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Many times people assume and accuse me of doing something when really it was someone else. They rant on and on how the clues add up to me. This happens several times to me and with different people. Am I an easy target? Why am I the guilty one? Why do people say they know I did it when I'm innocent? Saying I didn't do it doesn't change what they 'know'. I'm taken aback by these assumptions. Why do people punish another based on nothing but bad calculations? Why is it always me? How can I change that? (link)
You're being very cryptic with your question: you're not giving much detail away, so forgive me if my answer is too short/does not go into the issue in depth.

It could be that they see you as an easy target because you take the straight and narrow. They may see this behaviour as a sign of guilt, or they just want to blame someone and you seem like an easy option.

We assume, because as human beings, we always want answers. We do not like uncertainty. Assumption is the best way to pin it on someone, even if we do not know if it was that person.

The best option is to defend your corner. Stand up for yourself (without being aggressive or angry, just assertive) and explain that you did not do it. If that fails, it's best to just ignore it.


Hope I helped :)


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