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Hmm.. What kind of advice can I give? Any kind you'd like. Advice on relationships (all types) Getting out of trouble(my specialty) Sarcasim is always fun.
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Okay hey
well, I have this really big crush on my chorus teacher. and this isnt one of those eww god these ppl have problems kind of things so dont think that. But anyways. im 16 and he is 26. He is really really cute and he is just so sweet and funny, and REALLY flirtatious. A lot of my friends see that. I even tlak to this guy online and stuff. and he blocks EVERYONE unless they are on his buddylist, and he put me on it. Anyways... I think about him non stop. And if i have a problem, then he is always there to help me out with it and everything. and if i am faking a guy problem thing, then he is always there to help me out. A lot of my friends say that they seriously with no doubt in their minds, think that he likes me but he just wont say or do anything becasue of his job. And everyday it seems to get more and more serious about him. And now he's all telling me to stop hanging out with my friends and everything becase they are bad influences( he said this after i asked him to help me with singing lessons) and that felt like soemthing a bf would do. And i would do anything in the world for this guy and its really serious... What do i do?
-Shakenya
Probably the thing to do is just continue to talk to him. Make him feel more and more comfortable around you, stay after school, get "singing lessons" that cause you to have to stay after alll the time. He probably wouldn't confess it to one of your friends, just because they're young too. Wait a little bit longer, hang out with him some more, and then make a move. This is an interesting story! Let me know if he does anything after awhile. He's probably scared to go forth with something like this, it could mean his career if he gets caught. So don't tell too many people who you can't trust.
Ok - I recently got a petsitting job about 3 weeks ago. It's great and I love it!!! But my boss is hitting on me. He's a older guy around his late 40 - 50`s (I am not good with age) And his wife owns it. She is the sweetest lady. Well me and him went on a client interview and somehow he brushed aganist my butt with his hand, I was thinking hmm ok whatever. Then just at different times it seem ackward, he was like after you and wanted me to go first and different things like that. Well when I first meet him I sorta did have this weird feeling in my stomach, but just thought it was nervousness. Well then I had to go over his house to pick up invoices for the clients. And I walked up and he was on the pourch and before we went in the house we were talking and he reached towards my lips and I backed away I am like what what he's like you had a hair .. and reached again well I took my hand and like rubed it across my face I am like oh ok. And that was weird. Well I told my mom about it and she said that that is very weird and everything and it's up to me if I want to quit my job or not. I mean I love it so much, it's just that freaks me out. My mom said whenever I was going someplace and we knew he would be there, she would go with me. But I'm just afraid since he knows my schedule what if I go to a clients house and go inside and he's in there .. or what if he's stalking me watching me walk around the dogs. Whats really weird too is that he always wears sunglasses and smokes cigars. I don`t know what to do tho. Also their was a misunderstanding about one day I was suppose to work and he like curked out on me. Then when I had to go to his house (my mom came with me) he was like calm. It's really weird. What would you do?? :-/
Well you should probably tell his wife. If he's doing stuff like that then she should know. However, she might be too naive to believe you and you could possibly end up getting fierd. It's all about what you think you should do. If you don't do something about it, it more than likley won't stop. He's going to keep hitting on you until you do something about it. If it starts getting more out of control do something immediatly! He could have the urge to go further, like rape or something like that. If it gets too bad, quit your job if talking to the wife doesn't work. If he still hasn't stopped, go to the police.
My best friend likes this one guy, but secretly I like him, and I think he likes me! I read in her diary, which she let me read, trhat she was mad for him! What can i do!
Ohhh that's a tough desision. But be carful, I got into this with one of my good friends sometime last year, it's NOT worth messing up a BEST friendship... you don't want to do that, a guy you like isn't worth fighting over, I had to learn that the hard way.
hey..
What kinds of clothes and accessories do you suggest getting for back to school things? I am entering high school this year and I want to know what you all think! Also..it would be nice if you had any tips for fashion in high school or any tips on high school in general!? Thanks so much!
Alright, highschool isn't going tobe too big of a transaction. Basically, you should wear what you did in Jr. High, there's no need to change. I don't have any different stores that people didn't already name off, except maybe Pac Sun, and Buckle.
