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I'm a 21 year old female and have just recently started to develop some insecurities about my breast size. I'm 5'2" and 95 pounds, and wear a 32A size bra. I am going to be sleeping with a recent love interest for the first time in a few days, and for some reason I am kind of nervous for him to see my boobs because they are so small. I know some people think small boobs are sexy but they're not just small, they're basically nonexistent.
What's weird is that I've never been very insecure about this before. I've been sexually active since I was 16 and have always embraced having small boobs. And this guy is totally cool and never puts me down about my looks or anything so idk why it's all of a sudden an issue for me. How I stop being so insecure about this?
You'll go through phases of insecurity and phases of confidence for awhile. I did. They could be triggered by most anything. It seems as though you're aware of the fact that what you're thinking/feeling is irrational and a little silly. That's a great sign. Unless you wear huge padded bras all the time and this guy is going to be surprised, you shouldn't have a care in the world about this. Unlike penis size, it's not a total surprise. You can look at a girl and it's a bit easier to tell. Maybe your guy is going through some insecurities of his own! Once you have your experience with him, you may feel a lot better. The excitement and anticipation of being with a new person is probably being filtered into insecurity about your boobs. Brains are funny things sometimes. As long as this isn't going to affect your behavior or decisions, continue to label it as ridiculous and put it to the back of your mind. Good luck!
(Rating: 5) You're so right. Thank you!