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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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paris hilton is my rolemodel! i idolize her! everyone makes fun of me because of it. they say shes aslut and everything. but im reading her book and its really telling me awesome advice. like how to be confident and stuff. i think she is a good rolemodel. what is you guys' take on her? do you think she is a bad rolemodel? why or whynot? thanks in advance
I don't hate Paris Hilton at all, but that does not mean I think she is a good role model.
A role model is someone a person looks up to and wants to act like. Young girls are very impressionable, so let's say one's role model is Paris Hilton. What will they think when they see her mug shot from being pulled over countless amounts of times for DUIs, driving with a suspended license, and reckless driving? What will they do when they hear about her lovely home video, "A Night In Paris"?
Well, logically they will think it's okay to go to clubs and become intoxicated, it's fine to drink and drive because Paris did it, and then they'll think, if Paris doesn't have to obey the law, then why should I? And heck, why not make a sex video too?
I know the media can make it hard for a celebrity to keep their noses clean, I mean heck, look at Vanessa Hudgens and Miley Cyrus, but I think Paris likes the attention, negative or positive.
Now if you want to look up to Paris for having good clothing taste, good make-up taste, and tips on cofidence, then by all means do it. No one can deny she's got those things. But I do not think young girls should want to be like Hilton in the least.
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my boyfriend was really good playing college baseball last year. i met him this year and he hasnt been playing well. his team has been losing latly and hes not playing his best. i am being very very helpful. i wish him luck before a game, sending him cute pic messages about baseball, telling him he'll do better. anything i can think of a supportive gf can do. (we are in different states). today he had a bad game, he texted me and said hes turning his phone off adn doesnt want to talk to anyone for a while. he texted me back saying he talked to the coach and feels better. what do i do?
I was a baseball girlfriend in high school, and it is no fun at all. I colored pictures for him about baseball, was a very understanding girlfriend about all of his games and practices, and I wished him luck before every game too.
I only went to a few games because when I went he usually did bad for some reason. He would usually take it out on me, mainly because I was in his line of fire, so I just didn't go. I stayed supportive, and I will always support him in everything he does, but I wasn't about to sit at his game and take the chance of getting yelled at if him or his team did bad.
You should be lucky he was calm and told you he didn't feel like talking. He was probably in a really bad mood, and was afraid he would take it out on you. The best thing for you to do in those situations is tell him to call you when he feels like it, and not to worry about it if he doesn't want to talk that night. You just have to be understanding.
Being a baseball girlfriend is tough work, so you kind of just have to deal with it.
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So last year I met this guy. He was in 2 of my classes and we got to be really close. We had a lot of fun together and flirted alot. He'd always work with me in class and we always talked and laughed together. I started to like him. But he had a girlfriend. He found ways to text me and talk to me. but he never knew how I felt.
Then When I hooked up with my ex. At the same time he broke up with his girlfriend. He was always interested in how my boyfriend was. and he would always ask questions about my really close guy friend. he was always wondering why we were so close. and he'd get weird when I would talk about other guys,
Then when this year rolled around and he's in my math class...we never talk , and he's gotten all weird. He just looks at me all the time, but he acts like we were never close.
I still have feelings for him. But I want to know why he's so weird now? and does he still have feelings?
HELP!
Is he dating anyone? If so, maybe he really likes her and doesn't want to risk anything that may cause him to lose her.
If he is single, go talk to him. Tell him you think it's cool that you two have another class together, and just strike up a conversation. If he still acts strange, call him on it. Ask him if he's okay, and ask him why he is acting strange. If he doesn't answer, just leave. It's honestly not worth figuring out if he's just going to be a douche.
If you like him, don't talk about other guys. That may be why he stopped talking to you to begin with. If he likes you, he doesn't want to hear about other guys you've been with. That pretty much tells him you aren't interested, so why should he be?
Talk to him, and if he is responsive, tell him how you feel.
