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Emerency!! Stepfather and Dad
Well this is a tough one and I have no clue what to do, lost you could say. Im going to try and explain this to were it makes sense. Im 13 and turning 14 in a month. Curently I live with my jerk of a step father and mom. when i was little something happened with me and my dad. He went to jail. My mother lied saying my step dad is my real dad. I found out the truth a year or so ago and found my real dad a month or so ago now me and my dad have grown close. How do i get my SD to let me see my dad?
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it isn't your step-father's choice whether or not you can see your real dad. he has no say in the matter. since you're a minor though your mother does have a say and this matter might need to be taken to court. but you should definitely voice your opinion and hopefully you'll be able to work something out.
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Technically your step-father has no say on whether not you can have contact with your father. As he is your father and you do have the right to see him. However, concidering you are a minor if your mother didn't approve than she could have say on whether you see him or not. I would try and get more information on your dad by going to someone you trust like maybe your mother it sounds like there might be a reason behind it. Find out what that "Something" was that happened between you and your dad. If it is serious like Steph said below me I would rethink the relationship between you and your father. I'm sure there is a reason for it.
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Your step father cannot keep you from seeing your real father unless he is your legal guardian. If your biological dad and your mother don't have split custody however, your mom can. You are fourteen years old, so in my opinion you are old enough to decide if and when you want to see your dad. Try explaining that to your mom and step dad without sounding whiney or immature. Just tell them that you want to have a relationship with your father, and you don't feel it's right for them to attempt to keep you away from him. It's best to try to keep things peaceful. Technically there is legal action your real dad can take, but honestly that should be a complete and last resort. That will only cause more trouble to the already messed up situation.
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i also have step-dad / real dad issues
honestly, i cant tell you its really going to depend on what your dad did.
if he did something serious, like sexually molested you or something like that, then I can understand why they wouldnt want you to see him.
if it wasnt that severe, you need to be mature about it and talk to your mom and your step dad about it and tell them they cant deny you to see your real father (unless its court ordered)
if they still dont let you, you can do whatever you want when you turn 18.
hope this helps. =] email me if you need anything or want to talk about this more.
stephanie.ellick@gmail.com
steph 21
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