When you go to highschool you don't need to act cool, but being outgoing is the BEST way to make friends. You're going to make tons of new friends and probably grow distance from old ones. Just try to keep your group, and make it bigger. Don't be afraid to talk to people, most of them won't bite your head off. And don't be afraid to be different. Dress different, set trends in some sort of way. Just basically to survive highschool don't try to make other people happy, do what you want, and don't forget to have fun.
I had asked a question about denial..and I thought I would elaborate to make it easier to comprehend the question. Just for your knowledge and information, I am a 14 year-old girl. Someone was saying I have muscle tone in my cheeks and I was like what!? Then he said "Denial is the first stage?" What does this mean? Thanks!
Denial means that you know that it's true, but you don't want to admit it. You don't want to except the fact that it's true, so you hide it and try and deny it, hence the word, denial.
Hey!I am 14 almost 15(august 17)and me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2months.And he says i am perfect and like the "one".And says that we will be together forever.And i feel the exact same way too.And he asked me to marry him and i said yes!But we are not going to get married till we are out of school!But did i do the right thing about saying yes???ill rate you if u answer!~Kristen~
Well, honestly I think ya'll are somewhat too young to be talking about getting married at the age you're at. I have had alot of freinds in the past who've though they were going to be with their boyfriends forever, and at the age of 15 and 16. But two months AT THE AGE you're at, is too young to tell anything. I would re-vise your awnser to that a little bit. More than likley this is the point ya'll are just getting started in a long-term relationship, which is AWESOME. But I would hold out talking about marrige so soon.
okay. there is this kid that has been in love with me for like 3 years. he constantly used to bother me at school and on the internet and stuff. not to be superficial or anything like that but this kid smells so bad you can't breathe around him - no lie. two summers ago, he told me he loved me and i said " ew" and he threw a glass bottle at me. after that i didn't talk to him for a while. then i decided i was too mean and decided to talk to him again.. but his obsession with me got HORRIBLE. finally at the end of my junior year he was pestering me and i couldnt take it anymore and i screamed at him to leave me alone. then after school i was walking to work, and i saw him in my field on the way there. i freaked out and didnt know what to do so i let him talk and after that i didnt want anything to do with him because seriously this kid is MESSED UP ( like OCD and anxiety disorder). i just dont know what to do when i go back to school and have to see him again. hellllpppp!
Tell someone about it. Let someone who can do something about it know. If the kid is seriously that messed up then he needs to be stopped. It doesn't seem like this kid is all right in the head. If you're in your jr. year already and the kid hasn't learned about deoderant, then that should indicate something right there. But if he's becoming like that, it could get serious. Tell someone who will be able to do something about it, and let friends know, tell them to watch out for him when you're around. And if possible, try to avoid walking alone.. I mean if you realize he's becoming that serious
weLL im back again.
*im kinda tryin to move on from that one boi but not fully. i like this kid who i've only talked to online and who seems really cool. we're suppose to hang out sometime soon and just i guess get to know each other and whatever BUT theres another girl [as always with the guys i like] and its not like we're tiite but we talk a lot and stuff. idk if i should back off cause they were kinda talking first but i guess if they were REALLLY talking then they'd be going out right? what do i do
Well don't back down if they're not going out. But you shouldn't have to compete to be with this boy. Don't wait around for him to make a choice. Spend some time with him in person get to know him and see if he's really worth fighting for. And if ya'll do build into something or both start to have strong feelings for each other, then maybe you should ask him about her and what your status is, or her's. Just make sure he's worth the fight, but try not to compete with the girl, just be yourself. I hope everything works out for you!
i want guyz to answer this quest. girlz, u can also answer it too! ther is this boy that i like, and he has a girl, but he also has or used 2 have a crush on this other girl. It looks like wants to approach me, but im always with my friends. I don't know if he likes me, but some1 told him i liked him. Im really shy, so how can i know if he likes me, and how can i make the first move? im flirty, so yes, i do have a column here. crazyflirty@yahoo.com
Well you like him yes, but don't forget that he's involved with another person. If you're shy and you want to talk to him, maybe start off easy like finding his screen name and talking to him on the internet, then gradually build up to the phone and in person. But I would have to say i think it would be best if you waited till he ended it with his other girlfriend, when cheating comes up, someone always gets hurt. :-/