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I want to be "her"
The girl with loads of confidence seem to have it all. All the gilrs want to be "her" and all the guys want to date her. The girl that gets good grades and a varsity ahlete. My question is how does she reach the level of complete control over her own life-the confidence-likeable personality.Where does it all come from? my goal is to become her but a better version "me" without being completely fake. it woul dmean the worl to me if I had advicenators to help me out. THANKS YOU!
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well..i think the why she's like that is because she has self-confidence. thats how a person has everyone wanting to be her and all the guys wanting to date her. i'm not saying to act like her all i'm saying is to have confidence in yourself. just act like you're with someone who is very close to you. in other words be yourself. hope i helped! bye! have a great summer!
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let me tell you about my experiance.
I was SO self conscious and unaware of my purpose.
i thought i meant nothing to anyone cuz i was fat and ugly right?
so i started talking to a good friend, and he helped me gain confidence by telling me that i could acheive great things, and the only person stopping me is me. No one can control you and only you have control of how people see you. Walk with your face towards people coming from the other way. look people straight in the eye when you talk to them. Don't be afraid to say what you think. YOU can make a difference.
Once i gained my confidence, i realized that i dont need anyone, esspecially a guy, to be happy and make a difference. Then this amazing guy asked me out. and i said yes. It's been 6 months and going.
You don't need to change anything on the outside like wearing makeup and losing weight. I'm no gorgeous model. I just have confidence and i've gotten more friends and a great boyfriend.
Hope i helped!
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It probably comes from being pressured. By her peers, by her parents--it's all the same. Trust me, you don't want to be the girl who has everything. You'll have nothing to look forward to. Don't try to change yourself. Instead, just look at the good things about yourself and focus on loving yourself for who you are. That's how you get confidence. You don't need to be perfect to be happy.
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Basically, never question anything you do. Don't think twice about what you're wearing or what you say. It also helps if you are able to laugh at yourself along the way. If you ever feel embarrassed, laughter is key. If others know that you're okay with the really stupid thing you just did, they'll be less likely to talk about it in a negative way. You're obviously going to make mistakes--everyone does--but handle them with grace. Good luck with everything!
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my advice to you is if you really want to be her put ur own spin on it. Like if she eats a certain way or does her hair a certain way. Don't completely copy it. If she has her hair in a braid, make it a french braid. If she brings up stories about her family when shes talking to people, bring up stories about your teachers or other classmates. all im saying is if you really want to be this girl try to be her at a different angle. put your own touch on things. kk? hope everything works out babe..
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Don't try to be anyone else, it won't get you anywhere, trust me. Be happy for who you are, and keep yourself focused on the things in life that are really important. Just be yourself, but if you have something you think you need to improve in your personality, go for it. Just don't try to change yourself into a whole different person, or wish you were someone else. I use God as my role model, and try to be more like him because I know everything that He stands for is right. I don't know if you believe in God, but I know that God is my role model, but if you don't, use someone else you know as yours if you like. Good luck =)
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