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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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I'm making an ultimae reading list. THIS INCLUDES A BUNCH OF BOOKS i WANT TO READ. I need ideas. I like reading about the supernatural. I love fashion and acting. I like mysterys and books that are surching for dad people.
I've already read Lovely Bones-- AMAZING
No Twilight, Clique, Gossip Girl, A List (read all except Twilight--lame)
thanks!!
Celeste and Willow by V.C. Andrews are both amazing, and I think both are a series now too. All of Andrews' novels are suspensful, so I think you would enjoy them.
The Host by Stephenie Meyer is good too. You said you didn't like Twilight, but I think you may like the Host because it's more of a science fiction novel. I liked it a lot but I love Twilight too, so who knows if you would like it or not?
You might like Ellen Hopkins' novels. They are pretty sick, but maybe you will be into them if you liked Lovely Bones. Alice Sebold has written some other novels too. You might like them.
The Luxe Series is pretty good. You said you liked fashion, but you also said you didn't like Gossip Girl. So I am not really sure if you would like this series or not, but it's worth a try.
If you haven't read the Harry Potter books, then you should definitely read them. The movies are good, but the books are much better. If you like the movies, then you will love the books.
Jodi Picoult's novels are pretty good too. They always have some kind of twist at the end, and usually there is some kind of suspensful trial going on. You may like some of her novels. I love some, but cannot get into others. I think you would like The Tenth Circle, 19 Minutes, and Plain Truth though. They are some of my favorites by her.
One random novel that I enjoyed quite a big was Drop Dead Gorgeous by Linda Howard. It's a series, and I don't think that was the first one, but it was a good mystery book.
Dean Koontz is a famous mystery author. I haven't read any of his novels, but I have heard nothing but good things about him. Obviously his books are serious page turners. So I would try one of his novels out if I were you.
I could keep going, but I gave you quite a few to choose from. If you would like some more, leave me a question in my inbox letting me know. :)
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im 17 years old and 5 weeks pregnant.
my boyfriends family wants me to get an abortion.
my family doesnt want me to get an abortion.
i don't want an abortion.
my boyfriends family are saying if i keep the baby then he has to move out and there disowning him.
i feel guilty.
i dont know what to do.
adoption ISNT an option.
hes scared and doesnt think were ready, i don't either but happened.
he's worried hes going to have to sell everything and not have a life or go to any parties anymore.
How do i convince him that he can still have a life? and how do i convince him that abortion isnt the right option? how can i make him see that there is a life, part of him inside me and we shouldn't kill it just because we made a mistake?
Do not allow yourself to be pressured into any decision you are not comfortable with. It doesn't matter what you and your boyfriend's parents want, and it doesn't matter what your boyfriend thinks. All that matters is what you think, and what you want.
It really stinks that his parents are saying they will disown him. It only makes the situation that much worse. However that shouldn't affect whether the baby lives or dies. His parents will have the rest of your child's life to come around.
As far as your boyfriend problem goes, it's time for him to man up to the situation. Tell him you are keeping the baby, and nothing he can say will change that. Make sure he understands the responsibility, and ask him if he is ready to deal with it. If he says no, then he should leave now before the pregnancy progresses. It won't make it any easier for you, your boyfriend, or the baby to wait until he or she is born and then have him decide he can't handle the situation.
If you want to try to make him understand, tell him what you said in your question; there is an actual life that you two made together inside of you, and it should not be destroyed because it wasn't a good time for you all.
And by the way, when you have a baby, that baby is your life. Unfortuantely your boyfriend probably won't be able to party anymore. He'll be at home taking care of the child. He'll be working, and the money he makes will go straight to that child. That's not to say that you two won't have a life, but it certainly won't involve much partying and going out on weekends. But hey, it's worth it. :)
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heyy its me again =/ haha the girl with the ex bf problems. i hope you remember me.
so yeah one of my friends that's friends with him and me is having a little get-together thing at her house in a few days and she invited him. this is my first like long-term relationship ex-boyfriend so i don't really know how to play it. i want him to know that i still love him and want him back without acting clingy and stuff it's gonna be all our friends hanging out so i just want to have a good time and hope something happens between us. so my questions are what should i do to let him know i still love him and want to be with him without being all clingy and stuff and should i hug him when i get there? i know i'm gonna be the same girl i was last summer when he fell in love with me but any special tips? as you can probably tell by now i really love this guy and would do anything to get him back. thank you so much.
