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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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okay so i've had my period for a little over a year now and my mom makes me use pads because she says tampons arent healthy.
im a cheerleader and i hate the feeling of the blood leaking like how can i tell my mom that i perfer wearing tampons?
Oh my gosh, I am sooo sorry! =\
I'm a cheerleader, and cheering while you are on your period stinks. LITERALLY! Especially if you aren't wearing a tampon. When we stunt, i'm a base and I just about die when I have to lift someone whose on their period. YUCK!
Explain to your mom your worries about cheering. And the explain that you promise to wear them correctly. Tell her you won't wear scented tampons, because those aren't healthy. Talk to her calmly and rationally. Maybe she will understand.
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Does sex hurt the first time you do it? I've never done it, but stories of pain sort of make me nervous. Does it?
It's not unbearable pain. But it does hurt.
If you make sure you are well lubricated the first time, the pain isn't as bad.
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i have a weird question if a girl put a cigeret in her pussy could she quefe and blow out smoke
I would not suggest trying that.
And no.
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How do i get better grades in math.
I stink at math, terribly. I finished my highschool math last year [Junior year] and I don't have any intentions on going further now.
My average grade in math throughout my school career was Cs & Ds. But my Sophomore year I was taking Geometry. I was failing and very upset about it so I talked to my teacher. She set up a tutoring schedule with me 3 times a week, and I managed to pull my grade up to a B. Talk to your teacher and see if she can help you out.
I personally just don't understand any concept of any kind of math. But if you ask for help, you will get it. =]
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i wanna get my bellybutton pierced but i dont know if it will look good on me. is there any like magnetic or clip on bellybutton rings just to try out before i actually get it done? thankss
I think navel piercings look good on anyone.
If you want to get it done, I think you should do it. If you don't like it, you don't have to keep it forever. It's not like a tattoo =]
I'm sure you can find clip ons also. Look online, or google it.
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What age should you start having sex? I really just have to know because I'm afraid I might do it too early or too late. Thanks for the time.
Whenever you are physically, mentally, and emotionally prepared for sex. I also think sex is something you should share only when you are in a stable and loving relationship.
Some aren't ready until after marriage. That's a personal choice.
Some wait until they are a certain age. Once again, that's a personal choice.
No matter what age you are, it's up to you. I lost my virginity when I was fourteen. I have friends that lost it even younger, and I have friends now three years later who are still virgins. I found a boyfriend whom I loved with all my heart and had been with long enough to know that's who I wanted to share that with. You should wait for that.
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There is no early or late age to have sex. It's when YOU are ready. No matter how old or young you are.
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i'm 16 years old and my boyfriend is 22 and he wants to have sex but i dont and he sead ''if we dont then we have to stop going out'' but truely love him and we have been going out for 2 years but if we did have sex he it would be rape right cuz i'ma minnor and thats why i dont want to and i told him that but he still wants to i would have sex but it's illegal so i dont know what to do should i have sex or not (keeping in mind we love each other)????
-Bryona
Your boyfriend is pressuring you. Go back and read your question, and see how much he truely sounds like an asshole. Anyone who says "have sex with me, or we have to break up" isn't someone worth staying with.
You should only have sex because you want to. Not because your boyfriend is too old, and not because your boyfriend wants you to. But because YOU want to.
I think your boyfriend is an ass, and if I were you, I would have left him the day he tried threatening me into sex.
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Do you know why the body rejects it sometimes? What are the symtoms for migration and rejection? I havent got mine done yet. And im really nervous. Has any body died by getting there belly button pierced professionally?? And how bad does it hurt when you get it done??
thanks!
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If you are allergic to the silver, your body will have a bad reaction. My mom could only wear titanium rings, because she would break out if she wore silver or nickel. I've never heard of getting migranes from it though.
A ton of people have their belly buttons pierced, and if a professional does it, you will be fine.
