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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well
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So for a few weeks now I've been talking to this guy over Facebook and we seemed to get along quite well. Just last weekend we met each other for the first time (he lives an hour away) and we cuddled A LOT. At first he just had his arm around me and i laid my head against him, then he grabbed my wrist and put my arm around his stomach, later on, we were holding hands and at first i didnt realize it but the back of my hand was over his crotch, which is weird to me, i've never cuddled/ kissed/ dated anyone. The next day we were im'ing each other, he told me he had wanted to kiss me. Later in the conversation i told him i had been wet and then he told me he had gotten an erection ( i did notice his hand covering his crotch a few times). I can't stop thinking about him (which is normal for me when i have a crush) but i also fantasize about having sex with him. And i don't know what to do. i really like him for his personality too, so my attraction to him isnt just sexual. He's done it before, i haven't, though he isn't the stereotypical guy who just wants sex, he is very intelligent. Im 15, he's 17. What do I do? I don't wanna hear about us being too young either, i already know that, but teens do it anyway.
It all depends on what you want out of the relationship. I suggest you slow it down on the physical part if you want your relationship with him to be a strong healthy loving one. It's really odd to me that youve never kissed someone but you already want to have sex. My point is your want something that you have 0 experience with what leads up to it?, its... A little crazy, even if you only wanted sex from him.
So slow down and you will enjoy the steps that you take, I can promise you that. Focus more on the getting to know him better part (in person, not over the computer), go out and do stuff together, and let the physical part fall into place. I understand we are human and every one of us wants to feel good in that way (sex) but the first time you hung out with him that was on your mind way too much. That is why I can say its cuz your young. When you get older and you have that kind of relationship with someone it's cuz you want a sex friend not a boyfriend. Gl
(Rating: 4) Thanks. And yeah I would love to hang out with him in person more, but it's a long distance relationship. I do want more of "strong healthy loving" relationship, but you know hormones.