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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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15/girl.
so i liked this guy for nine months and two weeks ago he finally asked me out. i was soo happy even though i knew he was a player and "soo many girls like him, he could have any girl he wanted". and he had told me he had cheated on a girl before but he said he wouldn't do it again and i believed him. and so we were going out for one week and we didn't talk everyday more like every other. and we don't go to the same school. but like one night i was talking to my friend and she was like yaa but he has a gf, and i was like yaa i'm going out with him, and she goes um he's going out with my friend, and i was like um since when and she goes since last night. so she texted him and was like your going out with both of them and he broke up with me when he found i knew. so i called him and was like you cheated on me? and he was like what? nooo. he so denied it. and my friend that told me, they were talking and he was saying how he didnt mean to cheat on me cause he wouldnt wanna hurt me like that and feels really bad and feels like crap. but he should be telling me this and he never wanted to cheat againand then i think he blocked my number or something? cuz like when i call from my cell it rings once and then goes to voicemail? why do you think that is? cuz when i call from a different phone it rings all the way. and idont know if he gets my texts but like just last night my friend was texting him and she mentioned me and he didn't reply or say anything. sooo i really don't know what to do at all???? like i really REALLY need to talk to him. and i don't know what to do because of his phone and stuff?
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Go back and read yoor question. You sound pathetic and silly. He broke up with you, he blocked your number, and he has a girfriend. He doesn't want to be with you. Move on and find someone who will be faithful and won't cheat.
You've reported me? Lol. My advice is not harmful, just honest and blunt. So really, I could report you. But I am not going to take the time :) I understand you are upset, it's understandable. I just hope you realize that I am right, before you embarrass yourself and end up looking like a fool. Good luck. I mean that.
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I have straight dirty blond hair and im getting a body wave perm before school starts again. Right now i usually either have my hair in a messy bun or i scrunch it or straighten it i only usually use Aussie Instant Freeze Gel. So my question is
1. What will i need to do once i get the body wave perm as in do i need to Blow dry it..ext because right now i don't blow dry my hair usually. Also What products should i use or buy once i get it done?
2. What types of hair styles can i do once i get it done?
When my hair grows out a little bit more I am getting a body wave perm too :) I am extremely nervous, so maybe if you get it and it goes well you can let me know on my column?
Anyway, I guess I can try to answer your questions now. First of all, a body wave perm isn't really a perm. It's not going to give you curls, it's going to give you body and texture. The point of a body wave perm is to make hair appear thicker and to give it volume. It will also make your hair much easier to style as opposed to limp, lifeless hair. Depending on the length of your hair, your stylist will probably only take the rod around your sections at most 2 or 3 times. You will be able to do whatever you want to do with your hair. You can straigthen it, curl it, scrunch it, whatever you want.
Once you get your perm, it's going to be stripped of moisture. You will need to use a deep conditioning shampoo and you will want to find some that is for "sleek and shiny" hair. You can blow dry your hair, but only do it if you have too. When you do blow dry, use a leave-in-conditioner spray. Also, buy a diffuser, and never blow dry your hair without it. Buy satin pillows as well if your hair gets frizzy.
Here is a website that has all kinds of information on perms:
http://www.hairfinder.com/hairquestions/hq-perms4.htm
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Well this is a tough one and I have no clue what to do, lost you could say. Im going to try and explain this to were it makes sense. Im 13 and turning 14 in a month. Curently I live with my jerk of a step father and mom. when i was little something happened with me and my dad. He went to jail. My mother lied saying my step dad is my real dad. I found out the truth a year or so ago and found my real dad a month or so ago now me and my dad have grown close. How do i get my SD to let me see my dad?
Your step father cannot keep you from seeing your real father unless he is your legal guardian. If your biological dad and your mother don't have split custody however, your mom can. You are fourteen years old, so in my opinion you are old enough to decide if and when you want to see your dad. Try explaining that to your mom and step dad without sounding whiney or immature. Just tell them that you want to have a relationship with your father, and you don't feel it's right for them to attempt to keep you away from him. It's best to try to keep things peaceful. Technically there is legal action your real dad can take, but honestly that should be a complete and last resort. That will only cause more trouble to the already messed up situation.