I hope everything works out for you. =]
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I started having sex a couple of years ago but haven't had it since last yearr and lately i've been having sexual/love thoughts about a guy I've known for a long time and have a love history together(never officially dated). But for the past couple of months I've been pretty mean to him, until a couple of days ago. Anyway, When i have these sexual thoughts I notice clear sticky kind of stuff in my panties and I don't know what it is. When Im not having the thoughts and going about my day as normal every day, Im like ALWAYS wet with white stuff(not the same as the clear stuff) in my panties, its thick and like pure white and I don't know what that is either. What's happening?
Also, Do i still love this guy, or is it completely a hormonal/sexual thing?? i have a boyfriend and for a couple of days we havent had any fights which he and i find amazing but I can't seem to get the other guy out of my mindd, its driving me crazy! :(
It is all normal.
The "wet, sticky stuff" you feel in your underwear when you have sexual thoughts about this guy means you are getting turned on. When your body becomes exited and wants sexual activity, your vagina lubricates itself making sex easier. So that is normal and the only thing you can do to stop it is not to think sexual thoughts, which I don't recommend.
On normal days when your body excretes white stuff, that means you are discharging. Once again, it's completely natural and normal. This means your body is healthy and funcioning correctly. If you notice this discharge is funny in color or has a weird odor, that's when you need to worry. That could mean a yeast or bacterial infection.
I can't tell you if you love this guy. Only you know that. If you and your boyfriend are doing good, you like/love him (depending on the stage you two are in), and you have no clue if this other guy even likes you, I wouldn't suggest leaving your boyfriend for him. Maybe consider taking a break from all relationships for a while until you can decide what you are feeling before anyone gets more hurt than they have too.
Good luck!
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i'm sorry if this grosses you out but i need reassurance. i'm 17 years old and i've been on yaz birth control for the past 5 months. i take it religiously except for 2 tuesdays ago, and i took it as soon as i remembered wednesday morning. then on friday night i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend for the first time. this past wednesday i started noticing brown discharge in my underwear.. it's now friday and it is still happening. i'm not supposed to start my period until next week. i googled it and alot of people said its normal and not to be concerned in the least, while others said its a sign of early pregnancy.. but really? could i be showing symptoms this early? please, ALL advice is welcome. i NEED an answer. thanks for your time:)
I am also 17 years old, and I take Yaz birth control too. Unlike you though, I don't take mine as well as I should.
You most likely aren't pregnant. Birth control is very effective, and missing 1 pill probably won't make a difference.
Brown discharge is also normal.
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I've recently started to have sex(him and I have both been checked out, no STD's). When we have sex he obviously likes to touch my g-spot(i think the clitoris is also known as) but when he does I get a really strong sensation going through my body that literally makes my knees and my body go weak and I cant handle it so i make him stop and because im afraid of what might happen if i let him continue. How can I be able to handle the feeling when he does it?
Another thing is, He likes me to be on top and I say yes, but it hurts ALOT more than being on bottom. I've been on top quite a few times and I dont seem to be getting any use to it because it still hurts everytime. Is there any way I can get used to the pain or make it become less painful?
Your g-spot and clitoris are two different things. Your clitoris is a topical nerve ending. It's not actually inside of your vagina, whereas your g-spot is. Both feel good when stimulated though.
When your boyfriend hits your g-spot, it should feel good, not painful. Depending on the positions you two are in when you get this painful sensation, he could be hitting your cervix. If he penetrates you too deep, then it is painful.
If being on top hurts, don't get in that position. If you lay down on your boyfriend as opposed to sitting straight up on top of him, it doesn't hurt as bad.
Also, always use the bathroom before having sex. That helps a lot.
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ok ive used tampons for about 3 years now, so i dont need to worry about bleeding when i have sex for the first time right? cuz the poppin has already been done..
Not neccessarily.
Whether or not you bleed depends on how rough your first time is, your physique, and whether or not your hymen has been completeley ripped or not. There is the possibility that you haven't ripped it yet, regardless of if you use tampons.
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several years ago i saw bmw that was really sleek, and jet black. even the windows were tinted extremely dark. it looked awesome, but im not sure what kind of bmw it was. does anyone know what kind it was? and if not, any suggestions of cars that look similar to this? (sleek, sporty, jet black) thanks!