Infections do happen and I suppose can kill you, but as long as you take good care of your piercing, you will be fine. I cleaned mine in the shower, and didn't touch it outside of the shower for like, three months. After about five, I changed the ring and everything healed up great. I'm sure the chances of dying from it are very, very low.
It doesn't hurt to get it done either. They clamp it, stick the needle through, put the ring in, and your all done. After clamping it takes less than 2 minutes I'd say. I honestly didn't think it hurt at all, because the clamp basically cuts of your circulation there, and you can't really feel anything except a pinch. It also may be sore for a few days after too.
I think you should do it. =]
I doubt you will regret it as long as a genuine professional does it, and you take good care of it.
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I just started my birth control and I've taken it for 2 days now. LAst night I had sex with my bf and the condom slipped off. It's the very end of my period and I've taken my pills right those 2 days. Also I followed the instructions on the condom box that says what to do if this situation occurs. What are the chances I'm pregnant?
2 days isn't long enough to get any birth control working yet. Did he ejaculate when the condom slipped off? If so, the chances of you being pregnant are higher than if he didn't. Either way, don't stress out. Stress causes periods to come later, & i'm sure you don't want that :]
I personally think you are fine. If you miss your period this month, take a test.
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hi melody im the one who asked abou the guy likeing me even tho he already has a girl..
well i dont think thats the case with me....cuz even when they were goin out during school he would stare at me and when i looked at him he would turn away it was so akward but i think it was cause he liked me before they started going out but when they did strat to go out he still liked me and was confused and i think even now he still likes me!
but i dont really know and im to scared to ask him if he does it would just be to akward and if he says no ill be heart borken!
what should i do... should i wait to see what happens between him and his girlfriend? or when school starts just try to get to know him better.....he also said that he wished before him and his girlfriend started going out that he would have gotten to get to know me better
so what should i do?
I hate to say it, but my solution to your problem is pretty straight forward and simple. It may not be easy to do, but it's easy to see it's the smartest choice. I know it's hard, but asking him is better than not asking him. The worst he can do is say he doesn't like you in that way. If you would have asked him out before this other girl did, you wouldn't be having this problem now. So you can't be shy with this. I know it's easier said than done, but get up the courage and just ask him. You obviously think he does, because you basically told me he did. So don't be stressed. Just get up the courage and DO IT! =]
I don't think you should interfere with his relationship with this girl. She's nothing but an innocent bystandard. She doesn't deserve to have her boyfriend talk to some girl behind her back. And though you & I don't see you as "some girl", that's exactly how she will see you.
So if you don't ask him if he likes you, this is what's best to do: No longer talk to him because you were to cowardly to see what could have been. And it would be rude to continue talking to a guy you truely liked behind this girl's back.
Doesn't sound fun, does it?
So just ask him and tell him how you feel.
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well i'm 14, female
and there's is this guy that i have liked for almost a year now and in the beginning of the school year we would both flirt with each other (like hugs and things like that) and i knew he liked me... but then he started going out with someone else and after that he made everything so akward between us and we both just stopped taking to each other
but he would always look at me with this look like he was sad or something
well the end of the school year came and i decided to tell him how i always felt about him
so i emailed him on myspace.com and said
that i know you're in love with her but i really like you.... and he read it but never wrote back so a week later we were both on at the same time and he says....."well why do you like me?"
so i told him and he says...." okay can i tell you something that you cant tell anyone? i mean i know i'm going out with.. her but i have to let you know how i feel about you"
so he told me that......" well on the first day of school when you walked into homeroom i was like woah!!! she's is absolutely gorgeous. but i wish that we could have talked more"
so i told him everything to and we kept talking till it was alomost two in the moring and the next day kept talking and the day after that...etc.
well what i wanna know is do you think he likes me?
or have any feelings or something!!
i think he likes me but his girlfriend is the only thing in the way!!!
You know. I went through the exact same situation once in.. I think it was 7th grade? I'm pretty sure.
Anyways, I was absolutely infatuated with this one boy. And there was only two problems.
