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I'll be straight forward with this: can you be friends with an ex? How could you get back to that point? and Is it ever a good idea? I'm talking about after a break up with no big fights, you just weren't right for eachother dating-wise.
In my personal experience, being friends with an ex is often more trouble than it's worth.
My first boyfriend broke up with me and I was completely heartbroken. I was only 16 and it felt like the worst thing ever. He wanted to be friends but it was way too hard for me. For me, it felt like a mockery of our relationship because it was like I wasn't good enough to be his girlfriend but he didn't want to feel bad by cutting me out completely. It's been three years since we broke up and it's only recently that I've reached a point where I can see him, say hi and have a civil conversation with him without getting upset.
With my second boyfriend, it was the other way round. He was absolutely furious with me and from the day we broke up we didn't utter a single a word to each other for over a year. We occasionally talk on Facebook and are civil if we ever bump into each other but we are far from friends.
If it was a mutual break up with no animosity then it's probably easier but even so, I think it's best to give each other some space before embarking on a friendship. If you do become friends, you must make 100% sure that you are both completely over the relationship and that neither of you have ulterior motives of getting back together. A good bench mark is to ask yourself 'if he decided to tell me about a new girl he was seeing, would I be fine with that?' If the answer's no then a friendship probably isn't the best idea.
Remember that you don't have to be friends with your ex in order to be friendly. You can be civil, say hello and have a quick chat if you ever see each other but you don't have to be his best friend.
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Thanks! You made some very clear points :)
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