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I have had a crush on the same guy all my life (and no, that is not a dramatic exaggeration) and now, he has a girlfriend. I am surprizingly not bothered by this, why? All I really care about is if he's happy. Does this mean I've given up?

*EDIT* In response to your feedback. Thank you for your rating and comment.I understand that,I appreciate how hard it is to get over someone. I have been there it took me a good 3years to get over a guy properly before. I wasnt trying to be passive or disrespectful by suggesting you move on. Its just hard given the circumstances. He has a girlfriend and i can understand how hard that can be to see him with her. But i firmly believe if its meant to be it will be. My current boyfriend liked me for a lot longer than i did him. He had to watch me be with countless people before i realised he was the one for me. So of course there is a chance you could still end up together. But im just saying try not to put your life on.hold for someone. Like i said if its meant to be itl be. Thats not to say you will never lose feelongs for him or truly get over him it just means youl get on with life. Thats my opinion and i hope i havent offended you. Hey there, it doesnt necessarily mean you have given up.It just means you care for him and care about his happiness. Sometimes we have to put our own feelings aside for the sake of others.I think the time has now come for you to move on. He has a girlfriend you are happy for him. Now its time to make your own happiness.keep busy and before you know it someone else will come along and take your interest. Its always hard moving on and it takes time but its mageable. Good luck and much

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(Rating: 5) That is easier said than done... That will take years and years! I don't know if I should tell you this but I literally have had a crush on him since I could talk. Then we moved away. During all that time I "got over" him, or so I thought. Then in 2007, we met again and when I found out I got excited, too excited. Then HE kissed ME, now, in 2012, we moved back and he still lives here, and once again, I thought I was over him. But I was wrong. Once again. Now do you think you could do something like that? Because i'm a very strong person and I can't even do it.

Thanks for the answer though. I really do appreciate it. If I sound mad, i'm sorry, but I'm really not angry.

EDIT* I wasn't angry at all. I understand. So many people have told me that. I'm not putting my life on hold at all but I am waiting. There's another guy that I really like at school and I really hope he likes me. So no, I'm not losing sleep over him. I know many people will disagree and say that I need to COMPLETELY forget about him, but I know that even when I'm married, I wouldn't have been able to forget about him. Thanks again so much for the advice. You made me look at it in a completely different way.
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