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I love my boyfriend a lot. I feel it in my heart, and I know it's true. But strangely I'm not in a constant state of love. I'm generally a cold person, and sometimes I feel nothing at all. I feel hollow like an empty shell. And when I feel like that I don't feel any love or anything at all for that matter. Do I love him? And should I reply with "I love you too" when he says he loves me and I don't feel love at that moment? I always know deep in my heart that my love for him is immense. I love him to death. I am so confused. Has anyone had such an experience? Is it normal? I don't know what to think and it irks me that I can't always love him. I want to.

Love doesn't have to be an intense feeling someone has at all times. If you love someone then you're willing to be with them and care for them. I think that you are really over thinking things. I mean, as I read your question I can see that you care about this person. Just because you go through sometimes not feeling anything doesn't mean you suddenly stop loving him. I don't think this is out of the ordinary. Love is a long term feeling. It can still be felt even if it's not in your face. I would tell him that you love him. And relax. It's totally ok. :)

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