Alin75's advice column

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 4 months. It was going great we love eachother very much. He is an amazing guy and I am head over heals for him. BUT In the startI noticed he would only introduce me to his friends as his "friend" He said it was because he was scared to get hurt again (he said he got hurt in his last relationship) So it took him quite sometime to call me his girlfriend. He has always been very secretive with his cell phone. Told me I know pretty much everything about him that his cell is his last means of privacy. He tells me he loves me and wants to marry me. But he is a very selfish lover though :( even though its amazing! Anyway one day I was on my computer and he had left his Facebook on....well I did something I am NOT proud of I looked threw it and saw he had been PM over 50 girls since we started dating. Asking them if they are single and for their cell numbers and wanting to hook up. He also called a lot of the sexy, gorgeous, hot, doll. He was asked several times if he had a GF and he said NO!! Even though we are serious and live together pretty much since the start! I confronted him and he said that he doesnt know why he did it. And that it didnt go any further he never slept with any of them. So he deleted his Facebook and told me he will never do it again.....In the process of finding all this out I found he had multiple dating site active profiles! I also noticed him texting a few girls and found a picture of a girl on his cell. He said he didnt know how it got on his cell :( He keeps saying that I should leave him....that I deserve better than him. He gets so defensive when I try to talk to him and he just expects me to trust him like nothing happend! I love him so much but I just don't know if I should stay with him, am I just setting myself up for more heartache?? Any Advice??

Run away! Leave this guy and do not look back. There is no way in hell that you should trust him, and I would bet money that he will hurt you again. Heck I would bet money that he is cheating on you (or trying to) right now.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you for your response! Its very hard though to just leave. We are fighting a lot more latley and I know its because I caught him. Everything was great up until I confronted him. He says if I break up I have to leave which bothers me because he moved in with me! Everything that is in our house I bought he hasnt help out financially that much. He has only work for 6 months out of our relationship, I have been supporting us myself pretty much. We got into an arguement last night because I was trying to ask him something and he cut me off took it the wrong way because he wouldnt let me finish talking and got pissed off and starting saying how I complain about everything and that im never happy. Latley he snaps at me for no reason, and always says i should leave if im not happy. It almost feels like he is trying to make me leave. Also he has been very distant in our sex life latley. It used to be everyday now im lucky if its once a week. And I am always willing. I just feel like he can never admit to being wrong or doing wrong he gets so defensive all the time. :(

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