and cody? we don't like eachother that way". i mean don't make it rude but just make it as polite as possible. but if that doesn't work just try to ignore it. good luck! bye!
-.christina*
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This guy and I we have always had a connection through the way we smile and the look in our eyes, we knew we had a connection but we never told each other whats more, we didnt talk alot.
At the prom I asked him whether he ever had a cush on me, he said he did for a year or so but then 'he got the feeling we were just friends' I thought that meant he stopped having a crush on me. My friend on the other hand said 'whattt no!! that means he wasnt getting the right signals from you'..so im perplexed to what he meant by that...i never asked him whether he still had a crush on me, but through the prom he kept holding onto me asking me to dance and impulsiveley kissing me on the cheek...do u think theres something there?? what do u think he meant? anyways take care xxx (link)
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your friend is so right! he so got the right vibes from you. if he was holding onto you the whole prom and kissing you on the cheek well duh! he likes you! and if i'm right then you should ask him out! hope it goes well..take care! bye
-.christina*
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im supposed to think of 3 different types of songs for our 8th grade farewell dance (im on student council) and i need a "Rap/hip hop" song, a "slow" song and a "overall" song..by overall they mean how the year meant..and it was good and bad and i cannot think of ANY!
5s for anything.and i mean anything! (link)
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well for my 8th grade graduation we had "graduation friends" by Vitamin C. it was a really good song to play because it described what our year as 8th graders and as the years from the past years we all had together. good luck! and i hope you use the song! bye!
-.christina*
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A couple days ago, on myspace, I was on my friends page, and I saw this guy [one of his skater friends] and I thought he was hott and he lives in my town, and he's my age, so I figured I'd add him as a friend because there are good chances of us already knowing each other. Well it turned out to be one of my ex-boyfriends from a few years ago. You know. We dated when we were young. I was like 13-14 or something. Now I am 17 & He's 18. Well when we were together he liked me a lot and he was really sweet and everything. Like a perfect boyfriend, but we were young, so it really didn't matter. Well now we found out who each other is, and we can't believe we are talking again after these years have gone by. Well the problem is, I have been talking to him again for a couple of days and we talk on the phone and stuff, but he tells me how cute I am, and he brags about me, and he TELLS ME HE LOVES ME. I don't know what to do. I don't want to ignore him anymore, I just want to be friends because I have my most recent ex boyfriend whom I love very much and he just got a job for me and everything. (link)
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well. if you just want to be friends with him just tell him. i mean don't be like "i dont' like you anymore i just want to be friends" because that would be very rude. but i advice you to say it in a way he would understand and not have a nervous break down. be like "i had feelings about you back then but i don't have them now. i just wanna be close friends" something like that.but don't use my exact words. ok..good luck! hope he understands
-.christina*
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i hate it when people talk about me behind my back but unfortunatly people do. and i dont know how to deal with it anymore. i used to ignore it but i cant anymore and im ready to snap. what should i do? (link)
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well. if people are talking about you behind your back then i'd advice you to ignore it. but since you can't take it anymore then this is what i have to say. even if they make ufn of something about you just remember it's something you like. it's what makes you you. good luck! bye
-.christina*
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ok so im a freshman in high school (15 yrs old) and like every weeekend someone in our grade has a party at their house.. and of course there's drinking. a lottt of people go.. and it's always the thing that everyone is talking about the week after that in school.. i havent gone to any yet.. but i really want to. what are some tips to like "fake drink" or only drink a little? (link)
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don't do it! never try drinking. not even a little. because even if it's a little drink it'll still have a big effect on your health. and if people tell you to just say "no". i know it might be hard but you won't regret it. good luck. and hope you don't ever drink since you're underage.
-.christina*
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