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I'm Jessie. I've been on here on and off for about 7 years. I'm 22 :) I am currently in my final year of college studying English and new media I'm from Ireland I dye my hair way too much. I've been blonde,brown,brown with blonde,black,red,and blonde again!I love helping people I found advicenators when I was just 15 and didn't understand the world! I feel I have matured with this site. The people on here are amazing and I love coming on here in my spare time to be there for people in need. I won't tell you what you want to hear because that's not advice it's just fooling yourself. I try to help in whatever way I can I try not to judge and try to relate to a situation if I can. :) If you don't like honesty then you won't like my advice.
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Long story short, I chose to stay at home the first year of college. At the end of the first year, my grandmother (who lived in town) got sick and I decided I couldn't leave because my family needed me. She died in October of my junior year and I really couldn't leave then. Now, I've gone after my masters and I'm finally done with school. I feel it's past time to move out of my parents' house, but now my granddad is sick and the doctors say his heart could go out at any time. I feel bad because I still want to move out. I need to be on my own for a while before I get married next summer and want badly to have that experience. My worry is that my dad won't want me to or that he'll feel bad that I stayed home for my mom when her mom died, but not for my dad when his dad died. What should I do?
Hey there,
I understand your predicament but it's time you start living for yourself.
Staying at home all those years was an extremely selfless thing to do. You could have been out making it on your own and having the college life experiences but you chose to stick by your family during a difficult time. The thing is though there are always going to be hard times.
Yes its nice to be with your family and support each other through them but you can still do that without living with them.
Have a talk to your dad. He should understand that this is a time in your life where you need your independence and it just happens to be falling around a tricky time. He is a grown man he is not going to begrudge you. It would be extremely childish and unfair of him to throw it back at you that you stayed for your moms mom. Circumstances were different at the time.
You can't continue to be held back. Because there is always going to be some reason or another that will stop you from going.
Your family should understand you can still visit and be there for your granddad.
Good luck and I hope this helps
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(Rating: 5) Thanks. I thought about what you said all day yesterday and I think you're right. If I don't go now, there could be an even bigger reason not to go later. Plus, it's like you said, I'll always be able to support them no matter where I live. Thanks for the wonderful advice.