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Due to assholes on the site and people who have no idea what the hell they are talking about I have left the site. Ahem, Dangernerd...Who likes to make assumptions about people when they do not know them ;) Then has brass balls to go search up whatever information he can gather so he has back fire to use whenever he feels like starting a little hissy fit. Let me remind those who read this, Dangernerd has a nasty tendency of using what you post on the site against you if you where to ever have a problem with someone on the site. Mind you, He likes to gather false information in a way that he thinks will benefit him in the long run. This site is run by someone who doesn't have class, Who likes to pigeon hole people. The same guy who supposedly is running an "ADVICE" column but somehow has pre-teens asking about sex and how to do sexual things to their "partners" this site is also filled with people giving advice that is NOT helpful or use full in any form rather than most encouraging the young ones. Well lets get to the bottom of it, This site is a laughing matter. Dangernerd is a joke and couldn't be a bigger clown ;)
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Hi, I'm a 22 year old girl.
I just broke up with my emotionally abusive (now ex) boyfriend of about four years...over four years? Literally, about an hour ago. Right now, I'm feeling pretty free and good about it, but I know it's been an addictive relationship, and I'm worried that I'll second-guess myself and talk to him if he tries to contact me, and wind up stuck again.
I got my key back to my car and apartment, so he can't get in. I don't think he has any malicious intent...but I also don't think he believes that I'm serious about the breakup.
So...
When it sets in for both of us, I'm pretty sure we'll both be really upset, and I know I'll miss him and want him back at some point.
You guys have any suggestions to avoid that?
I appreciate any ideas you can give me. =)
It is good that you got out of the relationship if it isn't healthy. What should you do? REPORT HIM, CALL THE COPS. If you don't say anything you are only telling him it's okay and you only put more woman at risk.
1, The first thing you need to realize is that you come first, This about you and your safety. This is NOT about him. You need to stay away from him. Don't buy into his guilt story when he says he is sorry, He loves you and all that other crap.
2, People who abuse their spouse are NOT in love, The more you feed into it the more he is going to know that he can get away with it. Love is NOT when you hurt your partner, Call them names, Make them fear for their safety.
3, You need to stay away from him, Cut contact, Stop calling, Cut complete contact. Now only will this help you too move on but he will eventually see that you are serious. Do NOT go back to him
4, Sometimes it helps to think of all the bad things that were done too you, How he made you feel, Things he has said you too, How he acted, and use that too move forward. If this guy has hit you, called you names, threatened you or even made you fear for your safety than this guy is no good for nothing but too sit in a jail cell where he belongs.
You are better than this, You do not deserve someone who is a worthless piece of crap. Sorry for my language but it really angers me too see guys treat woman so badly. You need to stand your ground, Don't give into him. You have a life to live and you are young. Occupy yourself with things you love to do, Spend time with friends and family and if it helps seek some therapy. Do NOT let him back into your apartment and if he continues to show up that is when you call the police and get a restraining order against him. You are too good to be abuse by a worthless man who doesn't respect your feelings.
(Rating: 5) Your language isn't offensive at all. I appreciate someone who feels so passionately about something like this - so many people brush it off as something that happens all the time, y'know? No, he never hit me. It was much subtler, emotional damage, and more painful. If he had hit me, the line would've been drawn a long time ago. Thanks for your advice. I'm hoping he won't force me to take legal action.