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My girlfriend is addicted to vicaden and three weeks ago, I found out from my bank statement that she stole almost $900 dollars from my ATM card. I confronted her and she told me she wasn't going to tell me if i never found out. She is feeling guilty and very sorry. She has secret texts, phone calls and acts strange when I ask her what she did for the day. She is always yelling at me and picking fights, when she is wrong and I bring it up. I have always felt that she is hiding somthing but I could never figure it out. I try to meet her needs as much as I can, but I am a graduate student and I do the best I can but she is unsastified. I found out this week that she stole 65 dollars from me and told me she forget to bring it up and when I asked about it on Friday, she wanted to break up, the second time she wanted to break up over me giving her money or she taking it without my permission. I feel like I am her golden ticket and she is just hanging on for herself. She has kids and I get along with them. Our sex life is unsatisfactory and she always complain when she intiates it and i go for it. I feel that she loves me and I love her too, but I am confused on what to do. I tried working things out but its like she is always picking fights and acting like a "clutz", her way of calling the stolen money, the lies and disrespect. She says her mom put gas in the car when she used my car to do so. The trust is not there and everytime I am at work, I wonder what she be doing. Any help or advice would be helpful. I am 24 male and my girl is 30 female.
There is no relationship without trust and, from what you describe, you are being treated with zero trust or respect. The best course of action almost certainly is to get out.
That being said, you could also try an ultimatum. She gets help or you walk... but in all honesty I do not believe that will work.
If you do decide to try to work it out, you have to act firmly, clearly drawing a line and setting some standards for the way you will allow people to treat you. And dont let her drag you into any argument that tangents outside the core issue of trust and respect. Stay calm and stick to your guns.
However, as I said before, I am nearly 100% certain that the best advice is what Matt said below.
(Rating: 5) Thanks, was thinking the same and I know giving a ultmatum wont work because she is to far in her addiction. God Bless