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Q: so when i was in 6th grade going into 7th i did something really stupid.

it resulted in me loosing all my friends.

EVERYONE and i mean EVERYONE found out about it...

i am now 16 and it still hounts me.

like people sitll bring it up

what i did was not murder or naything against the law. just really emabrresing. when anyone says it to me like "u the girl who..." i cry ont he spot.

what can i do? its been like 4 years already and no one forgets it!!! like i cant go anywehre without someone knowing about me.

im scraed to go for a guy bc they wont want me bc of that..

If you want to write to my inbox and tell me a little more vividly of whats happend I will try my best to help your out hun.

Q: okay my problem is. . i take everything WAYYY TOO SERIOUSLY. like i need to relax i know and just not think about little things that botehr me but sometimes i just feel like i need anger mangment my mom makes me GO CRAZY! she yells all the time and its hard to control myself and i just stress over stupid thinngs, making little stuff a big deal and im just really frustreated and mad

tell yur mom yud like to get a counceler &&` if she doesnt get yu one go talk to yur school counceler about getting a counceler outside of school. ii`m sure one of htem will set something up for yu. ii have been doing counceling sense i was very young its all about finding the counceler that clicks, that yu can get along with

Q: well i'm a teenage girl who is dating this amazing guy again (2nd date this weekend) and well, it's just that i've never really had a real relationship like this before and I'm not sure what i'm doing. After this weekend when I kiss him for the first time on our date, do I wait and see if he calls me? Or should I call him? (he says he'd call me about this weekend but he hasn't yet- even though i was the one who first asked him)

helppp me

Theres nothing wrong with calling a guy instead of him calling yu. so if he hasnt called yet then call him =] just dont call like 987124987124 times cause ive done that before and it tends to make them nervous hehehe. good luck on yur date sweetie =] iif i didnt give good enough advice just hit up my inbox and i will try harder

Q: Dizty Girls?
Pretty Girls?

Do they like smart girls? cause like today, he pulled out my math test which was a 98 and he was like "ha ur a f*cking smartass" But i dont like brag or anything, cause i hate bragging.

They like girls who make them laugh right?

Do they also look at smile, cause okay, i can smile and my teeth at pretty white except for one teeth which is yellowish, cause its a filling. and i hate it, so i like hate smiling in front of him...

Do they like girls with big eyes?

And lastly, do they liek girls who flirt. Cause im not the "extreme flirting type." cause i get nervous.

Thanks!!!!!

Yes most guys like girls that can make them laugh cause it means they feel comfterble around you and that you guys get along. Dont worry about one stinkin tooth my teeth arent perfect but guys say they love my smile anyways, it means yur a happy person. yur eyes dont have to be big but its just sorta the look yu have in them you know what i mean? guys also like girls that flirt but being subtle about it sometimes works.

I hope i helped!
goodluck

Q: Im 15 and a female..a freshman in highschool of that helpss anywayss
so theres this guy that i have liked since the beggining of the year. He is my best friend ( who is a guy) best friends. So we tend to be at the same place at the same time. I really like him but the one time i tried to tell him everything got out of hand...i want to tell him and it seems like he is somewhat into me but hes really bad at showing his feelings. What should i do? keep it a secret? forget about him and move on? or what? PLEASE HELP ME!

I say yu invite him to hang out at your house or something just you two.. Maybe watch a movie lights out And stuff. Either tell him right there "I know we are good friends but i sort of like you as more" and see what he says or when he goes to leave give him a hug goodbye and wisper in his ear "i like you" Or if that seems to much just start hanging out more just you to and maybe goof around and gut cuddly feely that sort of thing.

You should never hide yur feelings atleast not for ever and if things dont work out i`m sure yu guys can keep being friends and just move on and find a different guy. Life goes on remember that. yu sound like a sweet girl i think you can get a good guy ;)

Q: Does anyone know if theres a way I can have voicemails from my cell phone traced to find out who left them? I want to ask the police but im not sure if they can do that. Also, is there any way I can have IMs traced back? Or to get the people who own the screen names in trouble? The harrassment is out of control. Thank you :)

Ofcoarse You can go to the police about this and they would be most happy to help you. herassment is not ok anywhere in the world. If you dont want to go alone i suggest yu bring a friend or parent. xoxo maddie

Q: so a guy from work (we are just friends) asked me to the movies tonight and i talked to my stepmom and she automatically said no because hes too old for me and she doesnt know anything about him, and i told her she could meet him and everything
im going to be 17 in september hes turning 19 tomaro...whats wrong with that?
♥

Parents are so odd. I dont kno how to answer this question because Im in the same situation only he is 19 and im fifteen. the best thing you can do I guess is just try talking to your mom tell her that he is only 2 years older and she can meet him. Maybe have him come over your house to hang out someday so she can feel comfterble with him and then go out to the movies? thats all i kno but
if you want to talk just give me yur IM or email or something and ill try to help more!