You cannot go up to him, hug him, and tell him you still love him without appearing clingy. That's very clingy, and there is no way you can do that without appearing so.
If you are both going to be at this party, there is nothing wrong with talking to him. Just ask him how he is, tell him you miss hanging out with him, but keep it casual. Let him know that you do still want him in your life, but don't make a big deal out of it. Keep it simple. If the conversation does somehow become intense, and he seems like he is responding well to what you are saying, then tell him whatever you want to tell him.
Good Luck. :)
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I loveeeeee adam lambert's voice and I wanted to find more songs by him but I can't find any. does anyone know where I can? I mean, I know (I think) that he hasn't recorded any yet but he should have some somewhere, right?
He just recently became famous, and American Idol hasn't been over that long. I would say he is probably producing some things right now, but most of his songs probably aren't out for the public yet. If you like the music he did on American Idol, you can download them straight from Limewire or Itunes.
Youtube has some videos of him doing performances before he was famous, but I am sure you would have a hard time finding a good quality video of anything worth listening too.
Anyways, just try one of the above programs.
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Is it bad to do stuff with family members...brothers, cousins, etc.
Sexually, very much so, yes. It's illegal and it's wrong.
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My friend is a guy and I am worried about what he may think. I acctualy like the guy but i know we can only be friends i just want to tell him I am bi. Maybe ask how he feels about gays and bis and go from there? M 15
I probably wouldn't start off the converstation about how he feels about same sex relationships, because if he says something negative about them, you will not want to say anything about yourself.
Just tell him face to face, and try not to make a big deal about it. Tell him you don't want him to take it the wrong way, but that you are into guys. Not him, just guys in general. Be prepared though, this may change your relationship in a negative way, and you must be prepared for that.
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okay so we broke up like a little over a month ago and i've been talking to his sister and she says that he has no social life since we broke up, and he's been being mean to his friends and stuff and he was doing better with me (he had a social life with my friends-guys&girls too but now they kinda don't like him cuz he dumped me). the last month while we were dating he would lie to me and tell me "his mom wouldn't let him go out" or "he had homework" and he never used to do this for like the first 6 months we were together. she says hes lazy but he still likes me. i guess what i'm saying is that i miss who he used to be...we were planning on hanging out when school is over, so my question is, do you think i can get him back the way he used to be during the first 6 months? how? things were perfect last summer and i want them to be this summer too. and please don't tell me to just move on, if worst comes to worst i know that i can. i just want to give this a shot because i do miss who he was. thanks so much. 17/f hes 17.
Regardless of what you do or do not want to me to say, if that's what I feel is right, that's what I am going to tell you. Lucky for you, I don't think you should move on...yet. It's worth giving it at least 1 shot before you give up on the relationship.
You need to talk to him. Tell him what you just told me and that you miss how he used to act. Let him know you still like him, and you miss hanging out with him. Help him remember all the good times you had together, and ask him why he doesn't like doing that stuff anymore. If he doesn't want to change, don't make him. If that's how he wants to live his life, you can't change his mind, and you shouldn't.
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Ive been trying to find colleges or some sort of school that offer sonogram technican classes.
The college has to be in Louisiana and I cant find any college anywheeeeeere.
Heeelp please :)
I wanted to be a Sonagrapher for a while, but I couldn't find any schools close enough to where I live either. I've talked to many councelors, colleges, and professors about this, and I finally figured out what had to be done if I wanted to pursue this career. I had 3 options:
1. Go to the only semi-close school near me that has a major for diagnostic imaging. The closest one to me is Morehead University in Kentucky, and sadly, that's not very close.
2. Go to a community college that offers the 2 year ultrasound technician program, and the closest was VA Beach. Once again, not very close.
