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about
Hello! I am studying esthetics at an Aveda Institute after spending years in retail. I am proof that nothing turns out how you think it will, and that's a good thing. When you think you've got it figured out, you don't. Life would be boring otherwise, right?Makeup, skincare, and psychology are my passions and I'm also happy to give advice on relationships, particularly for teenagers (so many things I wish I could have told myself a decade ago!) I'm happy to help fellow abuse survivors as well.
I'm a diehard SF Giants fan and also enjoy watching the Sharks and Niners. Addicted to music, especially The Gaslight Anthem. Oh, and my name is Krista. :)
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I'm a male 22 I've been using dating websites for almost a year now with no success I've emailed hundreds of people and never get a single reply. My profile's are normally simple, honest and to the point. I'm wondering what I can do to better improve my chances of at-least getting reply's. what would help me the most is an idea of what women look for in a guys profile or emails before they decide weather that person is worth giving a chance or not.
As someone who used to be on a dating site...when I had an account, I would get literally 20-30 messages per day (and keep in mind I'm not super attractive or anything lol). Some days I just wouldn't feel like looking at any of em...on others I would look at the guys profile, and if he wasn't the right age, didn't live near me, or we didn't have much in common, I wouldn't bother. I got very, very picky. I hated messages like "Hey", "Hey how's it going" or "What's up".
The one message I did answer? From a guy in my town who sent me an actual, interesting message- first he introduced himself, then started conversation by asking questions about some things in my profile and, in some cases, relating them to him. (I.e. things we both liked.) His profile was interesting and funny...It wasn't the same old crap, and so I did end up actually going on a date with him.
The lesson I learned and why I left the site(s)...there is a reason that people are just dating online. I found that most of the guys were the kind that couldn't get a girl in real life- either they were super creepy or insanely clingy or some other problem. It might sound harsh, but it's true, and I'm sure the same thing goes for girls on there. You're not getting the best. I know it can be very hard to meet someone in "real life", and intimidating to approach a girl...but I promise you'll see much better results and it's so worth it. :)
Hope that helped.
-Krista, 20/f
(Rating: 5) Thank you such, reading this has actually made me aware of my state of self doubt I have been in as of late. Its as if you were able to see right through my question and tell me what I truly needed to hear.