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So yesterday was me and my boyfriend's one year anniversary. I had a feeling he wasn't really gonna do anything, so I specifically asked him to plan something nice for us to do. But of course, he didn't. I went to his place and he was like sorry, I didn't plan anything. Wanna go see a movie? and I just went along with it..because I knew it would happen. I also put a lot of thought into the gift I got him (which he loved), baked him some peanut butter bars, and wrote him a really sweet letter. He got me a box of chocolate and was like "I was gonna get you Monopoly, but I didn't know if you alrready had it" (we play online together sometimes and its like an inside joke).

Anyway, point is that I was beyond disappointed and sad. I didnt say anything because whenever I say things about him like doing something wrong, he shuts down and says "I'm sorry I'm a terrible boyfriend" but like, not in an actual apologetic way. So how can I express that I'm sad without him shutting down like that? i just want him to try sometimes. How do I get him to try? I mean I asked him to plan something, I don't know how to be more blunt. Shouldn't he just want to/know to plan something for our one year anniversary? It's not the first time he's done something like this. He didn't get me anything for christmas last year (and i got him cute stuff) and i was sad. He never plans/does anything romantic. Please help!

Remind me what's stopping you from planning something?

Oh yea, nothing.

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(Rating: 1) Remind me why you would bother to waste your time on a site like this if you aren't trying to help people?
Your mocking is pathetic. Granted, some people sound a bit ridiculous, but it's not like you are so high and mighty that you never went through an awkward teenage phase. Why don't you find a more productive use of your time.

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