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I already have a test tomorow on Lab safety. ANd she gave us 17 symbols to remember, and then their exact definition! What is a good way to remember their definition! I am horrible at memorizing things, expeciially in a couple days
I had problems memorizing things in school too. I discovered the best way to remember something is through word association. After that, studying and passing tests was easy for me.
Come up with something totally stupid and un-related to associate the symbol with the correct definition. For example, in my government class last year we had to memorize all 27 amendments. The 13 amendment was to abolish slavery. How did I remember that? I associated thirteen with being unlucky, and since slavery is unlucky, I remember that abolishing it was the thirteenth amendment. It really makes no sense at all, but when you come up with silly stuff like that, it really helps :) Just try it out.
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im thinking about getting a perm but i don't know what kind i need to get, i want to make my hair look like these:
http://www.draganhair.com/images/natural_looking_curls_01.jpg
http://www3.pictures.zimbio.com/img/5519/Alicia/1181l.jpg
How can i get this, what type of rollers would i need? What kind of perm is this?
You can get a perm like that if you want one. It's all the rage nowadays. When my hair grows out I am going to get one. Any type of curl you want, you can get. The bigger curled perms are called "body wave perms"
Take these pictures with you to your hair stylist and tell them you want that kind of perm. Make sure the rollers he or she uses are big, if they are small you'll probably come back with a poodle perm. :)
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my little brother,who is 11, keeps going through my phone! and like reading my texts and stuff, and he tells my mom any little thing it says, i don't know why he's doing this, because he's not mad at me or anything.. how do i make him stop???
Something tells me this isn't the only thing your brother does to get on your nerves. I am 18 and my brother is getting ready to turn 13. We fight terribly. He annoys me to know end, but my parents and grand parents think he is just the best thing in the world. It truly sucks.
Though I still tend to blow up at him when he does dumb or annoying things, I have been trying my hardest just to ignore him. It works best that way. Maybe you should give it a try too. We are at an ackward age difference with our siblings, which makes fighting terrible. Like everyone else said, put a lock on your phone, keep it with you at all times, and pretend like it doesn't bother you when he does things like that. Eventually he will stop.
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So, I got linked to this site and I'm basically on the last thread of my sanity, and thought ,"Hey why not." The bottom line is I cheated on my girlfriend. It was a terrible situation, where we weren't together, but turned into more of a blackmail when I got back with her, "If you don't sleep with me again I'll tell." After a few times of destroying my morals even more, I put an end to it, and sure enough, my girlfriend was told about what I had done. I have been with many chicks, had many heartbreaks, but this is one I can not leave behind. I have never been more sure about anything in my entire life, unlike a lot of people who ask advice on here. I have exhausted a lot of time and effort into trying to find resolution with us for months (and I know she's still in between on the idea of giving me another chance), and I would give anything in the world to obtain it. What should I do? A lot of things I read on here about cheaters are very close-minded, and leave no cushion for the human error, or even the possibility of an honest change. Please help.
You sound sincere in understanding that you made a mistake and are honestly sorry for it. Whether your girlfriend believes it or not is another story.
Maybe I am close-minded, though I like to think I am not. I have been in a relationship for 4 years, and if my boyfriend cheated on me, whether it was once or a thousand times, I don't know if I could find it in my heart to forgive him. Cheating is the ultimate betrayal in my eyes, and if I was cheated on, I don't think our relationship would ever be the same. There aren't many things in this world that could keep me from being with my boyfriend, but cheating would.
Perhaps your girlfriend's views are different from mine though. Many of my friends have been cheated on and have learned to forgive, or look past it. Whichever way you look at it. Some of their boyfriend's have been sincere and never cheated again, while others continue to cheat and have no intentions of changing. (why my friend's stay with those type of guys i'll never know).