Q: i was rapped--twice.and i was telling my cousin about it (online) and her sn is sord of like this perverted (but we were cool) kids sn..and i ACCIDENTALY IMed him insted of my cousin..so he knows all about my rape. he now hates me..and i tried talkin to him but hes being rude and wont talk to me and if he does its an insult. then he IMed me and was like,"im ganna tell everyone" and went on his away message and it said " (my name) GOT RAPED!"im soo upset..my friend offered for her bf to beat him up..but hes not answering his phone or anything.. (2 people know about the rape)..WHAT SHOULD I DO??!!
anything will help at this point

love always and forever
sam

I kno this probly isnt the best answer but id have yur friends bf beat the shit outa of him. Sweetie I was raped to and if anyone is going to mock that yu were raped then they deserve to get the shit kicked out of them. Its not right. people did it to me and they got what they diserved

Q: mainly for guys

Last monday my friend wrote "i love you" in german on my assignment book. (when i got to my next class i had another friend translate it) so the next day i wrote a letter asking him if he really felt that way cause he likes to play jokes on me. and he said yes and asked me out. i told him i'd give him an anwser tomorrow (which is tomorrow) i am gonna say no cause no offense hes not my boyfriend type and kind of ugly. how do i tell him no with out recking our friendship? i want guys advice cause i want to know the least hurtfull way to do it. thanks, i'll give 5's

Guys are sometimes weird in this way. I think that if you just tell him you dont feel like having a relationship right now that he will understand and just move on. Just be nice and continue being regular friends like him. Eventualy he will just go back to acting like friends to.

Q: my friend asked the guy i like to go w/ me to this thing and yesterday she was like did u talk to her he said no and then she asked him if he was gonna go and he said i had to ask him myself my thing is tho im soooooooo shy and i kno i can ask but im scared! not necessarily of rejection just scared in general of whats gonna happen cuz im a really cautious person and you know how they say throw caution to the wind? well not that easy for me is it ok to be scared? im so stressed over this i dont know waht to do please help!

sweetie he said that yu have to ask him first
which means hes basicly waiting for yu to just
ask him! so all yu reall yhave to do is just ask
and he wont say no because he already basicly
said if yu ask hes going! so dont sweat it ask and then go to this thing with him! it should be fun and maybe yu guys will hit it off really well and something could happen!

Q: hi my name is julie and this guy at my school grabs my ass every once in a while. do u think that is ok? he is kinda hott!!! do u think that is a sign of him liking me? cause i actually kinda like it when he does that is it ok or is that harrassment even though i like it?
julie

If yu like it then I guess let him do it but. I dont think he actualy like likes yu. Last year I would have thought the guy liked me if he grabbed my ass but now I know that they are grabbing it because they have a physical and sexual attraction to you but nothing else. If there was something else he would respect you and not do that.

Q: theres this dance at schoo and these two girls who like me im afraid are going to ask me to dance with them.i really rather wouldnt dance with them but i want to go to the dance. any advice to help me avoid them?

Just simply say "i dont feel like dancing but thanks" or something like that.. it shouldnt hurt them unless they are dramatic

Q: On friday there will be an all day party at my school *kind of like a pep rally day where all we do is relax n have fun* well at this party theres a dj n dancing, everyone gets verry into it with like freak dancing and stuff like that. also after school im going to another party at a friends house where the same thing will be taking place. my problem is im scared to dance with guys like i dunno if i can dance the right way or any of that and im scared to just for the fact of getting laughed or something. Any suggestions on how i culd go about dancing and havin fun? any other tips? THANKS A BUNCH!!

It's pretty simple. its all about your legs nd hips but sometimes running your fingers through your hair looks good to while your dancing.. its more sensual if you softly play witrh your hair.

Bend your legs a little and just move around with your hips (dont keep your legs locked in one place) and also dont move your hips to much.

Watch the other females around you dance and just try to learn what they are doing..

GOod luck nd have fun

Q: I feel really moronic asking this because it's stupid and one of those annoying Valentine's Day questions, but it would be really nice if someone could try to help. I'm 13 in the 7th grade and I've really liked this guy named Will for a long time. He's not quite a best friend, but a friend nevertheless. I was wondering whether on Valentine's Day it would be stodgy to send him a carnation (the school is selling carnations on Valentine's Day to donate money to child prostitutes in India) anonymously? I don't think he would laugh because he's a pretty romantic and sensitive guy himself. What do you think?

I deff think you should send it to him!!

but if you like him more then a friend i have an idea!

You should send him the carnation signed.. "your secret admirer.. If you are interested in knowing who i am email me at _____" and your email...

Then chat with him on the email slowllllly letting him know who you are.. nd seee if he is interested..

GOod luck and deff send the flower

Q: alright it always seems that when my brother has friends over that im always home, because all my friends are busy and there is no one to talk to on the phone. Now his friends are really hot so i dont want them to think im a loser its just a cowinsdense (sp) that im home when he has his friends over, and no i dont do it on purpose. I try calling people to talk so i dont look like a dork but of course no one is home when i need them . What do around the house so they dont think im a loser? and i know like watching t.v or something but last time i did that one of his friends went " why is she sitting there watching tv"
ill rate high for ANYTHING.

AWw I wish I new you so I could help you more!

If worst comes to worst I think you should go for a walk and stay out for a while so it seems like your hangin out with someone =p.. I know that sounds boring but its better then looking stupid..

Or try making new friends especialy guyyys so that you can invite a guy over and your brothers friends will be like damnnn she popular with the guys..

its not much but i hope i helped

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I'm 17 years old and in the few years i've lived upon this earth I have been throug many and most things that are possible to happen. I wish to ilve my life helping others, this truly brings me happiness. Feel free to ask whatever you wish and ill do my best to satisfy yu with a decent answer.