1) My best friend also liked him &
2) He also had a girlfriend
We talked every night on ICQ, and he would ask me the same questions. Like, why do you like me? And why don't you ever talk to me except online? But the truth was, he completely ignored me at school, and was saying the same thing to my friend every night.
It really sucked.
The truth was, he didn't like me at all. He liked that I liked him so much. And he liked that he was getting so much attention, but as far as liking me? He didn't. I've come to the conclusion that he liked his girlfriend, because if he didn't, he wouldn't have stayed with her for as long as he did. I'm completely over it now, and realize it was just a crush, and if this is the way things turn out for you, just remember that before you know it you'll be looking back and saying, "Did I really LIKE him?!" It really is the truth. I pinky promise.
I have no idea if this is the case for you. But if you want to find out you need to state and ask the following things:
Do you like me?
Do you want to be with me?
If the answer is no to either of those questions, you need to move on and let him and his girlfriend be. If the answer is yes to both those questions, then you need to tell him to break up with his girlfriend if he wants to continue talking to you. If he says no, or gives any excuse to why he can't, then he has no intentions on breaking up with her, and once again you need to leave him alone.
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my mom grounded me for having sex...im 16...wtf...i can do what i want, im almost an adult...sex doesnt have to be about love...how can i make my mom get me out of the house, i want to continue having sex and doing fun shit while i still can...*jer*
You need to chill.
Take this from your mother's point of view. How would you feel knowing your daughter was having sex? You wouldn't like it, I can pretty much guarentee.
For you to almost be an adult, you are being very childish. Sex makes babies. You know that right? If you want to enjoy the fun shit while you still can, having a baby at 16 isn't a good way.
Maybe you should try having a civilized conversation with your mother about it. You whining about having sex isn't a good way to convince her you are mature enough for it.
You owe your mother respect. She raised you, and apparently cares about you, because if she didn't she would allow you to go out and have sex with just anyone.
Sex is about love. Having sex just for the pure hell of it is stupid. If you don't love a person, but have sex with them anyway, you know what that means?
Come on you know the answer, you're almost an adult now, remember?..
A Slut.
I am in no way calling you a slut, but the way you are acting seriously suggests it. I mean think about it. =] You need to use your head and give your mom a break.
I also know you are probably still going to have sex, so when you do be sure to go get birth control and use condoms. You have no idea what some guy could have, no matter where you live.
I hope you get some sense
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i have a boyfriend, and we've been going out for about two months.
i went down on him once towards the beginning and his entire crotch area had a rather unpleasant smell.
sort of like a doughy smell, or something that reminds you of food.
it wasn't pleasant.
i want to give him head again, and i would normally enjoy it, but not with the odor. it makes me sick.
can you think of anything that might cause it to smell like that?
he has normal healthy hygiene habits,
but i've never known a GUY to have a smell.
girls, yes, but not a guy.
thank you.
The crotch area, whether it be a guy or a girl, is not going to smell like roses. It's a constantly enclosed space that doesn't get any oxygen. Add sweaty hot summer days to that, and it's going to smell pretty gross. Same for girls.
The people below me said it may be a yeast infection. And it very well could be. Girls can give them to guys, and though the guys have no symptoms, it probably won't go away until they take antibiotics for it. If you've ever had sex while you have had a yeast infection, that could be the problem. If not, that doesn't neccessarily mean he cheated [though it could]. It may just be something else.
Worst case scenario? And STD. But if a doughy smell is the only problem he's having, I wouldn't accuse him of anything. Next time you have a check-up for you female parts ;) Mention that you think it would be a good idea to get checked for anything, just to be on the safe side.
I personally don't think you have anything to worry about. But if it really concerns you, talk to your OBGYN about it at your next visit.
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Hi there! Im female, fifteen.
I come from a pretty strong Christian family but were still really laid back and dont go to church too often, except for my older sister;; she like owns a church. But her husband is a hardcore evangelist. I dont know what it means to me an evangelist, though.