3. Get a certificate to become a radiology technician, find a clinic or hospital to hire me, and be trained on the job in the ultrasound department. A radiology professor that I talked to told me that this option is becoming less and less available for liability reasons or something like that.
Anyways, not a very easy profession to go into if there aren't any schools near you obviously. I attached a website below that has a list of all the schools that offer the program by city in Louisiana. Keep in mind though that this may not be accurate, or even up to date. Some schools that have offered it in the past may not offer it now, or schools that have not previously offered may now. So you should really talk to your guidance councelor at school and have him/her help you. That's who helped me find out who I need to talk to. Good luck :)
http://www.topultrasoundschools.com/louisiana.html
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i have a blue 2005 chevy cobalt LS. 4 door.
i kinda want to do something to make it look better and maybe a little more sporty.
i was thinking a white stripe down the middle.
any suggestions?
here's a picture of the car..
http://edmondsun.autoconx.com/photos/894/500906894_1_B.jpg
I personally don't like the white stripe down a car. I think it makes it look a little silly. If you want to make it more sporty, then get some sportier rims. That would make it look better.
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im fat. advice? i mean like i know i should exercise and eat healthy and all that jazz but any like fun ideas for exercise or something idk im like 5'3 and i weigh like 140 pds or something like that.. not exactly healthy..
I'm not overweight, but i'm not healthy. I have a really pudgy belly, so I have been doing a certain regimen for the past week or so.
I do a beginner's yoga video, medium cardio jazzercise video, and a 2 minute ab workout regimen video. All are on youtube. Do it daily for about a month, and you should see results. It's not a hard workout, so it takes longer, but it makes me feel healthier. So try that.
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okay my crush danced with me at prom the other night, he was the one who approached me. I noticed that the whole night; him and his friends were staring at me. Even when i was dancing with other guys,i would look around to find him staring at me. While we were dancing; he took my hand and folded his into mine, he kept rubbing my back while slow dancing and rubbing my arms. I was getting the feeling that he liked me too since i was the only girl he danced with for the night. So it turns out that my friend spoke to him last night and he asked her if she did anything after prom then she said: No, i just went home and spoke to Tamara for a bit.(which is me) then he said: how did she say her night was? then she said: she had amaziiinggg night! i saw you guys dancing together, hot hot hot!! then he said: ahaha, i don't want to give the wrong intentions or anything, she's a cool person but yea...then later on in the convo he said that he just wanted to have fun. So i understand that he wanted to have fun...but i don't understand why he wanted to fold his hand into mine while dancing, rubbing my back, rubbing my arms and out of the whole room, he chose me to dance with...it's just weird...i mean we didn't just dance, it was more than that...i know that when i danced with the other guys, they weren't rubbing my back or folding their hand into mine. i don't know maybe i'm just naive.
He gave you the wrong idea at prom, and that sucks. =\ But maybe he didn't do it intentionally. Perhaps he was just really into the dancing, and got caught up in the night. He made it clear that he only wanted to have fun, and that he doens't want to give you the wrong idea. Don't pursue it if he doesn't want you too.
If he has fun with you, that's a good start. But go out and have fun with other people too.
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My boyfriend keeps talking about how he's planning this romantic date for us the next time i go and see him..hes making it such a big deal and i want it to be perfect...im trying to find a really good outfit for it but i dont know what to wear! hes just a little bit taller than me, and im tall to begin with so i don't wear heels...also it should be somewhat warm temperatures...any ideas...hes planning on going to dinner & then going to the beach..but im not sure what else...also is there anything else i can do to make it be even better for him? we go to school together, but during the summer we are 4 hours apart, and so when we see eachother i want it to be great
A cute little sundress from Old Navy would be perfect. I just bought a bunch of dresses from there last week. They're on sale for just $15 right now, so I would definitely go there before the sale is over. If you don't have one near you, order online. They range anywhere from 15 to 30 dollars on the internet.
And if it's a nice sundress, you can throw on a pair of Old Navy flip flops (2 for $5) and some cute jewelry and then you will be done!
