Member Since: June 7, 2012
Answers: 4
Last Update: June 9, 2012
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Hello Advicenators! It's been an extremely long time since I've been on this website, I'm so glad it's still running. You guys are awesome.
I came here because I was unsure who to talk to about this. Before I moved away to college, I babysat for this little girl, we'll call her Lauren, for a year. I would drive her to her dance classes and take her home, cook her dinner, and just hang around with her. Right before I was suppose to leave for college, something happened with her family. Her parents got a divorce, and then a couple weeks later, her father went to jail. The mother told me not to mention it to Lauren so it wouldn't upset her. The father got out on bail. And then, I went off to college.
I've been back on summer break (I'm 19 years old) and today was my first time babysitting for Lauren again. When I picked her up from school, I felt like I was going to break her in half when I hugged her. She looks extremely skinny. I could see her knee bones through her legs, and her arms were so tiny. I immediately became worried. This girl is 10 years old. Her parents are in the middle of a custody battle according to her mother, and Lauren told me that her cat just ran away a couple weeks ago. Lauren now lives with her mother and her two older brothers. She also is an avid dancer. She has been dancing since she was 4 years old and takes dance classes every day.
I'm nervous for Lauren because there are a lot of things in her life that could influence an eating disorder, such as how intense of a dancer she is, her pet running away, and what her parents are going through. I feel like I'm in a position that could help her because a) I have known her for such a long time and b) am also a dancer. I really want to help her but I am unsure of what to do.
Thank you for reading this long story. I would love some help from you advicenators!
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Just be there for her, make her feel appreciated so she can open up to you (in case she is holding something inside of her). Be a friend and a big sister to her, that you are there to listen to her. She may need somebody that would make her feel loved, understood and not judgmental of her, somebody that truly cares (and maybe right now she don't feel she's getting all of that from her family). You could be the family she can count on, or her hero...so just be there for her...she will love you and open up to you.
She may be confused at this time and she needs a hero and that could be you. Enjoy each others friendship.
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I don't honestly know what to do. This guy made me feel really special, and it wasn't just in a friend way, he would use the words beautiful, babe and much more. I really fell for him & when I told him... He stopped texting me, he would ignore my messages because obviously he would of read them. He still acknowledges me whenever I see him, like with a smile. But avoids the question whenever I tell him how I feel (I've told him more than once) but it seems like I'm not getting anywhere. The only thing I could think of was telling him in person, so from across the room I mimed “what's wrong? Don't ignore my messages. You need to tell me where I stand” he was saying he couldn't hear me, and kept repeating what? I kept frowning and then laughing, then he started laughing. (I'm a teen at school also) when I got out of the room, he was stood with his friends so I didn't say a thing. I don't really know what to do? I never have a chance to speak up front. Now that I'm no longer at that school, I will hardly see him. Can someone please tell me what could be the possibly reasons for why he's done this? What I need to do, to possibly solve it? Please, that would be a massive help. (link)
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I would give up on him...obviously he is not into you. Time to move on.
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Long story short, I chose to stay at home the first year of college. At the end of the first year, my grandmother (who lived in town) got sick and I decided I couldn't leave because my family needed me. She died in October of my junior year and I really couldn't leave then. Now, I've gone after my masters and I'm finally done with school. I feel it's past time to move out of my parents' house, but now my granddad is sick and the doctors say his heart could go out at any time. I feel bad because I still want to move out. I need to be on my own for a while before I get married next summer and want badly to have that experience. My worry is that my dad won't want me to or that he'll feel bad that I stayed home for my mom when her mom died, but not for my dad when his dad died. What should I do? (link)
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If I were you I would stay. Your dad's dad only has a few time left and your family will appreciate very much the time you spent with them. After everything and all the time spent you will have a happy heart and peaceful life to continue and enjoy with your boyfriend as you move out later and get married. God bless you and your family.
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I'm looking for some new websites/forums to go on. Which websites do you use regularly/spend a lot of time on? (Excluding obvious ones like Twitter, Facebook and email etc). (link)
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Go to www.stumbleupon.com, you just might stumble into a website that may spark your interests. Enjoy the site!
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