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My sister is 18 years old. I'm 22 years old and recently moved back with my family after college.

She is ruining our lives. We live in a small apartment (It's me, her, my mom, and my brother). Everyday she creates a mess. There are clothes everywhere. She saves trash for some odd reason, which has caused a rat to come inside. I went into our closet and found rat poo everywhere because she had saved old food in there. She was supposed to go to college, but she lied about getting a scholarship there. They wanted us to pay $5,000, which we couldn't afford because we didn't know. We really want her to leave. I'm doubtful she will go to college. She steals stuff from me and my mother. I have things my friends gave me that she destroyed. She totally destroyed an expensive Chanel bag someone gave her. My grandmother passed away and left us a blanket she made, she destroyed that.

The biggest problem is she doesn't realize what she is doing wrong. She thinks she is doing nothing wrong. She gets mad and me and my mother, if we throw her trash away. She really makes everyone in out home mad. She constantly starts fights. We are perfectly happy when she is not home.

We don't know what to do. She won't leave, we can't force her to live on the street. People think she's nice, but they don't realize how much she has ruined our life.

Hey there,
Ok firstly I understand where your coming from and that situation would most likey irrate the hell out of me too but have you and your mom and the rest of your family stopped to see it from her side?

have you ever sat down and had a one to one talk about it with her?ask her why shes doing stuff like that how shes feeling how it makes you huys feel. Because to me it sounds like a cry for help on her part that somethings bothering her and its most likey a cry for attention also.

kicking her out is only going to make the situation 100times worse she is your family after all whether you like or not you have to stick by and support each other and work through the problems.

tell her the behaviour has to stop that its really upsetting you guys then maybe she will start to see what shes doing and open up more..you say she doesnt even realise it sometimes i honestly dont think this is intentional from what youve said.

Im sorry if this isnt exactly the answer you were looking for but I think you guys need to really have an open and honest discussion about this,if you have already and things are still going on like this well then I would give her a warning if she doesnt shape up and pull her weight & stop messing things up then shes gonna have to find somewhere else.

I hope I helped in the slightest,
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(Rating: 4) I was thinking about your answer and we are going to have another talk with her about her problem. At this point she needs to seek psychiatric help. We've had talks before, but nothing really works. She has a problem and unfortunately there isn't much we can do for her.
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