Here are their dresses:
http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/category.do?cid=15292
Here are their $5, $10, & $15 deals:
http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/category.do?cid=46054
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I am 13 years old and I'm everybody says I have kankles. They say wow why are you so skinny and then you just have kankles. Also they say my calfs don't fit my body because I'm skinny and then my calfs are fat. I don't know why I have kankles when I skateboard everyday for like 3 hours or more and I go to the gym every day and I play basketball for an hour a day. So I don't understand why I have kankles and the rest of my body is skinny. Mabey it's just like a trait from my parents and I can't fix it. Please help.
Or maybe it's just muscle. Athletes have big legs because they exercise so much. Your running, and skateboarding especially, cause your muscles to get bigger. You should be proud of them, it means you are fit. :)
If you don't want them, cut back on the exercising a bit, but why one earth would you not want them>
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does jergans natural glow actually work or does it make you look orange?
I like it. It doesn't look orange, because it doesn't cause that significant of a color change. It's just a very slight change of two or three shades at most. Very natural, hence the name.
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Ok, so I have been having some stressful days ever since 7th grade. I am in 10 next school year. I have built up this negative energy in my room and now whenever i go in there, i get this stressful feeling. One time when i went to bed when everyone else was at the bowling alley, I saw a boy around 17 black hair blue eyes staring at me. He had this look of anger, depression, and stress on his face. After i rubbed my eyes he was gone.
Is it a ghost or a poltergeist?
PS: i heard from TAPS on an episode that a ghost is different from a poltergeist. A poltergeist is human generated for some sort of pshychological need and a ghost is a spirit who either doesnt want to cross over or doesnt know they are dead.
Did i see a poltergeist that I created, or was it a ghost?
I am scared...so answer quickly please!!
Keep in mind it may have been neither. It could have just been your mind playing tricks on you. I tend to do that quite often.
It wasn't a poltergeist though. Poltergeists are just what you said they are. But they do not show up in human forms. They are a mass of negative energy that is strong enough to manipulate actual objects. If it was anything, it was a ghost.
Ghosts come in many different forms. You can have an active haunting or a residual haunting. An active haunting is a deceased person who, like you said, either does not want to cross over or does not realize they are dead. A residual haunting is an imprint of a deceased person's energy that does the same thing over and over again. For example, an old man who loves to play the piano may leave an imprint of his energy that appears as him playing the piano. Make sense?
Ghosts are not neccessarily evil, and they do not want to hurt you. If this ghost can physically manipulate any of your surroundings, and seems like a truly evil spirit, then leave. Tell your mom you are not comfortable staying in there, and then figure out what you are going to do from there.
However if all you see is this boy, and he makes no move to try to communicate with you, do not worry about it. I am sorry you are scared, but try not to be.
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I am a 41 year old female. I work a 12 hour shift from 7a-7p. I am pretty good friends with the girl who relieves me @ night. She has a 4 month old baby who is precious. Her mother has been keeping him for her but is going to be out of town for a while (month or two). Her husband drives a truck and leaves all hours of the night. Now she is asking me to either keep the baby every night on the days we work or to swap shifts with her and work nights until her mother gets back (not sure when or even IF). I love her and the baby but I have my own 2 kids and a husband that also works day shift. If the baby won't sleep we will both be sleep deprived! I am usually exhausted when I get home and don't know if I can handle a baby. If I do swap shifts with her, my kids (who are 13 and 16) will be there while I try to sleep during the day. They can take care of themselves, but NOT stay quiet all day! What if her mother decides not to come back and I get stuck on night shift?! How can I get out of this, or is it selfish of me to refuse? I love her and don't want her mad. She is putting it like she'll have to quit if I can't do this. I don't want to be the blame if she loses her job. Please help!!
It is not selfish of you to refuse, and it is not your responsibility to watch her children. The fact that you are even considering changing you and your family's schedule to help a friend out is very admirable, but you have to think of you and your family's needs first.
