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Hey everyone!

I have been noticing something here on this website, and it's annoying me at an excessive level. How can people be like this?

I just saw a question about how there's a 24 year old woman who wanted to be with a 21 year old man, and the answers are all like "oh your age gap is not a problem"

But when there's a question about a 14 year old girl wanting to be with a 17 year old, the answers say "he's too old for you." -.- Really? It's the same thing! The age gap is the same size, yet people make such a big deal of it when the people are younger. >:(

Why does it have to be this way? Is there a specific reason why people don't think that an age difference matters at an older age, but when it happens with teenagers, people disapprove right away?

Can anyone PLEASE explain to me why? It just doesn't make sense to me. This angers me in ways I can't even understand.

Thank you to everyone who answers in advance, really.

Well the reason for this is that people change a lot more between the ages of 14 and 17 than they do between 21 and 24. At 17 one is almost an adult, while at 14 one is still very much a child. Basically a 17 year old will be at a very different point in his life (from all points of view: mental development, sexuality, career, independence, etc.).

Then there may also be some legal issues depending on where in the world you live.

Now, I am not saying that this necessarily applies for everyone, but this is why people answer the way they do and why its not just about the number of years between two people.

Just to illustrate using your kind of maths, would you consider it ok for a 55 year old to date a 47 year old? How about a 17 year old dating a 9 year old? Not quite the same is it?

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(Rating: 3) I don't understand your last paragraph...
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