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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well
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Hey guys. 19/f
Okay so the title is self explanatory. Tonight we were all out for one of my girl friends birthdays.
I have recently started college in September and made a bunch of new friends. One such friend is *Kevin who is gay and who I have become very close with.
Anyway we were all messing about and having a good time getting a bit tipsy etc. Then one of the girls and Kevin kissed joking around. We all said we would kiss him then just for fun because we know he is gay. I joined in not thinking anything of it at the time. The thing is I have a boyfriend!.. I know. I feel like an absolute skank. It was our three year anniversary last weekend and everything. I feel so horrible. All of my friends were trying to reassure me that because he is gay and because we are such good friends it doesn't mean anything and it's not a big deal. It would be like if I kissed one of them..etc. But for me it is a big deal. I've never kissed anyone else in the whole time i've been with my boyfriend. I feel like i've let myself down and him down. What do I do? Do I tell him about this? My friends say I shouldn't because Im causing him unnecessary hurt. I don't want to make excuses for myself or anything but I was having such a good time I completely lost my mind. That's NEVER happened to me. No matter how many guys have hit on me I've never entertained it. Am I over thinking this? Am I being too hard on myself? What would you do? Should I tell him or leave it be? I know he'd be very weird about it. Please help.
It's pretty simple; put yourself in his shoes, would you want him to tell you? I think the answer is yes; you really messed up and if your not honest with him your changing your relationship from something based on love and trust to secrets and lies.
If he takes it well I suggest you get rid of your bad habit, it will only cause problems for your relationship.
Gl
(Rating: 3) My "bad habit" Would you care to elaborate on that? I appreciate your advice but I have been with my boyfriend for three years. I have never once showed interest in any other guy. I have been entirely faithful and honest. The guy I kissed was a very good friend who happens to be gay. So how can this be considered a "bad habit" ?! Would you be telling me I had a "bad habit" If I kissed a girl friend on her birthday? No you wouldn't. I have a suggestion for you, perhaps in the future you should be a bit more subjective in your advice giving and less judgmental. I can handle the truth as much as the next person but your condescending attitude is not appreciated. Nor is your ridiculous assumption that I must have a "bad habit". A habit is defined as something someone does consistently and finds hard to break. Now I ask you WHERE in my question was it suggested that I kiss other guys consistently? no where. You don't know me so don't judge me to be a horrible cheating, conniving person. The first half of your advice was sound enough and I get what you're saying but seriously the bad habit remark was offensive and completely unnecessary. Thank you for taking the time all the same. By the way it's *you're