Explain to her that due to you and your husband's shifts, you must be home for your kids. You can also politely suggest that you watch her baby once or twice a week when she needs you, but that you are unable to keep the child every night because you will be exhausted throughout the day due to your own children. You can also tell her you can work her shift only when she absolutely cannot be there.
It will not be your fault if she has to quit, because this situation has nothing to do with you. I am surprised she even asked you for such a huge favor, but just because she asked does not mean you have to accept.
If she gets mad, it most likely will not be at you. Good luck!
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Well, lately i've been interested in reading (which never in my life has happened)and i've already read the books i want. Can someone tell me if there is a book/series like "Twilight"(Stephenie Meyer)or "House of the Night"(Kristen Cast).
The Host- Stephenie Meyer
If you like the Twilight Saga, you will like this book too, because the writing style is the same. It isn't about vampires, but it does have a dark theme, with love intertwined with it too.
Someone already mentioned the Blue Bloods books, and the Vampire Acadamy, but I reccommend those as well. However none of these, nor the House of Night books in my opinion, come anywhere close to Twilight.
If you have just started reading, then maybe you will like books that do not meet that particular criteria as well. Twilight really isn't all that "dark." Yeah it's about vampires, but the main theme is love. So expand your horizons, and try something else :)
The Luxe series is good. There is a lot of love, and a lot of betrayal. So maybe you can check out those books?
V.C Andrews, Nicholas Sparks, & Jodi Picoult write really good novels. I would reccommend any of them.
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what are you guys opinions on someone getting drunk to lose there virginity. because im thinking about doing that cause im scared its really going to hurt. and i dont want to have to deal with the pain. and by the way im 16 female. thankyou in advancee
I think it's a very bad idea. Pretty immature, and not very responsible.
I think you should lose your virginity when you are in a committed relationship, are mature enough to deal with the consequences, smart enough to not ask silly questions like this, and when you are 100 percent sober.
That's my opinion. You probably don't like it, but as a society accepted opinion, no one is going to think this is a good idea.
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Alright, here's the deal... I was up last night at 1:30, and I received a text from my step sister's boyfriend. Up until this point, he's never texted me, so it was really weird. He told me he was drinking with his friends, and then asked me to come over. I told him no, because 1.) I'm not legally allowed to drink and 2.) I can't even be out past midnight because of state curfew. He kept trying to get me to come out there, so I just told him no, it's way too late. but after that he just kept talking to me, so I finally asked him where my step sister is, and he said she ditched him for a party, which is why he was asking me to come. So I know that I can't just leave this be. Should I 1.) Talk to him about it or 2.)Talk to my step sister? Because I don't want something like this to ruin our friendship. Please give me advice on this.
You should definitely talk to your sister about it. She has a right to know, because if he's asking you to come to a party with him, he's most likely asking other girls too. You would want to know if the situation was reversed, so you should tell her before someone else does.
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I'm thinking of making up some simple, to-the-point Babysitting fliers to put around in my neighbors mailboxes.
I have experience.. and I'm 19 years old, but here's one of the questions - do you think that's creepy if I do that? lol
I want them to be very simple, but at the same time give just enough information where they consider me... what exactly should I put?
Thanks
I personally do not find it creepy, but some over-protective parents might. Usually parents do not just let anyone stay in their house alone with their children. That takes serious trust, so I am not sure how much response you would get. But it wouldn't hurt. Even if you only get a couple of responses, that is a very good thing. It's called networking. Ask the parents of a child you babysit to tell all of their friends about you. That way you will get more customers.
You already received advice on what to put on the flier, so some of this may be repetitive, but I figured I would add it anyway:
- Put the flier on colorful paper to get people's attention.
- You will want to put your name and telephone number. Those are the two most important pieces of information you will have. Also add something like, call to set up an interview. That way they can get to know you, and will be more likely to call. This will also make you sound more professional.
- You might also put your age and qualifications. If you have taken any parenting classes, or have previously babysat, you may put you are experienced.
If they do happen to call, set up an interview with them. Let them know your qualifications, and maybe suggest to them that you could come over free of charge while they are present to see how you are with children. That should make the parents more comfortable.
Good luck!
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