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Okay hey Matt... Well you answered a previous question I had and I just wanted to follow up. It's me the fourteen year old girl that got dumped by her sixteen year old douche bag boyfriend who guilted me into giving him a bj and then broke up with me four days later? yeahhh... just refreshing your memeory.

Thing is weve still been kind of talking... Cuz as stupid as I know it is and as much as I don't want to I STILL like him... I promise, I don't want to like him but I honestly just can't help it... I still think about him everyday and I cry myself to sleep unless I sleep with the teddy bear he gave me and I just feel like we could have made our relationship work if we had tried a little harder. He doesn't want me back... at all... and as horrible as this sounds I just want him to be upset! I feel like a pair of socks he just threw off without a second thought. He's already starting to put new socks on... lame metaphor I know... But I really do still like him and I don't know why!! How can I like someone who treated me like shit and has hurt me this bad?? Why am I so cut up about someone who doesn't even care about me?? It's just so confusing because one day he'll say things liek "I handled all of this wrong. I wish we would have had more time to think about it. I'm sorry I hurt you, I feel bad. I did enjoy seeing you today :)" (we saw eachother at a party) and then the next day he'll say things like "shut the fuck up katie, stop talking to me, this is why I find you annoying. I don't like you, it's over." Even when he is being sweet we both know gettnig back together is not going to happen. He wants to be friends... but I don't think I can do that. All I want right now is to stop liking him because I know I shouldn't but I don't know what to do...

You shooouuulldddd fill his role in your life with other, non-douchey things. You've already answered your question. You don't want to be friends, he's too big of a fuck to get back in a relationship with, and he's a flip-flopping asshole.

And yet you still like him. I'm not going to question that, and there's nothing necessarily wrong with that. What would be wrong is trying to make something work that CLEARLY has not, will not, and most of all, can not. So toss the teddy bear, hang out with your friends more often, and just generally fill that void. Stop talking to him.

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(Rating: 5) thank you :) again... hahah

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