If you are hoenstly sorry and have no plans to ever hurt her like that again, then don't give up on her. She's going to need plenty of time to think things through before she decides to come back to you. If you jump back into the relationship too soon, she may feel as if you owe her something, and relationships just don't work like that. So let her have some time on her own, and when she's ready to talk to you, then you can try to get her back.
Explain to her how much she means to you, and tell her you know you messed up. (you did, big time). Let her know that you were blackmailed, but that you also know that's not an excuse. Just tell her you were scared of losing her, and tell her she means the world to you. Let her know that you will wait for her, and when she's ready to talk to you, to let you know. Don't overcrowd her or seem desperate. That will just push her further away. Just make sure she knows you love her, you are sorry, you will never mess up again, and that you will give her all the time she needs to make a decision.
Good luck!
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So my 14th birthday is coming up in august and I have been seriously thinking about getting a tattoo.
I mean seriously thinking hard.
I want to get a small quarter size peace sign on the center of my left foot.
It would symbolize this,
I intend to walk a life of spreading peace.
Also, it would remind me of my Jesus.
I know it's probably illegal at my age, but I've though about this for a very long time.
And putting it in a place where it won't stretch badly over time.
My mom actually likes the meaning of it too.
Is it illegal?
Is it a bad place to put it when I get old enough to get one if it's illegal?
All advice I will take :)
Thank you
I think tattoos should only be gotten if there is a meaning behind it. The tattoo you want does have meaning, and it would be special to you. I haven't heard of anyone getting a tattoo on the bottom of their foot before, but it shouldn't stretch. Something tells me it would probably fade a lot over time though. If your mom thinks it is a good idea, then that's great. I personally thought as long as you had parental consent you could get the tattoo, but obviously not.
But I just want to say one thing. If this tattoo is something you really want, why not wait until you are 18? A tattoo will be there for the rest of your life, so waiting a few years won't matter much. If you are still one hundred percent sure you want a tattoo, then go for it.
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Im going into my senior year (2010) and im really far behind in credits. To make matters worst, my councilor is an idiot and gets things wrong all the time when it comes to my classes and grad progress.
My biggest fear right now is that im not going to graduate with my class. Im going to completely dedicate myself to my school work this year, but i also have to have a job for co-op, which is only two credits.
I really want to go to college, but there's no money there for me. And obviously i've been really stupid in terms of keeping up with school. My parents aren't too concerned with any of it, they just want me out of the house soon. I turn 18 in November. If I stay in high school I can live here until i graduate, other wise I have to be out in November.
Im so depressed and scared right now for my life. I have no clue what's going to happen. I dont think i can do it. I cant stop feeling so....helpless? idk. scared. nervous. .....all that. I cant stop crying and its the summer before my senior year.
Has anyone ever been here before? Please any advice....anything would help. I dont really have anyone I can talk to about this.
Tina is right. If your councelor isn't any help to you, then talk to someone else. The principal is probably your best bet. Don't only discuss your credit and graduation issues, but your home situation as well. One tip I can give you is to always take care of yourself when it comes to school. I'm starting college this fall, and the best advice I ever received was to worry about my credits on my own, and not to count on an advisor or councelor to do it for me. You should do that too. Ask someone for the list of all the classes/credits you need to graduate. (i.e 4 sciences, 4 maths, etc) or the student handbook if your school has one. Then tell your councelor what classes you need and make sure you get in the class. If worse comes to worse and you are unable to get all of the credits you need, then take summer classes. You will still be on time for college, but instead of a summer vacation, you will be at summer school. :)
If you want to go to college, you can. Start at a local community college. Look at their website, and see when you can apply. They will usually accept anyone who is willing to try. After getting accepted, fill out a financial aid form. If you are living at your parent's house still, then you may not get that much depending on how much your parents make annually. If your parents do make you leave the house, then you are technically on your own. If that's the case, then most likely you will get enough financial aid to cover your tuition, books, and then some. I have friends who have up to 1500 dollars after the semester that they get to keep. If your financial aid doesn't cover the entire cost of college, then ask about scholarships and apply to as many as you can.
