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i did something stupid...
so when i was in 6th grade going into 7th i did something really stupid.
it resulted in me loosing all my friends.
EVERYONE and i mean EVERYONE found out about it...
i am now 16 and it still hounts me.
like people sitll bring it up
what i did was not murder or naything against the law. just really emabrresing. when anyone says it to me like "u the girl who..." i cry ont he spot.
what can i do? its been like 4 years already and no one forgets it!!! like i cant go anywehre without someone knowing about me.
im scraed to go for a guy bc they wont want me bc of that..
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arie(:
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i had to deal with this too but i cant really tell the kind of situation you are talking about. you could inbox me and i will try to help you in the same ways that i did for myself if our situations are related at all. eventually people will forget- and if they do not, they aren't the kind of people you need to be accepted by anyways.
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OMG, I know 100% what you're talking about! I think if you want everyone else to let go of the past, you should first. I think the way you cry every time you're reminded of the situation fuels people's memories. Like no one's letting go of it because you cry everytime. If you just say, "Yeah, I know I was so stupid," and just act like you don't even care anymore, I don't think anyone would really have much to say about it.
You're 16. Get over it yourself, and everyone else will too. People think it's funny when someone is upset over their embarrassing moments, so they constantly remind you for the hell of it. I know it sounds wrong but I know.
And if people still remind you even after you like "whatever" continue acting like you just could care less. Don't try to talk back going, "Yeah, well you have no life remembering that about me," or go, "Oh, my God, can you guys just forget it already?" Because if you do, no one would stop.
Maybe, even though it sounds stupid, you should remind them. Like everytime the topic comes up, you go, "Hey, remember that thing in 6th grade? So funny!" So people would think you're proud of it and eventually get tired of it. Whenever someone says an embarrassing moment, you should say, "Yeah, but nothing beats MY moment in 6th grade. Don't even!" If you mention it over and over as much as you can, people might even start going, "Okay, shut up! We all know you did that, stop saying it all the time!" Seriously, it works if you do it right!
It really depends on the situation but I'm sure you wouldn't want to share it. Can I know what was so bad? Maybe it's better adding additional information to this?
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-Jenni Choi ♥
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Everyone does embarrassing things every now and again, no matter how bad it is, it'll go away eventually. I know I've done a few things people STILL remember after YEARS but it's all in good fun after a while. Learn how to accept it with a smile and show then you're strong and they'll get bored of it eventually. Just because you do something stupid, it doesn't mean you're a bad person because of it. It'll be something to laugh about in the future. They just need to grow up. Don't let it get you down, and if your friends desert you for it, find people to accept you for the great person you are. and if you're too embarrassed to start socialising to anyone right now, you can always talk to me. I know what it's like when you feel left out and sometimes you do get scared to try and meet a guy, but you WILL meet someone one day that's right with you, you just have to throw yourself out there, you'll never know until you try. Maybe try to find someone that's out of the district so they don't know about it at first, that way you'll get your confidence back.
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