It all depends on your budget. You can find just about kind of car with those specifications. A bunch of BMWs could look like that. Just go to their website & I am sure you will find one.
Dodge Chargers are really awesome, and usually come with that criteria. So you may want to check those out. :]
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so 17f
I masterbate, never had sex, but do watch porn. Is watching porn bad? I never really understood if it was or not. Sometimes I feel like I am betraying god, other times I say to myself I am not doing anything bad. opinions, anything please!
Even though I believe in God, I do not think that watching porn is that huge of a deal. Even if watching porn is supposedly as bad as murdering school children, that does not mean I would go on a killing rampage. And honestly, I do not believe that God is going to send a person to hell for watching porn. Killing children on the other hand is a different story.
But that is totally and completely my views. Everyone views things differently.
For example, I personally would never have an abortion, ever. However if someone else does it, (even though I don't agree with it) that is their choice, and they obviously view that as being okay even if I don't.
Basically, no one can tell you what God views as betraying Him. The Bible may be able to tell you, but everyone views the Bible differently too. There are tons of different ways to interpret pretty much everything in there.
If watching porn makes you feel like a bad person, or makes you feel like you are betraying God, then don't do it. But I believe God won't send anyone to hell for pleasuring themselves.
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So basically, I've been asked to study my Learner's book because i want to get my licence as soon as possible, but when it comes to studying Im not good at memorizing stuff unless Im really interested in it, and well, Information about giving way and whatnot just doesn't interest me and if i feel pressured to pass the test, I will have a panic attack pretty much. My mind tends to go off into another direction when im trying to focus reading so im veryy easily distracted. Does anyone know a special way to study and remember informationn?
I also could not retain information from reading the DMV book. The way I studied was much easier and I learned so much more through it.
You can go to the DMV website for your state, and they should have practice tests that are EXACTLY like the test you will have to take. They just switch around the questions. It's ten times easier to study when you know you are studying what you need, and nothing more.
=] Good luck on your test.
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hii well I haven't had my period in about 2 months =\... and my friend who is pregnant (Marlene) and told my friend katie who told me that when she got her period and it ended it about 2 days later something like that, she ended up being pregnant afterwards.. which is weird. and she said that its like you get your period for the last time.. is this true, because I'm pretty scared, and when my friend marlene was pregnant she didn't puke or anything.. and that's how I'm feeling.. I feel dizzy at points and have huge stomach pains.. (boob pains)... but idk if thats normal or maybe I'm getting it soon... idk please help! what do yout think? is this fact true?!?
Thanks so much.
Like someone below me said, your friend didn't have a period. She experienced implantation bleeding. Which is normal, and can happen to any pregnant woman.
If you have not had a period in two months, and you have been sexually active in the last three, you need to buy a pregnancy test as soon as possible. If you are pregnant, you need to find out soon so you can do something about it.
Not everyone experiences morning sickness either. Every woman has different symptoms at different times. You cannot determine whether or not your pregnant by symptoms you are feeling now.
You NEED to buy a pregnancy test.
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I can't but any kind of lubericant. So are there any household items that women can use that won't hurt their health?
If you are using lubricant for masturbation, then Vaseline is good. Don't use lotion.
For intimacy with a partner, oral sex can act as a good lubricant and also help you produce your own.
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I'm 17/f and recently I've been having feelings towards my basketball coach (He's 26). A couple nights ago the whole team including him went out to go bowling. It was like we weren't even there with the team, there was flirting and you know the whole "bet I can beat your score", and random touches when we passed by each other. And it's not just on his part it's me too. What should I do? Should I talk to him about this?
Thanks
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I have a lot of flirty teachers at my school. I guess it's just something some guys don't grow out of. It could just be innocent though. Some guys have that kind of personality. I don't think you should look to much into it though. Especially not right now.
You+Him+Intimacy=BAD!