If your parents kick you out, then find a local public housing area. Some can actually be pretty nice. It's based on your income, and luckily you have a job. They will base your monthly pay on your income. If you can, find a roomate to split the cost of groceries, plumbing, electricity, etc.
Always remember that things can always be worse. I know you probably feel overwhelmed right now, but keep your priorities in line, hold your head up, and study as much as you possibly can.
Remember, stay motivated! Make something of yourself and be independent. You don't need someone to take care of you. You can do it on your own!
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So .. I'm 18 graduated this yeaar yada yada. I've had my period since sixth grade.
My cycle is so screwed up it's from like 30 - 45 days sometimes. My last period was 6/20 and I still haven't gotten it.
I'm not pregnant or anything, and I'm not taking birth control because I dont want to (I'm not having sex right now anyways)
Thats not my point -- I'm just wondering why my cycle is so long and always changes so drastically?
I dont have that much stress or anything either, so it's just confusing I guess.
Every girl's period is different. I had a friend who's period was so heavy, that she passed out from losing so much blood. I also have friends that can go years without a period and then all of a sudden have one. Others have periods two or three times a month.
What do all of these girls have in common? They are all on birth control pills and have a normal flow now.
You should consider birth control. It's not just for preventing pregnancy. Many virgins take the pill without any plans on having sex any time soon. It will regulate your period, and make your monthly visit much more bearable.
Hormones is the deciding factor with what kind of period you will have. When you are on the pill, it regulates your period to make it much lighter. You will probably have a 4-7 day period every month with a medium to light flow.
Just consider it. :)
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I just posted flyers all around town a few days ago, and I still have not received any calls or e-mails. Here's the flyer: http://www.flowersitters.com/promotional/%23Flyer.png
I added phone tabs to the bottom of all of them, too.
Yet I walked around to the stores and locations I put them in, and no one took any of the phone tabss. :/ It's been around 4 days so far, too.
I put one up at a grocery store, the Boys & Girls Club, a bread store, a candy store, a church, the golf course I work at that has lots of kids programs, etc. I asked for permission at all of the places, of course.
What's going on?
What's going on? An economic recession.
With children being as expensive as they are, parents are not wanting to look for babysitting services when they can just have family members watch them when needed.
Also, most parents already have babysitting services, so they probably aren't looking for a change. Maybe put the price on the flyer it it's really affordable. That may make parents take a second look.
Another thing, a lot of people don't look at flyers. Most look past them. How about you and your fellow babysitters go to some events and pass out the flyers yourself to people with children. :)
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This is for anyone who has the Sims 3
I got the Sims 3 the day after it came out
And I made a family with a girl child
No over the weeks, that child has grown into an elder with a husband, and family with her oldest son about to have a kid and get married
Now yesterday, she randomly froze
She is standing outside the front door, frozen
I have turned off the game and turned it back on
She is still frozen there
Noone can talk to her. All she does is slightly move her head
And I have no idea how to get her un-frozen
NO I will not uninstall and reinstal the game
So don't even mention it
I don't have the Sims 3, but I do have the Sims 2. That has happened to me before, and it is a glitch. I'm sure there are certain "refresh" codes you can download to make that glitch go away, but I wouldn't reccomend it because it will slow your computer down drastically most likely (or mess the game up even more). If you have any custom content downloaded, some of it may have conflicted, causing the glitch. Or maybe the game isn't compatible with your current PC or Mac. If you have used any kind of cheat codes, that could be the cause too. Regardless, the best thing I can tell you to do is to delete the family. I know it sucks, but sometimes that is all you can do :/
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Hello im 18/f and my bf is 21/m sorry this is kinda long but i rate high :) so i work with my boyfriend and we have been together for about 10 months and we really do love each other! But there are only a couple things i dont like at all that he does for example he smokes alot of weed. Like in the beginning of our relationship we talked about it and he said he'd cut down and he said he only did it once a week. Now after all this time of dating hes starting to admit that hes doing it more and more and i told him i was like i thought we had an agreement. And hes like well thats who i am and hes not going to change. I dont want to lose him but i really dont want to deal with all that. Like after i leave his house he'll tell me im going to go smoke now. It just makes me mad. And i know he really does love me and i dont want to make him mad by keep pushing him to stop. Thats one situation and the next is i trust him 100% and theres a girl we work with shes the same age as him and has her own apartment and such. I know he would never cheat on me i just always have the what ifs in my head. He's a big jokester at work and will trip people and just be goofy, especially with the girls but thats just how he is and tonight he told me he was going to her house with a couple of the people that he closed with and i know they're probably going to smoke weed. I just am worried he might do something when hes high. I hope not but i guess im paranoid. I mean she is pretty she has her own apartment and him and a couple guys are going over there tonight. Ughh i just dont know what to do about any of this. and i dont really want to talk to him about going to her house because he told me his friend just broke up with his girlfriend because he would go to other girls houses. Then my boyfriend casually brought that up to me that he hopes i never do that. I just dont know what to do. Somebody please help :( Thanks!
