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Hello! I am studying esthetics at an Aveda Institute after spending years in retail. I am proof that nothing turns out how you think it will, and that's a good thing. When you think you've got it figured out, you don't. Life would be boring otherwise, right?Makeup, skincare, and psychology are my passions and I'm also happy to give advice on relationships, particularly for teenagers (so many things I wish I could have told myself a decade ago!) I'm happy to help fellow abuse survivors as well.
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18/f. My boyfriend and I are starting to think about sex. We have been dating 7 months and are in love. This is a question about preventing pregnancies, so please don't lecture me on "saving my virginity" because I already had sex once and it's what I want. I do realize the consequences. Getting pregnant and STI's. But my boyfriend and I have agreed that we are going to be safe and careful.
Here's my question
Ive never had birth control before. The first time we had sex we used a spermicidal condom and a few days after that I saw an article about teen pregnancies in a magazine and in a tv show. I started to freak out and get really scared but he didn't cum in me and also he wasn't deep. Only like 2 inches. Do you think its possible for me to get pregnant if he did that?
Anyways, after my freak out we had a talk and decided I should get birth control. But heres the catch, my parents can't find out. And also I have no idea where to get any. Do I have to take exams in order to get some birth control?
Last question. Do you think it's safe to have sex without the pill? Like if we used a spermicidal condom and Super careful. We know the proper way to use it and how to check for leaks and tears. Like do you think if I didn't get the pill, would the condom still prevent 98% of pregnancies?
Also my boyfriend mentioned the morning after pill (plan b I think?) how effective is that? If I didn't get the pill and just used condom and then morning after pill if there was a leak, would that be ok?
1 more question- could I get pregnant if we used a condom but the condom doesn't break, is there a chance of pregnancy?
Oh and I prefer not to use any other female protection method. I don't want to use a cup or anything.
Amy more advice or tips? Thanks!!
Your best source for birth control is Planned Parenthood- they keep it confidential and you don't have to have a physical 'down there' exam haha.
The thing about condoms is that the 98% statistic is in an ideal world, under perfect factory test conditions. The actual percentage for human usage is pretty different. And the morning after pill is definitely a terrible idea- I mean, of course, once is ok if you have to, but take it from someone who took it many times in one year- it really screws with your body and is not good to have a lot. And the more you take it, the less effective it gets.
Basically, if you are going to have sex, there is always a chance of pregnancy, no matter what method you use. However, birth control pills are definitely your best, easiest, safest option. Planned Parenthood is really great, they will explain everything to you, keep it private, and not charge a ton.
(Rating: 5) ah thank you so much! i went to planned parenthood and i got the pill :) thank you!