If you really like him, don't pursue this relationship anytime soon. When you graduate, if you still have these feelings and think he feels the same, then you can talk to him about it.
Talking now will either end up getting him in trouble, or you embarrassed if you're wrong. Can you imagine how weird the rest of your high school days would be?
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i have a boyfriend who is 17 and i'am 15 and i love him, but my mom thinks i should not have sex till i'am 16! what should i do?
I guess you should consider yourself lucky. Most parents don't want their children to have sex at all. Especially not at 16.
Most parents cannot stop their children from having sex, so if you want to do it, then you probably will. But maybe you should respect her wishes and just wait. It's only 1 year.
If you want, if you guys are close you could discuss this with her. Tell her you love your boyfriend and want to express that to him and that you think you are mature enough. She may listen, she may not. But it's worth a shot.
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Ok, so my gf and I have been at it for awhile and both agree its time to have sex. But im worried Ill cum early so I wont be hard and wont be able to so it. We fool around and stuff and dry hump or whatever and ill cum within like 5-10 mins. Does it change if you actually do it? Are there ways to last longer? thanks.
You probably won't last for a very long time if you only last 5-10 minutes when you are just rubbing up against each other.
The main thing that will help you last longer is time. After having sex for a while, you will start lasting longer.
One thing that might help is masturbating before sex. If you already ejaculate beforehand, then it will take longer when you have sex.
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I used to use Sims Boy Shop all the time, and i stopped for a while, but i just recently started playing the sims again, but somethings wrong.
I download the clothing, extract all the files to the CORRECT folder (my documents/EA Games/The Sims 2/Downloads) and then i double-click the file to instal and a thing pops up that says "Please double-click a custom content package file to install the content" it happens every time, and i know im doing everything right! What wrong!?
I also download things using BodyShop, but for some things you don't need to use BodyShop. The only time I ever have to use it is if I am downloading an actual Sim. When I download, I put my custom content into my "SavedSims" folder instead of my "Downloads" folder. I'm not sure why it works like that on my computer, but it does. Maybe try just putting your custom content in your SavedSims folder too. That may work.
If not, you can go to modthesims2.com and ask someone in the forum.
Good Luck =]
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I use to date this boy and we broke up so whatever. I was really hurt and cried all the time but now I am getting better. I really don't even like him no more. But.... He is going around telling people that I sucked his dick. (itz not true at all) I just don't know how to handle this. Everybody sayz to just ignore it and all that stuff.. But I can't. We go to the same school so I have to face this EVERY DAY. Its dayz when I don't even want to get out of bed because I know what I have to face. Can anybody help me? I am 14 years old, a female and in the 8th grade.
Please somebody.. I don't know how long I can handle this.
The best thing to do is face it head on. You are just starting to get into the drama and rumors you will have to face in school. I can't tell you how many things have been said about me that wasn't even anywhere near being close to any kind of truth.
Keep your head up, and when people talk, just flat out say it isn't true. You don't have to prove yourself to anyone. If they don't believe you then they don't matter. Don't let it get you upset or ruin your day, because it just really isn't that important.
Next time you talk to him, tell him you think he's a total loser for making up such a pathetic rumor, and tell anyone who asks you about it too. He'll eventually stop.
Before long someone else will be the center of gossip, and it will pass.
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I am 4 mo. pregnant and the babies daddy left me penniless, homeless, and with out a car. I am about to be homeless in a few days and the sad part is I'm not a bad person. I don't do drugs and I don't drink and violence of any kind is just not in my nature. I love this child and its not even born yet. I live in the country and there are no homeless shelters anywhere near. I have no friends and family and will do anything to keep and raise my baby. Please help me what should I do. This child deserves its mother.
Terra
I'm not going to pretend like I know what you are going through or that I know what it's like, because I don't. I do know that if you want to keep and raise your baby right, then you have to have faith and believe in yourself.
Since obviously this "dad" was not up to the job, you will have to be independent and raise the baby on your own. But why not take that as a blessing? You don't need a man to take care of you, however you do need help right now. Many people have given you plenty of options on what you can do for shelter, food, and other neccessities. Hospitals, churches, all of those are good choices.