It's pretty messed up that he is going to another girl's apartment. If my boyfriend told me he was going to some other girl's house, I would tell him to find another girlfriend. That's no joke. He has a girlfriend, and when you are in a relationship there are certain things you just can't do. If he really wants to go, maybe ask if you can come with him. If he says no, then ask what he's going to do that he doesn't want you there for. In a relationship you have to hold your own. You can't roll over and play dead just because you want to avoid confrontation. There are just some things that aren't okay, and obviously you are worried about him going over there. Trust your gut. There is something not right about that.
As for the smoking weed, you can't make him stop. If that is something he wants to do, unfortuantely he's going to do it regardless of what you say. If you don't want to break up over his smoking pot, then don't. If that is a part of who he is, then you can't change it. You need to learn to either break up over it or hold your tongue. The best advice I can give you is to pick your battles. Smoking pot isn't worth fighting over, but him going to a girl's apartment to do it is.
Good luck!
EDIT: "WittyUsernameHere" and "Billywhoever" ragging on my advice doesn't make yours any better. Just because my opinion isn't the same as yours, doesn't make it bad advice, nor does it make me an idiot. Just throwing that out there :)
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my boyfriend broke up with me because he feels like i don't trust him cause i don't know how to like express what i'm thinking i guess ...i don't really know how to put what i'm thinking into words cause i only trust him and my dad so i don't really know how to open up =/ i do trust him so much though and i told him that...what are some ways i can prove it to him? or maybe something i can give him thats reallyy important to me...but then again would it be weird? cause technically we're not together anymore =/
Just tell him you do trust him. There is nothing else you can do. He will just have to believe you. Explain to him why you have a problem opening up, and just hope he understands.
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Okay, i know that my sheets have to be XL twin but does the comforter have to be as well?
And also, what are some great places and sites that you've all found youre college bedding. I've looked on most sites but nothing has caught my eye yet so i'm still looking and need help!
Go to target.com
They have amazing dorm sets.
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Im supposed to be going away to school this fall. I graduated in 2008 and stayed home for my first year and commuted to community college but Ive been accepted to a state university and am supposed to start. My main problem is I dont really want to go, I know that I will have a hard time finding good jobs and such if I don't. But I just really dont want to go. Do you think I should? Or should I stick around and try to find a job somewhere?
You should go to college. It's very important to get a college education, more now than ever with today's society being as bad as it is. But the decision is ultimately up to you.
If you were accepted into a university, then you should go. You've already went to community college, so why not finish your education? You may be able to find a job, but it's not going to be a good one. You will regret it about ten years from now when you can't pay your bills.
Go to college :)
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Does any one know what type of dance Selena Gomez and Drew Seeley do in the Disney movie Another Cinderella Story? If so, does anyone know a website or something that I can go to, to learn some of the dances? Thanks
It's salsa dancing, and I love watching them do it! You can go to youtube and search salsa dances and I am sure you will find some. :)
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My 5 year long relationship has come to an end, and now I'm scared that I won't be able to find anybody else that would want me.
