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Persuading parents to let me do kung fu
I'm a girl in high school. My schedule is light and I have all A's in my classes.
I really want to learn kung fu but my mom is completely against it; she hates Chinese culture. I happen to have some Chinese friends and am taking Chinese because it's the only language that fits in my schedule, but my mom thinks I will be too influenced by "unsophisticated" Chinese culture and kung fu is the tipping point.
For certain reasons, kung fu is the only martial art I can safely learn. My mom knows this and tells me to do something like track instead, but I love martial arts. My dad is ok with kung fu but he's scared of my mom. I could maybe learn it secretly by begging my dad to drive me but I would rather not do that. Do you have any suggestions on how I might approach my mom again on this subject? She can be very unreasonable sometimes.
Thank you!!
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You simply need to explain the health benefits of it. It's good for you, and would help you if you ever wanted to defend yourself. Explain it's not because you wish to become 'unsophisticated', but rather because of the reasons above.
Also, I don't want to offend you or your mother, but if she say's no, then she will probably stick to her guns on it. Sometimes, it's impossible to get through to closed minded bigots.
You should also explain that Chinese culture has existed for around 5000 years, compared to certain cultures (USA) in our part of the world which have histories of a few hundred. Luckily, I'm completely neutral on this issue, as I'm British! Huzah!
You could ask your father to drive you around, but it's really your fathers call on whether he wants to lie to your mother about it.
Good luck :)
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Hey girlie,
Try convincing your mom that you're not learning Kung Fu to learn more about the Chinese culture, but you mainly want to learn how to fight, but in a safe way. Explain to her you could care less about the background of Kung Fu. Even if you do care about it, and you do care about the Chinese culture, just lie. I wouldn't have your dad sneak you to practice either, going behind her back isn't the smartest thing to do. All in all, keep convincing her learning Kung Fu is for your safety, not to learn the Chinese culture. Besides, just because Kung Fu is Chinese, it doesn't necessarily mean it's part of their culture. Good luck!!
-JennHenn
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