But my family is reallly blessed and weve had a lot of health problems in the family and quite a few miracles.
Im not sure when, but my parents received a prophecy "Both of your girls will grow up to be missionaries, and so strong will their spirits be that all will forget the mother" or something like that.
But I cant help but have my doubts about that. Thats definitely had favor on my sisters part, but I get nervous when she asks me to pray. And I dont know how to pray in tongues. I dont even know why people do it, like my family. I just dont know HOW.
But my main problem is that being a teenaged girl I feel guilty when I want to pleasure myself. I do, but I always feel so bad afterwards that I cant stand to be in the same room as my mother.
Annd, I dont know what to dooo please help :'[[
You're fifteen years old. If you didn't have some form of sexual feelings I would either:
A) Think you had something wrong with you, or
B) Think you were lying.
It's normal for teenager to think about sex, and it's normal for teenagers to pleasure themselves. I'm not sure if you and your family think that it's a terrible thing or whatever. But it is healthy. And I think if you feel like doing it, then by all means do it. I mean honestly, you aren't the only Christian girl touching themselves, I can almost guarentee it.
The majority of my family are Christians. But my mediate family doesn't go to church. I've been before with friends, and my grandparents a few times. But as far as going religiously? I don't go. I'm sure I commit all sorts of sins everyday. But, I do belive in God more than I believe in anything else. (I sometimes do question it) I think I am a good person, and I don't think any good God would send good people to hell just because they gave into temptation or didn't go to church every Sunday. So why not masturbate? It's healthy and you aren't hurting anyone! You are only human.
I don't want to speak ill of how you and your family pray, but the whole speaking in tongue thing I never really understood. If your parents are understanding, I would consider talking to them about how you are nervous about the prophecy or whatever it was that had you worried. I'm sure they will be able to say something to you to make you feel better about it.
But as far as being sexual with another person? I wouldn't go jumping into that. It's something you do with someone you love. Not something you do because you are horny. If you feel the urge to have sex with someone, pleasure yourself. Like I said, you won't be shot down for it. It's normal. When you find a special guy you want to spend the rest of your life with and you truely love, you can be sexual with them and go as far as you want with them. But until then, wait.
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Ok, I read a story once about a homosexual teen who is confused about his orientation Then this girl comes along and they are in a play together which brings them closer and he eventually decides he's not gay. Then, he's in denial about all of it. Basically, the story has a LOT of ups and downs. I remember reading it and it was REALLY good but I can't remember if it was a book or just some story I read online. Does this sound familiar? I know it was a fictional story, but I just can't remember where I read it. Thanks!
Running with Scissors?
I honestly have no clue, but I figured I would give it a try. Maybe google something like "Books about Homosexual Teens" ?
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I just turned 16 and you know what comes with that, getting your first job. Does anyone have any advice for this situation? Like where to work or not to work for the first job. How to keep jitters down for that interview or whatever. Anything is fine I just thought I'd ask anyone who's already been through that "first job" deal, and wouldn't mind giving a few pointers.
Thanks
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My first and last job was Subway. I was 16 when I got it too. It wasn't that bad, but since I was cheering and wasn't that great with food & the public, I quit.
- But it payed great, and wasn't that hard. I would give it a try.
I wouldn't suggest fast food. I've heard terrible things about it.
Try local stores also. Like movie rental places, flower shops, or something like that. I would love to work somewhere similar.
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Okay, so its been a while since I asked a question, and this time its not about relationships. I'm on the Pill now, called Microgynom or something like that. I have a few questions to ask about the Pill. Firstly, today I will have been taking it for two weeks - my GP says, if I have not missed one for these two weeks it will be safe commencing these two weeks to have unprotected sex without the risks of getting pregnant, or very little. I understand there is never one hundred percent protection against becoming pregnant, but as I have been taking it now for the required time, what are my risks of getting pregnant (if I do not mix it with the added protection of a condom which I will be doing for a while anyway, but say if one was not to hand, what would my risks be?)?
