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Insecurities about breast size
I'm a 21 year old female and have just recently started to develop some insecurities about my breast size. I'm 5'2" and 95 pounds, and wear a 32A size bra. I am going to be sleeping with a recent love interest for the first time in a few days, and for some reason I am kind of nervous for him to see my boobs because they are so small. I know some people think small boobs are sexy but they're not just small, they're basically nonexistent.
What's weird is that I've never been very insecure about this before. I've been sexually active since I was 16 and have always embraced having small boobs. And this guy is totally cool and never puts me down about my looks or anything so idk why it's all of a sudden an issue for me. How I stop being so insecure about this?
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You'll go through phases of insecurity and phases of confidence for awhile. I did. They could be triggered by most anything. It seems as though you're aware of the fact that what you're thinking/feeling is irrational and a little silly. That's a great sign. Unless you wear huge padded bras all the time and this guy is going to be surprised, you shouldn't have a care in the world about this. Unlike penis size, it's not a total surprise. You can look at a girl and it's a bit easier to tell. Maybe your guy is going through some insecurities of his own! Once you have your experience with him, you may feel a lot better. The excitement and anticipation of being with a new person is probably being filtered into insecurity about your boobs. Brains are funny things sometimes. As long as this isn't going to affect your behavior or decisions, continue to label it as ridiculous and put it to the back of your mind. Good luck!
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I am just venturing a guess but subconsciously whether you realize or not, you may be feeling more serious about him than any other guy in the past so the want for him to be totally pleased with you is so much stronger. Many guys are happy with girls whose breasts are flat, malformed, one breast or nipple large than the other, really saggy, way huge, and everything in between. Why?
Because there are some men who realize that what the media pushes as beauty is all false and what they want is a real woman, not one surgically made up to look as media and society says she should. These are also the kind of men who are more likely to be falling for all of you, the you inside, not just what you are like on the outside. You have a better chance of attracting that kind of guy than the girl who is all made up or accidently born with all the attributes that media says is beautiful and sexy.
I once came across a wonderful site where girls like you can send in just a chest shot of themselves nude so there is a great comparison of what natural breast, nipples and areolas look like and there is such a wide variety. Each girl shares a bit if she has felt bad about herself and what her boyfriend or husband feels. I know they update the photos from time to time but I have seen some on this website I will give you where the gal is so flat I thought it was totally breast removal surgery cus of cancer.
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All I can say is focus on being yourself and knowing there are tons of women who have breast like yours and still a man proposed to them and are happily married and breast fed their kids.
Dont let size fool you. I know of two women with large breast who saw me nursing and told me they thought with large breast they'd have no problem either but no matter what they tried, couldn't produce much milk at all. If this guy ends up eventually saying something about not liking your breast size or asking you if you'd consider implants, dump him. A man like that is not happy with you as you are. Never change who you are to please the other person, either in your personality or looks. I did that with my first husband at your age. Nothing ever pleased him. things got way worse than that too but thats another story. Good luck dear.
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Confidence. You said you embraced this when you where younger, you can embrace it again :)
I'm the exact opposite. I have had a lot of insecurities about having big breasts especially for my age. Because I have a relatively small waist, they look even bigger! But only till recently I started to feel more comfortable.
You just need to love yourself who who you are and what you look like. You're beautiful :)
Plus you also said he would never put you down for your looks!
Have fun :)
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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