Once you find shelter, you need to find a job. Start saving up your money for when the baby comes, and sign up for welfare, food stamps, and WIC. These programs can be amazing help.
The first thing you will want to find is an apartment. Welfare apartments will base your pay on what kind of income you have. A friend of mine, who is also pregnant, is living in a very nice welfare apartment, and she only has to pay 20 dollars a month. When my mom had me, she didn't have an income, and we were allowed to stay in the apartment for free until she got back on her feet. You'll definitely want to look into this. Like someone else said, you may need to leave home for a while if your town doesn't have this kind of thing. Then you will want to get a used car.
Having this baby with absolutey no friends or family, zero money, nowhere to stay, and no car to drive is going to be far from easy. In fact, it's probably one of the hardest things any person will ever have to do. But it won't be impossible. Keep your head up and make it your goal in life to make a good life for you and your baby.
Good luck and I wish you the absolute best.
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I am a total worrier
But the one thing I worry about is sex really.
So here are some questions
1) What position are you usually in if your being fingered - what should you do ? where should your hands go?
2) And if your making out and you want to actually do it and he puts on the condom - doesn't that like kill the mood a little?? Like your all in the mood and then its like wait, let me put one on..how long would it take?
3) Can you tell me of how it feels for the first time? What it's like?
4) Being fingered ; does it hurt?
5)Do guys ever look at your body naked whilst your having sex. I never go into relationships because I hate my body and I wouldnt want someone else looking at it
The first thing you need to know is that you cannot plan in advance how to kiss, where to put your hands, or how to act. Sex is an-in-the moment kind of thing, and the only way to really know what to do is to just do it. Also remember than when you do decide to have sex, it's not going to go smoothly. Not the first time, the second time, or the thousandth time. It's just an awkward act in general, but when you're with someone you love, it doesn't matter.
1. The girl is generally on bottom, and the guy is usually on the side or on top. But there are many positions you can be in. Your hands should go where they feel like going. You probably won't be thinking about it when you actually do the act.
2. My boyfriend and I personally don't use condoms, so there is nothing to ruin the mood. But we did use condoms when we first go together, and when you decide to have sex you should definitely use one. If you are in the mood, taking about 30 seconds to put on a condom isn't a big factor in mood-killing. However, later on in the relationship there are fun ways to incorporate condoms with sex. Using flavored condoms and putting them on with your mouth for instance.
3. It hurts a little at first, and there is some soreness afterward, but it's not bad if done correctly. Being well lubricated, and having foreplay before sex can make it less painful.
4. Being fingered doesn't hurt when done in moderation. For instance, one finger when the girl is calm and in the mood feels good, it doesn't hurt. But if the girl isn't in the mood and is dry as a bone, then yes it will hurt.
5. Yes, they do. You shouldn't be in a relationship if you aren't comfortable enough to show the guy your body. That's the first sign that you aren't ready. So learn to be comfortable in your own skin, and be with someone who isn't going to care about a few imperfections on your body.
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This questions for the girls and guys, mainly guys though.
Well, i was having sex with this guy and its not the first time ive been with him, but we didnt have a condom. He said he didnt mind and he would just go in me, and i am not on any birth control or anything and he knows that. He said it was up to me, and he said he really wants to. Other times when we've had sex, he would always hint it, or say something like, "I just want to go in you so bad" or something along those lines.
What does this mean exactly? Is there something he is trying to tell me? Were any of you in this situation before? Or guys, did you do something like this? Why did you?
Thanks everyone :]
It could mean a lot of things.
If he's a prick and you two haven't been together for a long time, it could mean he just wants to brag to his buddies.
But if you have been together for a while and he really seems to love you, it could just mean he wants to be "closer" to you. Which is understandable in long-term relationships.
I don't think I need to go over the fact that it isn't a good idea if you aren't on birth control, seeing as how you seem to know that you can become pregnant. And you also shouldn't need reminding that without condoms you can get STD's too. But I figured I would say it anyway.
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