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about
I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
advice
Last night I came downstairs really late and saw my dad on the computer. I was walking through the house to go to the kitchen for a drink and saw that he was on some sort of video-chat with another woman. She had her top off though and my dad was typing to her.
Today I sort-of tried to see if my dad would tell me anything about what was going on last night. I said to him, "You were up pretty late last night. Was everything OK?" He said he was up getting some paperwork done for work. I couldn't really do any more confrontation about it but he didn't seem nervous at all.
Over the past month I've noticed my dad coming home late from work and taking private calls in my parents' bedroom sometimes. My mom doesn't seem to think anything is strange but I'm wondering if he is cheating on my mom.
Should I talk to my dad about this and tell him I saw him chatting with a half-naked woman? Should I tell my mom about what I saw? Should I stay out of it completely? I don't want my parents to break up or get a divorce so I want this to be handled properly but I don't know if I should bring it out in the open first. Advice?
**EDIT 2**
So, I don't see why you bothered wasting my time by even asking this question here.
You already had your mind made up, and only wanted people to tell you what you want to hear, and you've made that obvious.
Go on and do what you think is right.
I certainly hope you are right that your mother won't be destroyed hearing this from her kid of all people.
But you know what's best, right? I hope so, because I'm moving on to help someone who actually does want help with their problems.
Best of luck to you!
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Should you tell your mom?
No. That is not your place.
I'd say to stay out of it, except for you saw something that bothers you. If you think it would make you feel better to discuss it with him, then do so. You should realize that when you get involved in such things, you may find out more than you want to know.
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**EDIT**
I still must stand in total disagreement with the other columnists.
It is NOT your place to tell your mother. It IS your FATHER'S place to tell her.
Why would you put the balance of their relationship onto your shoulders, where it DOES NOT BELONG?
As a mother, I would not want to hear something like this from one of my sons. In fact, it would hurt more and outright piss me off more.
Everyone else seems sure that you should tell her, even go so far as to say your mother would resent you, and that it's horrible if you didn't.
That is NOT true.
Just talk to your dad. It's not your responsibility to crush your mother with the truth, because that is the reality of it: The truth will crush her. That is HIS responsibility to tell her the truth.
NOT YOUR PLACE TO DO THAT.
PERIOD.
No good mother would want you to, either.
(Rating: 2) I just can't agree with this at all and I think you're being COMPLETELY irrational. I understand what you're saying but I think it IS my place because I saw something and I love both of my parents equally. If they are having problems then I need them BOTH to know that so that they can have the chance to work it out, especially before something gets too serious. Maybe Mom already knows or maybe she needs me to let her know so that her and Dad can work through this. I care about my family. A good mother would want her child to come to her with information like this, I think, because the child wants the best for the family.
Thank you for the response but I just don't think it was good advice at all. You can't even type it out without becoming incredibly upset. I'm sorry if something like this happened in your life but not telling my mother about this will destroy my family. In essence, your advice is extremely harmful to the health of my family if I want it to survive.
Rating changed by L2 mod.