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Do you last longer when you have sex vs jacking off?

Question Posted Monday January 19 2009, 3:10 am

Ok, so my gf and I have been at it for awhile and both agree its time to have sex. But im worried Ill cum early so I wont be hard and wont be able to so it. We fool around and stuff and dry hump or whatever and ill cum within like 5-10 mins. Does it change if you actually do it? Are there ways to last longer? thanks.

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jediforhire answered Sunday January 25 2009, 7:41 pm:
Everyone else is spot on, but I have a couple things to add.
When you do masturbate, and you feel yourself getting close to climaxing, back off until it stops, and then start again. Go for as long as you can without actually orgasming. Over time this can help your body get acclimated to lasting longer.
And make sure to be as stress and worry free as possible, its key to good sex.

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karenR answered Tuesday January 20 2009, 1:45 pm:
OK I don't usually answer these but I
feel you need advice from someone older
here. :)

If you want to last longer, I suggest
you masturbate before the big date. It
will help you a lot. The excitement of
actually having sex will probably give
you 5-10 minutes if not even less time
when it comes to actually doing it.
Having actual sex will not help you
last longer.

Another suggestion is if you need more
time during sex, immediately start
thinking of something non sexual until
you calm down some. Have something in
mind beforehand.

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Melody answered Monday January 19 2009, 10:21 pm:
You probably won't last for a very long time if you only last 5-10 minutes when you are just rubbing up against each other.

The main thing that will help you last longer is time. After having sex for a while, you will start lasting longer.

One thing that might help is masturbating before sex. If you already ejaculate beforehand, then it will take longer when you have sex.

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photofeature answered Monday January 19 2009, 9:03 pm:
Actually having sex can sometimes make you come quicker, just from the excitement of it all. So I would definently not expect to last longer. However, wearing a condom (which you should be doing anyway!) can sometimes slow it down, and either Trojan or Durex (Can't remember..) make one to extend the amount of time you can go. Also, masturbating a few hours before sex can help.

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