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How do I start dating again after a long relationship has ended?
My 5 year long relationship has come to an end, and now I'm scared that I won't be able to find anybody else that would want me.
I suppose the bigger problem is that I have a hard time trusting in people, and yet I need somebody to love me. I just don't know what I'm going to do.
How do I meet good guys and show them I'm interested (assuming I find a decent guy in the beginning)? I'm so lost and scared that this is the end for me and guys. Any advice on how to get over this bump in the road?
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It's not going to be easy, and it's going to be a lot harder then most of the people that gave you advice made it out to be. Regardless of how in love someone thought they were, it's much easier to get over a two month long relationship then a five year long one.
I don't even know why I am giving you advice, because I don't know what I would do if my boyfriend and I broke up after our four year long relationship. But I can tell you that you will be okay. My best friend just ended her three year long relationship with her boyfriend after she discovered he had been unfaithful to her. I know she is heart broken, but she is keeping her head held high and standing her ground. She is giving her self time to be sad, and that's what you have to do.
Stay strong, but give yourself a few weeks to be sad. Cry and scream, and talk to someone you love and trust; maybe a friend or your mom? After you have had time to be sad, realize that not everyone is out to hurt you. Some guys are losers, but not all of them. :)
Before you throw yourself into another relationship, take some time to yourself. Hang out with your friends, and enjoy the benefits of being single. I had a friend once that was never single. Everytime she would get out of a serious relationship, a week later she was in another one. Don't do that. Take a little while to date around, and see what it's like to be with another guy before you get into another relationship.
One piece of advice I will leave you with is to never wear your heart on your sleeve. Every relationship requires trust to function, and I have full faith in my boyfriend. However all women should always be aware that not all guys are nice, and some truely are pigs. So never throw yourself one hundred percent into a relationship until you know the one you are with is trustworthy. :)
You will be okay. Break ups are hard, but they aren't they are not the end of the world.
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I know, you don't want to hear this, but the relationship has ended. Now the only question is, are you up for getting over it?
There's not a secret recipe to get over someone, but if i've learned anything, don't think you can change his mind. I had a boyfriend for 2 months and he was my everything. My best friend in the entire world as well. When he broke up with me for my best friend, it was the toughest thing in the world to get over, but I did. I found someone new. It's not about finding someone, or in this case, looking for someone, it's about getting over your ex, you know? You can't just sit there and convince yourself that your ex will come back because no one knows that for sure, except him. Whatever you do, don't text him. Let him come to you, if he really misses you. It's gonna be hell trying to get over him, but once you finally do, you're gonna feel so much better, trust me.
The truth is for most of us, is that we're too much home, and not enough out there. Go to parties, hang out with friends, live your life. Five years is such a long time, if your guy really loved you, he will come back. You need to learn to rely on yourself, because when we lean on other people, eventually we fall and get hurt. That was my problem, hopefully it isn't yours.
Best of luck, xo
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Take your time in finding a new boyfriend, and don't worry you will meet that special someone one day, you just have to keep your eyes open for him and don't rush into a relationship, that could lead to a bad relationship. Good luck! :)
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First of all, take a break from guys, because maybe that will ease your mind.
As for getting back into the dating scene, just go with the flow; rushing into a relationship isn't the best idea. Be patient and the right guy will come.
Inbox me if you have more questions.
--Jack
(17/m)
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