Also, I know the Pill provides no protection against the passing on of STI's, but me and my partner had never even kissed anyone else before we met, were virgins when we first slept together, and had never had any sexual contact with other people. I know this for a fact (besides, I am 15, nearly 16, and he is 16 - we met while he was 15 and I was 14), so I'm 100 percent certain he didn't contract STDs from anyone else, and there's none in his family or mine. Is there any chance he could pause on an STI to me, or me to him, in these circumstances? (And yes, I am one hundred percent certain).
Another question related to the dreaded time of the month. The pill is supposed to shorten periods although it causes spotting sometimes, I recognise. I started, as instructed, taking the pill on the first day of my period and have been taking it ever since, but my period was much longer than usual. It lasted about a week and half - has this been heard of before? I presumed it was just because I was only just starting the course, and my period from then on will be much lighter. (My sister suffered the same way when she started taking it).
Is that normal?
Thanks very much, any help or answers to these questions are appreciated.
Please don't mention my age, in Britain, I'm only three weeks away from becoming legally allowed to have sex and my GP and parents know anyway. I know what I'm getting myself into.
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I've never heard of that BC Pill, i'm on YAZ. But i'm assuming it's all basically the same.
Birth control is VERY effective. I've been taking the pill for about two years, I never use condoms, and I could probably take my birth control better than I do. (I know, i'm no poster child for the correct use of birth control) But i'm still not pregnant. Of course, there is always that chance for some people. I know of people who took their birth control perfectly, and still ended up pregnant. But when used correctly, most are 99% effective.
When I first started my new BC, I had long terrible periods, and was sick to my stomach all the time for the first three months. Now, even though I only have 4 period pills, my period still lasts for 7-8 days. Unless it's unbearable, i'm sure it's perfectly normal.
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My boyfriend has a small penis.. it's not important to me I still love him but I was wondering what are the best positions to have sex with a guy that has a small penis... from the back hasnt had the best sucess.. i dont really want to be on top all the time i feel kind of self conscious lol.
Him on the bottom with your legs around his neck may work. Try that?
Or doggy style?
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I just got my tounge pierced 2 days ago. I was told that I need to keep the long barbell that they put in for a month, and I will then be able to replace it with a shorter barbell. However, I've tried to see if I am able to unscrew the barbell ball on my own but I've been unsuccessful in doing that. My friend told me that in time it will loosen so that I will be able to, but I am not sure. In a month, will I be able to take it out on my own or will I have to go back to the place for them to remove it for me? Should I got back to the place now and tell them of my difficulties?
Thanks in advance for the help..
I personally don't have my tongue pierced, but when I got my bellybutton pierced, I tried taking it out early to put a new one in. I tried everything to unscrew that ring, and I just couldn't get it. I then later realized that on that particular ring, you had to unscrew the bottom ball and not the top. I'm not sure if that's the same with you, but maybe give it a try?
If not, I would call the piercing place and ask.
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Okay, i've been on birth control since september of '07 and my period starts on a sunday and so on and so forth. Well on august 3rd i am going on a cruise which is a sunday..and the day i'm supposed to get my period. I'd really prefer not to have it then so i was talking to some of my friends who are also on it and they said they've skipped their birth control for like a week or two and then just got back on it, like started it on the sunday again. Well what i'm wondering is if anyone has ever did this and thinks that it would be safe for me to finish the rest of my pack (which ends this week) and not start my new pack for another two weeks and then my period will coincide with whenever i start my pack..i really hope this makes sense and i hope someone can help. thanks!
I don't think that will work. Most likely, you'll have a heavier period, as the person below me said. That's not a safe or smart idea.
What you can do is skip your "period pills" After finishing your active pills, don't take the placebo pills. Just start your next pack of active pills. =]
It isn't recommended to do this regularly, but once shouldn't hurt you. Have fun on your cruise.
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