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Should I Move Out of My Parent's House Now?
Long story short, I chose to stay at home the first year of college. At the end of the first year, my grandmother (who lived in town) got sick and I decided I couldn't leave because my family needed me. She died in October of my junior year and I really couldn't leave then. Now, I've gone after my masters and I'm finally done with school. I feel it's past time to move out of my parents' house, but now my granddad is sick and the doctors say his heart could go out at any time. I feel bad because I still want to move out. I need to be on my own for a while before I get married next summer and want badly to have that experience. My worry is that my dad won't want me to or that he'll feel bad that I stayed home for my mom when her mom died, but not for my dad when his dad died. What should I do?
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If I were you I would stay. Your dad's dad only has a few time left and your family will appreciate very much the time you spent with them. After everything and all the time spent you will have a happy heart and peaceful life to continue and enjoy with your boyfriend as you move out later and get married. God bless you and your family.
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Hey there,
I understand your predicament but it's time you start living for yourself.
Staying at home all those years was an extremely selfless thing to do. You could have been out making it on your own and having the college life experiences but you chose to stick by your family during a difficult time. The thing is though there are always going to be hard times.
Yes its nice to be with your family and support each other through them but you can still do that without living with them.
Have a talk to your dad. He should understand that this is a time in your life where you need your independence and it just happens to be falling around a tricky time. He is a grown man he is not going to begrudge you. It would be extremely childish and unfair of him to throw it back at you that you stayed for your moms mom. Circumstances were different at the time.
You can't continue to be held back. Because there is always going to be some reason or another that will stop you from going.
Your family should understand you can still visit and be there for your granddad.
Good luck and I hope this helps
Much <3
Jess 18/f
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