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Due to assholes on the site and people who have no idea what the hell they are talking about I have left the site. Ahem, Dangernerd...Who likes to make assumptions about people when they do not know them ;) Then has brass balls to go search up whatever information he can gather so he has back fire to use whenever he feels like starting a little hissy fit. Let me remind those who read this, Dangernerd has a nasty tendency of using what you post on the site against you if you where to ever have a problem with someone on the site. Mind you, He likes to gather false information in a way that he thinks will benefit him in the long run.

This site is run by someone who doesn't have class, Who likes to pigeon hole people. The same guy who supposedly is running an "ADVICE" column but somehow has pre-teens asking about sex and how to do sexual things to their "partners" this site is also filled with people giving advice that is NOT helpful or use full in any form rather than most encouraging the young ones. Well lets get to the bottom of it, This site is a laughing matter. Dangernerd is a joke and couldn't be a bigger clown ;)





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18/m

Im in college. Me and my girlfriend were long-distance. we saw each other over summer but waited six months until we visited again last week. during that six month waiting period I gradually went from being in love with her to to not really enjoying talking to her for too long. I thought that when we saw each other again in December that things would be better but they were not. Im not sure If I was just over-worrying or if I genuinely didn't enjoy my time with her because there were times when we had a lot of fun, we were laughing and joking and getting along. but other times, I couldn't enjoy myself because I was too worried about how much I would miss her when we parted.

Because things didn't get much better, I decided that maybe it would be best if we went our separate ways. I had already decided that if things weren't better when we were together again that I would break up with her. We were best friends is the thing and we're still on good terms with each other so its not like I can't talk to her, but I just think I need a buffer. She has completely respected my personal space since I told her I needed it, so its she's not the problem. I'm just having a hard time dealing with not talking to her. Im not sure if I really miss her or if I really miss not having someone there but Its one of those two. I don't feel like I could get back together with her because I think things would still be all crappy. I just don't know what to do. Is it a bad Idea just to call her to talk for a few minutes? We are still friends. She would like it if I called Im sure.

If someone maybe has a good way of dealing with this loneliness or something because I really don't want this to affect my studies.


Thanks



Long distant relationships are hard. I think what happened here is in time you simply fell out of love. Not seeing each other for a good 6 months is really no different than a temporary breakup. Time goes on and people grow apart. I know right now you feel you are grieving but how much of that is you feeling that you need to fill a void in your life? The truth is right now might not exactly be the best time for you two to talk only because if you two come in contact with each other whether it is in person or by phone you in the end only prolong the pain. You make it harder to move on for not only her but yourself as well. Sure, You two can talk and stay friends but I think for your sake and happiness you should take a break for awhile. The best thing to do right now is spend time with friends and family if you can. Get out do things you enjoy doing keeping your mind busy will also help. If you feel the relationship isn't going to work out then there must be a reason for it.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks for the help, you made a lot of sense. I think I'm just gonna take this break and not worry about it for a while.
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