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Well, we are both in high school and we recently started dating. We both like each other as much as we both can. Almost love. He recently told me he wasn't a virgin. And that kind of really bothered me. We are talking it out and I think I just need some time to get used to it. Naturally, I am a little bit insecure. But this just didn't settle well in my stomach. I guess I assumed he was a virgin because he's really sweet. And I should not have assumed this in the first place. But the girl he had sex with he says it wasn't good and short-lived. It was a few years ago and she told him he was her second which was a lie and he was actually her fourth. That concerns me because of STD's. Well, I'm not sure why I am reacting so badly to this usually I am pretty chill maybe it was the sudden shock of it that I wasn't expecting. I'm pretty tough to break and this just broke me. I never thought that it would matter. And it's actually really weird why this is upsetting me. We are talking about it and he feels really bad and I accept his apologies because I do like him so much still. And I will get over it. I just want to know is it normal how I am feeling? Or am I just being a p*ssy? Thanks, please be easy on me.

Forget abstinence that isn't any part of my question and not what I want to hear. I guess I'm just sad that we can't do this together. And that he won't think of it as special as I do.

That's normal. He had sex and you didn't so you feel like things are uneven and it might not feel right. If you love him, you'll get past it but don't ever have sex until you are ready, regardless of your feelings for him.

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(Rating: 5) Short and simple! Thanks.

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