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Hello, 18 female, freshman in college. Since coming to college at the end of August, I've realized that I've made about 4 friends (not including the friends that have come to the same college that I've known in high school.) So, all in all, I have about 7 good friends. I'm quiet and shy so I'm not one to go and just talk to someone and just become best friends. But as I'm walking around or getting lunch to take back to my room because all of my friends are in class so I eat in my room and study, I see these girls walking around in groups of like, 20 people. That only makes me feel like I'm really weird that I don't have a lot of friends. I find that I'm usually in my dorm studying and not out at parties or doing crazy "normal" college kid things. Sure, I talk to the people in my building but we don't hang out or have dinner together. I just feel like my life is boring and maybe I'm looking for somebody to reassure me that it's better to have a little bit of friends than a whole bunch of fake ones. Just, I guess, do you have a lot of friends at school and how did you make so many new friends? Is it weird that I'm so introverted? Thanks.

You should join clubs and talk to people in your class. Even if it's just about assignments, you'll get to know each other and can start becoming friends. You could also go to the gym if there's one on campus. A lot of people go.

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