I suppose the bigger problem is that I have a hard time trusting in people, and yet I need somebody to love me. I just don't know what I'm going to do.
How do I meet good guys and show them I'm interested (assuming I find a decent guy in the beginning)? I'm so lost and scared that this is the end for me and guys. Any advice on how to get over this bump in the road?
It's not going to be easy, and it's going to be a lot harder then most of the people that gave you advice made it out to be. Regardless of how in love someone thought they were, it's much easier to get over a two month long relationship then a five year long one.
I don't even know why I am giving you advice, because I don't know what I would do if my boyfriend and I broke up after our four year long relationship. But I can tell you that you will be okay. My best friend just ended her three year long relationship with her boyfriend after she discovered he had been unfaithful to her. I know she is heart broken, but she is keeping her head held high and standing her ground. She is giving her self time to be sad, and that's what you have to do.
Stay strong, but give yourself a few weeks to be sad. Cry and scream, and talk to someone you love and trust; maybe a friend or your mom? After you have had time to be sad, realize that not everyone is out to hurt you. Some guys are losers, but not all of them. :)
Before you throw yourself into another relationship, take some time to yourself. Hang out with your friends, and enjoy the benefits of being single. I had a friend once that was never single. Everytime she would get out of a serious relationship, a week later she was in another one. Don't do that. Take a little while to date around, and see what it's like to be with another guy before you get into another relationship.
One piece of advice I will leave you with is to never wear your heart on your sleeve. Every relationship requires trust to function, and I have full faith in my boyfriend. However all women should always be aware that not all guys are nice, and some truely are pigs. So never throw yourself one hundred percent into a relationship until you know the one you are with is trustworthy. :)
You will be okay. Break ups are hard, but they aren't they are not the end of the world.
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hello againnnn :)
okay so i've been having dreams about my ex...alot of them were sex dreams and we've been hanging out alot like good friends and i slipped telling him i had sex dreams about him so he made me tell him the whole story haha. but these past few nights i've been having nightmares about him dying and getting hurt...i wake up in the middle of the night and i want to call/text him because i can't figure out if it really happened because they always take place at night and i go to bed in my dream, so i wake up and don't know if it happened...i really want to call him to make sure he's okay but i feel bad for waking him up..but i think if i call him at night and talk to him about it they might go away....i just feel bad about waking him up (when we were dating he said he doesn't care if i wake him up but idk now since we're not =/) should i? i think it might help but i don't want to ruin anything and i still love him alot.
thank you
-shay
I could kind of guess you still loved him by the way you talked. Why did the two of you break up to begin with? That's pretty important in deciding whether or not you should call him or not.
Basically you have to remember that what you are experiencing is JUST A DREAM. Everyone has nightmares, so try not to think about it. I personally wouldn't call him. There is a reason the two of you broke up, so unless you are in the process of getting back together, I wouldn't get involved.
EDIT: Like I have told you again, I can't answer your questions if you ask them in my feedback. I noticed that you are the girl that asked me the question about taking your boyfriend on vacation. So I already knew the situatuion. I have already told you what I think. You broke up in APRIL! If he still isn't with you, then that's a problem. Just ask him back out. If he says yes, then that's great. If he says no (or has some crazy excuse as to how things are better like they are) then he is leading you on, and he doesn't want to be with you. That simple.
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im about 5'3 and weigh about 110.. im skinny but i have rolls when i sit and my stomach is almost flat but i got that fat band at the bottom how do i get rid of it?
Do cardio (running, jump rope, aerobics, etc.) to burn the fat rolls you have on your side and stomach. Cut back on unhealthy foods that are full of fat and grease. Start snacking on fruits and veggies instead. To tone up do pilates, yoga, sit-ups, and side obliques.
I have the same problem as you. I am about 5'5, and I weigh around 120 lbs. I am okay with my body, except I have love handles and a beer gut =\ If I had the discipline, I would do the above. But I am lazy.. haha.
Remember though, when you sit down or bend over, you are always going to have a little stomach hang over no matter how toned you are. :)
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